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To be shocked that 97% of 12 years olds have smart phones?

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Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:15

My DCs school does not allow smartphones and most of the schools around here are the same. The kids all have Nokias (and often an AirTag or similar for tracking).

I can’t believe it’s 97%! Am I totally out of touch? She’s never even asked for a phone.

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2024/sep/23/children-who-dont-have-smartphones

Only 3% of UK 12-year-olds don’t have a smartphone. Here is how four of them feel about it | Smartphones | The Guardian

There has been a huge wave of parental concern about smartphones this year. So do kids without them feel deprived – or more alive?

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2024/sep/23/children-who-dont-have-smartphones

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Heatherbell1978 · 27/09/2024 18:40

Your school sounds a bit 'out there' to be honest. DS just got a phone for his 10th birthday. An old iPhone of mine but we've basically made it into a dumb phone as he can't do anything on it. He buses to school and I want to be able to contact him.
It sits in his bag all day as the school has banned their use during the day. Fair enough. The contract thing is a bit wild. Where do you live?

RhubarbAndCustardSweets · 27/09/2024 18:40

Gettingannoyednow · 27/09/2024 18:24

I'm not letting my son go 40 mins on a bus without having some way of getting hold of me so yes you are being ridiculously unreasonable.

I'm sure this is a significant social change - these days I think you're in the majority. But back in the mid-90s I was allowed, at age 12, to take a 40 minute bus ride to go shopping in town on my own, obviously without a phone. And my mum was widely considered to be ridiculously strict. I don't know what approach I'll take when my own dc is age 12, as I work with young people and from what I can see, the risks of having a phone are at least as great as the risks of not having a phone.

People often talk about how we all managed without phones as kids. Which is true.

But I distinctly remember having to phone my Dad from a pay phone on numerous occasions when the train / bus didn't turn up etc.

When was the last time anyone saw an active pay phone in their area?

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:39

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 27/09/2024 18:35

Oh wait are you in one of those areas with the big academy chains owning all the schools ? With the move to large areas having education provided by companies who can set rules like this, irs the sort of thing we’ll have to get used to.

Yes it’s a small (very) religious academy chain.

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DelurkingAJ · 27/09/2024 18:39

Minor matter round here of needing one to catch the school bus (the bus pass is apparently app only). I can’t imagine that is that unusual…

Foxesandsquirrels · 27/09/2024 18:38

ichundich · 27/09/2024 18:35

Unless your child is at a traditional boarding school, I don't believe you.

I'd say more unless your child is at a Michaela type school. Kids at boarding school have smart phones.
For us smart phone was by far the simplest option, so easy to block and control apps, essentially making it a brick phone with inbuilt tracking (find my iPhone) and ability for contactless payments. It's not all bad, it's the kids who have uncontrolled access that are the worry.

OhmygodDont · 27/09/2024 18:38

My middle one can’t even see her dinner money balance without her app. Would have to order her lunch blind without her phone.

TimelyIntervention · 27/09/2024 18:38

They have to sign a contract with the school when they join saying they won’t have a smart phone until year 12 and they won’t have any social media accounts.

I’d love to have this, but sadly our local secondary says kids have to have a smartphone on joining as all their lesson and homework info is sent there. I think it’s appalling, and is a huge barrier to addressing screen addiction and associated issues in young people.

WhereIsMyLight · 27/09/2024 18:38

I’m 34 and going to secondary school was the starting point for many of my class to get a phone (smart phones didn’t exist then). But by the time I left school, camera phones and colour screens were commonplace and I’d say that over 50% of the kids had one of those, I’d say it was 20 years ago that kids moved from a phone to a phone that could do more.

Out of touch seems like an understatement.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 27/09/2024 18:37

They have to sign a contract with the school when they join saying they won’t have a smart phone until year 12

Ridiculous for the school to think they can police a child having a phone at home. Although obviously that contract means absolutely nothing.

I dislike schools that make it basically essential for children to have one (with apps and homework like a PP mentioned). But they can't ban them at home either.

VyeBrator · 27/09/2024 18:37

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:33

They are obviously not enforceable legal contracts 😅. It’s the same as the “school computer use policy” and the “behaviour code”.

