To ask if there are certain “red flag” AIBU topics which you avoid?

There’s a world of difference between opposing rights for trans people and understanding that being female is a biological state and sometimes that is important. You can support trans people’s right to live without discrimination and express themselves through whatever gendered presentation suits them best and still believe in single sex exemptions where needed.

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Or ‘would you be offended?’ if you need to
be advised to be offended…🙄

Anything starting with ‘would you report this GP/teacher/HV?’ etc….

The hourly SAHM v working mum ones - I used to read them and even engage until I realised it's the same posters with the same arguments almost verbatim.

Teacher bashing ones - they usually have a parent who doesn't even acknowledge their little darling just might be being economical with the truth.

Obesity ones - again, I've noticed the same usernames being fatist and obsessive when it comes to this topic and their comments actually being quite enlightening and suggesting they might have a different kind of issue with food.

Precious First Born ones where just the in-laws aren't allowed to see or hold them until they're a few months old.

Parking ones - so boring.

I know I'm going to be irritated by anything where the OP suggests they've been too kind, too nice or describes themselves as a people pleaser as though it's a desirable trait.

People who are fumin’ or those walls of text without paragraphs or punctuation are the ones I tend to avoid.

I love a diagram or a CF neighbour rant.

I do hate it when people say Mumsnet posters are against trans rights. It’s bullshit in the majority of cases.

There’s a world of difference between opposing rights for trans people and understanding that being female is a biological state and sometimes that is important. You can support trans people’s right to live without discrimination and express themselves through whatever gendered presentation suits them best and still believe in single sex exemptions where needed.

I never read those. I always imagine it's pervy blokes using a sock puppet.

Moaning about the weather

Weird sex ones

Any form of seasonal moaning - Halloween, Christmas, Bonfire night, kids playing outside in summer, the fact that, shock horror, it starts to get cold in autumn. Bore off!

Anything about ‘gaslighting’…there are a lot of people who a) use this incorrectly and b) don’t seem to appreciate that being a dick doesn’t need a special name to be bad.

Grey rocking

And parking/neighbour ones are boring to me.

Anything really serious or to do with health, or mental health. AIBU should be fun, lighthearted, not too serious (as in you don’t mind a bit of a ribbing/sarcasm).

I've lost count of the categories I have hidden.

Royal family ones, particularly Meghan and Harry
MiL ones
SAHM ones, always smug corporate types who love saying how they brought up their ten children without any help and do all the housework and family admin and why can't everyone else and SAHM should simultaneously genuflect to their husbands and work 24/7 in the home
Political scandal ones when it's about someone using paperclips for personal use or something equally pathetic
Tax ones where people with loads of money want to avoid paying any tax on it.

Parking ones I often enjoy, as well as wedding ones. And I've learned a lot from the doormat ones about how not to be one.

Any brexit threads, they were tiresome at the time. Just let it go now.

Anything MIL related. Usually it's a petty complaint, like MIL won't respect my boundaries because she gave my DC a chocolate biscuit 🙄

Anything about "mental load". It's just called life! We all have to do it. Stop complaining.

A more niche one is that I don't like the advice on the alcohol boards or dry threads that come up here, encouraging people to stop drinking cold turkey. Dependant on the level of alcohol (which is lower than people think) it's bloody dangerous! I can't read those as I get angry at the recklessness.

‘Does this sound like ADHD/austism/other medical condition’ threads

I always appreciate when someone's gone to the effort of a diagram

Competitive cleaning ones are awful

These are my favourite threads.

Except Brexit and trans ones.

Although Mumsnet totally changed my views on trans.

Anything where the opening posts mentions the words
Triggering
Neurodiverse
ADHD
Should I eat this?
Baby names
Hubby

I mainly like S&B. I feel sad on all the threads on women dating losers/ 🚩/having no standards and then end up having kids with them 🤐

Anything involving poo or farts

Anything involving a 'comment' or 'remark' made by a third party

All the "Can I afford a 10p mortgage when I only earn £2000000?" or similar threads.

Also the inheritance ones they are so horrible or the ones where people are upset their parents haven't given them money to buy a house.

The ones where people are upset because they expect family members to look after their children (often without this being agreed) and are then resentful when they can't/won't.

Also all the cleaning, how often do you wash ones.

Any post that starts with “changed my username for this and can’t share too many details as otherwise too outing” and then expects us to be mind-readers.