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To be shocked that 97% of 12 years olds have smart phones?

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Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:15

My DCs school does not allow smartphones and most of the schools around here are the same. The kids all have Nokias (and often an AirTag or similar for tracking).

I can’t believe it’s 97%! Am I totally out of touch? She’s never even asked for a phone.

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2024/sep/23/children-who-dont-have-smartphones

Only 3% of UK 12-year-olds don’t have a smartphone. Here is how four of them feel about it | Smartphones | The Guardian

There has been a huge wave of parental concern about smartphones this year. So do kids without them feel deprived – or more alive?

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2024/sep/23/children-who-dont-have-smartphones

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LongLiveTheLego · 27/09/2024 20:18

Gettingannoyednow · 27/09/2024 18:24

I'm not letting my son go 40 mins on a bus without having some way of getting hold of me so yes you are being ridiculously unreasonable.

I'm sure this is a significant social change - these days I think you're in the majority. But back in the mid-90s I was allowed, at age 12, to take a 40 minute bus ride to go shopping in town on my own, obviously without a phone. And my mum was widely considered to be ridiculously strict. I don't know what approach I'll take when my own dc is age 12, as I work with young people and from what I can see, the risks of having a phone are at least as great as the risks of not having a phone.

And there was a pay phone in every corner so completely different situation.

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 20:16

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:15

TBF though as I work in this area, privacy is as important to me as what she or my son are accessing via phones. My son is nearly an adult and he doesn't away listen to me but tbf he doesn't have finger print access to his phone.

Yeah I agree it’s not ideal but I don’t think there is an option other than packed lunch which I just don’t have the capacity to do.

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Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:15

TBF though as I work in this area, privacy is as important to me as what she or my son are accessing via phones. My son is nearly an adult and he doesn't away listen to me but tbf he doesn't have finger print access to his phone.

PurpleThistle7 · 27/09/2024 20:15

What a funny rule.

My daughter was the last of her friends to get a smart phone in p6. Most had phones from around 9. I live in a city and it's a decent walk to the school so I got my daughter a phone when she started walking herself as there are no pay phones. It's been brilliant for us and has helped her manage her anxiety and keep in touch with extended family (we are immigrants).

I'll likely get my son a phone next year when he's 9 as I'm hoping he will walk himself to school then. Some of his friends already have them but mostly it's still watches for his age and then the phones show up next year.

Every single kid I've seen at my house or walking around has a smart phone so I'd think it's almost 100% for our school - the few kids who don't I'd guess it's for financial reasons.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:13

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:11

Once physical identifiers are stolen they are out there and that is it you can't replace them, you can't replace your finger print.

This is why I asked for a pin and my DD is probably the only one in her year with a canteen card as we didn't consent to the finger print.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:11

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 20:01

Of course I would mind but the benefit outweighs this risk in this scenario. I would prefer her to be able to use the canteen and the chance of a data breach is pretty small. Who would target some kids finger prints?

Once physical identifiers are stolen they are out there and that is it you can't replace them, you can't replace your finger print.

ThinWomansBrain · 27/09/2024 20:10

Yet according to the house of commons Library, 17% of children live in poverty. (22/23)

3WildOnes · 27/09/2024 20:10

I'm not surprised. Mine had a Nokia until secondary school. I don't think I know of any of their secondary aged friends who don't have smart phones. It's not actually that smary as I have blocked access to social media apps like snap chat and tick tok and they have limited use.

Missingpate · 27/09/2024 20:07

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:03

But he online chatting with friends and playing online, does he also use the WWW hardly deprivation. I think it is a good idea but there has been a big campaign and push for this, it wasn't like that 6 years ago when my eldest was that age. Common sense prevailed though so all was well.

Agreed, we don’t want him deprived of social time or gaming (though it’s easier to limit in this format) and he certainly gets time online. We just don’t see the benefit of smart phones and apps like WhatsApp or Snapchat etc. specifically for that age. He simply doesn’t need one.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:03

Missingpate · 27/09/2024 20:00

Well we are very unusual by the sounds of it. DS 12 has an old style phone and forgets to take it with him most days, he doesn’t care in the slightest. He cycles to school, it takes 10
minutes, we only pressure him to take it on bad weather days as we will pick him up if it’s pouring. We don’t want a smart phone for as long as we can leave it, WhatsApp groups for kids sound awful to us. We are open to letting him have one when it starts to really matter. Hopefully not for some time yet. Thankfully he isn’t bothered at all. He plays online games with his friends, arranges to meet them on Google chat on his Chromebook, does homework and uses school apps on the Chromebook, and doesn’t miss a phone at all. His best friend also has a brick phone and doesn’t want a smart phone either. His parents feel the same as us and want to leave it as long as possible. No religious school, just a massive ordinary comprehensive. Other kids do all seem to have them, and no we don’t care.

But he online chatting with friends and playing online, does he also use the WWW hardly deprivation. I think it is a good idea but there has been a big campaign and push for this, it wasn't like that 6 years ago when my eldest was that age. Common sense prevailed though so all was well.

Lindy2 · 27/09/2024 20:02

It's normal for Secondary School age children to have phones. That's the age mine first got there's. For the first time they were going to be travelling several miles away to High School.

The school has a no phone policy. They put their phones in their bags while at school. That's pretty straightforward. They have the phones if they need to contact me after school.