They just get them to sign it so that they feel like they are accountable.

The three schools that most of the kids I know are all in the same small academy trust so I guess that’s why. I didn’t realise it was such an uncommon policy.

Even by the age of 12 most kids have developed enough sense to know that's a ridiculous over-step by the school.

I certainly wouldn't be encouraging such heavy handedness and I'd hope my kids would agree it's a total nonsense, to be made to sign something that the school has no control over.

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:36

I have no idea what they would do - I guess we will cross that bridge when we inevitably get to it but I don’t want to pay for two contracts and she needs to Nokia to take to school…. (Which has to stay turned off in their bag anyway).

They would of course never know if a kid had a phone at home. They aren’t Amish, the kids are expected to have computer access at home.

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Namechangedforspooky · 27/09/2024 18:36

Also it’s heavily policed so she’s only allowed WhatsApp but monitor or anything. Don’t allow whole year group chats either, just talking with friends and screen limiters.
Maybe I’m strict… I don’t know any of her friends without a smart phone tho so I would believe that statistic

ichundich · 27/09/2024 18:35

Unless your child is at a traditional boarding school, I don't believe you.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 27/09/2024 18:35

I think a phone for secondary school is very commonly mentioned on here as the time they got their child one. So while I might not have guessed 97%, I'm not surprised it's high.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 27/09/2024 18:35

Oh wait are you in one of those areas with the big academy chains owning all the schools ? With the move to large areas having education provided by companies who can set rules like this, irs the sort of thing we’ll have to get used to.

Button28384738 · 27/09/2024 18:34

12 is secondary school age though, travelling alone, bus tickets and travel updates on apps, homework etc on apps

My DD isn't allowed her phone out in school (must be switched off in bag) but has it for the way to and from school

OhmygodDont · 27/09/2024 18:34

It’s one of those just because it’s a contract doesn’t make it enforceable or legal.

laughable that they don’t want smart phones but still want to use online tech for homework. Pot kettle. They need to get back to the olden paper days with their brick phones.

Namechangedforspooky · 27/09/2024 18:34

dragonfliesandbees · 27/09/2024 18:24

High schools where I live set homework through an app! Phones are sometimes used in class. I think kids that age would really struggle without one to be honest.

Same here!
As well as behaviour through an app, Google classroom and tracking back and forth to school for an hour each day.
It would be very difficult to manage without one.

she’s really not arsed about using it by the time she gets home

Freshersfluforyou · 27/09/2024 18:33

offyoujollywelltrot · 27/09/2024 18:17

That's a lot of screen addicted kids.

A decent percentage will have parental control apps installed to limit screen time and restrict what they can access.
My eldest 'has a smart phone', the reality is they get 20min a day and can only access messages, calls, and the school apps like the homework one. They can't even browse the internet on it without me unlocking that function.

Rhayader · 27/09/2024 18:33

They are obviously not enforceable legal contracts 😅. It’s the same as the “school computer use policy” and the “behaviour code”.

They just get them to sign it so that they feel like they are accountable.

The three schools that most of the kids I know are all in the same small academy trust so I guess that’s why. I didn’t realise it was such an uncommon policy.

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Foxesandsquirrels · 27/09/2024 18:32

I'd expect it to be close to 100% yes. I'm shocked you're shocked.

OhmygodDont · 27/09/2024 18:32

lol a school or parent thinking they can ban a child having a smart phone till year 12.

The school popo officer going to come inspect your house 🤣🤣

VyeBrator · 27/09/2024 18:32

DreamW3aver · 27/09/2024 18:30

Whereabouts are you? That's really, really unusual. The school is deciding if a child can have a smartphone ? That's bonkers, do they come round your house and check?

North Korea? 🤔

Tryingtryingandtrying · 27/09/2024 18:32

The schools I know that only allow Nokia also supply the kids with chrome books or ipads. What will the school do if they get a social media account before year 12? Expel them??

TotallyKerplunked · 27/09/2024 18:31

My kids had smart phones by the start of year 5, way later than a lot of their friends. DS (13) has homework set where he has to scan a QR code to begin so schools here are exacerbating the issue then complain that the kids have phones and it's bad for them.