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Original poster

To ask if there are certain “red flag” AIBU topics which you avoid?

158 replies

Thepeopleversuswork · 27/09/2024 16:25

I know, without having to open them, that I will be bored or irritated by threads about:

  • Parking (why do people find this interesting?)
  • Anything involving a diagram
  • Anything describing someone in the thread title as a narcissist
  • Anything about Brexit
  • Any thread in which someone describes themselves as “fuming” (or fumming)
  • Weddings or hen nights. Discussion about the etiquette of having children at weddings makes me want to put myself in front of a firing squad
  • Most of the trans related threads (though I think there are some important discussions)

I normally open them anyway 🤣. Anyone else?

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Somanypiessolittletime · 27/09/2024 17:16

Mercedes45 · 27/09/2024 17:13

Yea these people need to piss off. I genuinely think that others judgement plays a big role in PND and anxiety

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Yep 100%

Mercedes45 · 27/09/2024 17:13

Somanypiessolittletime · 27/09/2024 17:10

Ugh breast vs formula feeding ones. They're so fucking judgemental and horrible

Yea these people need to piss off. I genuinely think that others judgement plays a big role in PND and anxiety

DriedFlowersLiveForever · 27/09/2024 17:12

The multiple 'I hate dogs' threads.
I actually got to the point I was nervous taking my two springers out as I was convinced 99% of the population hated them!
In reality most people want to fuss and stroke them, I have a friend who really doesn't like them but she is in the minority.

BogRollBOGOF · 27/09/2024 17:11

Car seats, especially if it involves a child under age 8 who is not ERF.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 27/09/2024 17:11

Israel / Palestine

It is many things, but it’s not simple.

A bit like discussions relating to trans people really.

I tend to avoid them both because people on all sides get upset at the suggestion of any nuance or complexity.

DutchCowgirl · 27/09/2024 17:11

Things that are clearly posted because people want to “spread the word” , probably even made up for this reason or blown out of proportion. Can be anything transrelated or political. Subjects that do deserve a decent discussion, but not like this in AIBU.

Somanypiessolittletime · 27/09/2024 17:10

Ugh breast vs formula feeding ones. They're so fucking judgemental and horrible

Autumn38 · 27/09/2024 17:09

Thepeopleversuswork · 27/09/2024 16:37

Oh and my all time pet hate:

People who hate “people” and wrongly attribute this to them being “introverted”.

And in the same vein, people who find friends “too much drama” and would rather spend all their time with “my little family”. Cringe.

Yes! These are the ones I hate. Often a good dose of ‘YOU’RE his family now’ as a good reason why OP’s partner should become just as insular and isolated.

Tetchypants · 27/09/2024 17:08

I’ve hidden the relationships board as I kept getting overly invested and had to ask myself why I was bothering.

Baby names thread is annoying as the OPs rarely come back.

I cannot do with stupidly long posts on any topic.

There are so many people on here who need a good shake, I genuinely don’t know how they get through the day.

Allfur · 27/09/2024 17:06

People moaning about destination weddings

Mercedes45 · 27/09/2024 17:06

Inslopia · 27/09/2024 16:27

Anything to do with driving particularly on the motorway

Anything legal

Both topics attract an inordinate amount of bullshit.

Ha ha yea, go get your free hr with a solicitor!

FaiIureToLunch · 27/09/2024 17:06

anything with FUMING in the title ….

Suzuki70 · 27/09/2024 17:05

"I bet you all regret voting Labour NOW, don't you".

No. I do not. Fuck off.

Alectoishome · 27/09/2024 17:05

I will never click on a thread title that includes the words 'shaking with rage' or 'thrown under a bus'

I do love the CF ones though. Some genuinely make me gasp!

harrumphh · 27/09/2024 17:04

As long as it's got properly spaced paragraphs I'll read it.

The ones that are novels with no full stops or line spacing are too much.

thisoldcity · 27/09/2024 17:04

Anything regarding inheritance or wills bores me and irritates me in equal measure, usually because it's very very complicated involving several generations, long history of arguments etc that you have to work through before you get to how unfair it all is or isn't. Usually it boils down to 'nothing you can do about it anyway!'

cromwell44 · 27/09/2024 17:03

The only thing worse than fuming is raging.
And neighbour disputes, they make me anxious about ever moving house 😂

Tittyfilarious · 27/09/2024 17:02

Any thread with sahm in the title it's like a fuckin red rag to bull with some posters and the same shit gets thrown each and every time

Alectoishome · 27/09/2024 17:00

Sometimes I go back to mumsnet classics and think those were the days. But of course there were plenty of tedious threads back then too.

MissEsmeWatson · 27/09/2024 17:00

I agree with the "fuming", and "furious" isn't far behind. Why can't people be "incandescent with rage" for a change?

NellyTimes · 27/09/2024 16:59

Anything about where someone should go on holiday. Who gives a fuck.

Baby names. "What is Tarquin's sister called?" or "what do you think of each of these 327 names?"

Alectoishome · 27/09/2024 16:58

comingintomyown · 27/09/2024 16:53

Me too and anything referring to Hubby in the title

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Or Hubs 😁

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Thepeopleversuswork · 27/09/2024 16:58

Alectoishome · 27/09/2024 16:49

The ones where's it's all a hoo-hah about whether it's downstairs toilet/cloakroom/loo, or whether jam or cream go on scones first. The second one especially makes me angry as I feel like people are being antagonistically tedious.

Agree: and a lot of heavy handed and very obvious snobbery.

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Thepeopleversuswork · 27/09/2024 16:56

GreenWheat · 27/09/2024 16:54

The ones with people moaning they are lonely when it's quite clear they can't be bothered to put in the effort to cultivate friendships and relationships.

And they are invariably the same people who stopped seeing friends when it was “too much drama” because they wanted to focus on “my little family”.

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StarShapedWindow · 27/09/2024 16:55

Anything to do with ‘class’. So boring and such ignorant viewpoints.

Also SAHM vs WOHM where all the unhappiest women of Mumsnet become embroiled in a slagging match to make themselves feel better.