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 20:01

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:00

So you wouldn't mind if you or your child's finger print along with other identifying data was breached?

Of course I would mind but the benefit outweighs this risk in this scenario. I would prefer her to be able to use the canteen and the chance of a data breach is pretty small. Who would target some kids finger prints?

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DeccaM · 27/09/2024 20:01

noworklifebalance · 27/09/2024 19:53

My DCs have had our old smartphones since starting y7. They have to hand it in at school or, for the older ones, have it turned off.
Once home, they don’t use - left in the kitchen drawer and the screen downtime is automatically activated

That is a very sensible approach.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 27/09/2024 20:00

Doesn’t surprise me at all.
DD will have a phone for secondary school and I’m sure it’ll be a smartphone. The vast vast majority of kids I know, personally and professionally, have smartphones.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 20:00

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 19:53

Finger print is unlikely to cause many issues. I have to give it whenever I travel to the U.S. etc. I wouldn’t let them do a dna test or anything like that (or anyone tbh).

I can’t think of a scenario where her finger points being leaked (unlikely to start with) ends in something bad happening. I bet most kids with finger print phones use that feature.

I guess we could opt out and send a packed lunch?

So you wouldn't mind if you or your child's finger print along with other identifying data was breached?

Missingpate · 27/09/2024 20:00

Well we are very unusual by the sounds of it. DS 12 has an old style phone and forgets to take it with him most days, he doesn’t care in the slightest. He cycles to school, it takes 10
minutes, we only pressure him to take it on bad weather days as we will pick him up if it’s pouring. We don’t want a smart phone for as long as we can leave it, WhatsApp groups for kids sound awful to us. We are open to letting him have one when it starts to really matter. Hopefully not for some time yet. Thankfully he isn’t bothered at all. He plays online games with his friends, arranges to meet them on Google chat on his Chromebook, does homework and uses school apps on the Chromebook, and doesn’t miss a phone at all. His best friend also has a brick phone and doesn’t want a smart phone either. His parents feel the same as us and want to leave it as long as possible. No religious school, just a massive ordinary comprehensive. Other kids do all seem to have them, and no we don’t care.

DeccaM · 27/09/2024 19:59

It is shocking. Some schools use apps which make it virtually essential for the pupils to have smartphones. I wish they wouldn't do that, though there are workarounds (parents' phones, etc.). There are so many dangers to giving children smartphones and very few advantages. I have no doubt that in years to come, we will look back at this era in horror, just as we now look at questionable decisions of the past.

TeabySea · 27/09/2024 19:58

My 13year old has a smartphone. They travel to school by bus. The bus company ONLY issue online tickets on an app which requires a smartphone to display/operate.

The phones are not allowed to be in use at school.

Outside of school I have limited what can and cannot be accessed and also set a limit on screen time.

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/09/2024 19:58

The idea that smartphones somehow keep kids safe while travelling to school is ridiculous. I see them every morning, shuffling along, hunched over a phone like a moron. Or using their phone while cycling. Give your kids some real independence ffs. Stop tracking them. Trust them. It's only a walk/cycle/bus ride not an Arctic expedition.

Not to mention the risks from all the other crap that phones give them access to.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 19:58

noworklifebalance · 27/09/2024 19:50

The amount of data stored about us, I feel the horse as long since bolted. All our data is stored at GP surgeries, hospitals, schools, work, libraries, gyms etc

Not biometric data unless you have actively chose that.

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 19:55

JumperStripes · 27/09/2024 19:50

That’s probably the norm at this child’s school to accommodate the lack of smartphones.

I’m interested in how effective parents find the AirTags given the children don’t have Bluetooth for them to operate from, so they need to rely upon smartphones nearby.

I can normally see if she’s at school and then she goes to a (non-school) club after school one day a week on the bus and I can see her traveling there. Then DH collects her on the way back from work. It updates every 4-5 minutes I would say, it’s not as good as tracking a phone.

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noworklifebalance · 27/09/2024 19:53

offyoujollywelltrot · 27/09/2024 18:17

That's a lot of screen addicted kids.

My DCs have had our old smartphones since starting y7. They have to hand it in at school or, for the older ones, have it turned off.
Once home, they don’t use - left in the kitchen drawer and the screen downtime is automatically activated

BeCyanSloth · 27/09/2024 19:53

I’m not suprised.
My son is 11 yr7 and he has an app on his phone for homework.
He has one friend who doesn’t have a phone and is not allowed to have one until yr9.
His parents have to have the app on a phone or pc.
My son lives within walking distance from home so he doesn’t get a bus but many of his friends do so they have them so they can contact their parents if anything is wrong or happens.
The rest of his friends have iPhones or Samsungs.
His school also have fingerprints for lunch as well

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 19:53

Finger print is unlikely to cause many issues. I have to give it whenever I travel to the U.S. etc. I wouldn’t let them do a dna test or anything like that (or anyone tbh).

I can’t think of a scenario where her finger points being leaked (unlikely to start with) ends in something bad happening. I bet most kids with finger print phones use that feature.

I guess we could opt out and send a packed lunch?

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noworklifebalance · 27/09/2024 19:50

Goldenbear · 27/09/2024 19:47

So you don't mind biometric data of your child's being out their in the ether- what about if there is a data breach?

The amount of data stored about us, I feel the horse as long since bolted. All our data is stored at GP surgeries, hospitals, schools, work, libraries, gyms etc