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Child identifies as a wolf ... WTF?

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Portakalkedi · 27/09/2024 12:15

Just on Radio 4 now, discussing a child in secondary school who identifies as a wolf, and the school is going along with this. AIBU to think the world (or at least the UK) has gone mad? If said child is living in the woods, catching its own prey etc etc, howling and running with other wolves, which I doubt, then why the hell is anyone going along with it? They are also saying that some others identify as dogs or cats etc. And here was me thinking men 'identifying' as women was bad.

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TheKeatingFive · 27/09/2024 13:06

TheSandgroper · 27/09/2024 13:03

I have decided that any girl or boy that has no idea what they are needs to spend six months with a Welsh hill sheep farmer, preferably in winter. Or being a Northern Territory jack/jillaroo.

With apologies to all the sheep farmers on here for suggesting they could be social workers in their spare time. I’m really not.

But it occurs to me that hard work, mother nature and looking after something other than themselves may not go amiss.

I agree with this

HowardTJMoon · 27/09/2024 13:05

araiwa · 27/09/2024 13:02

Why do people keep repeating this made up bollocks?

Let's hope there are no Haitians nearby who might eat it 🙄

It's culture-war stuff. A lot of which is amplified and encouraged by Russian disinformation to encourage division and so destabilise societies.

Domainedor · 27/09/2024 13:05

Badgerandfox227 · 27/09/2024 12:25

I’ve heard that their are children at our local secondary identifying as a cat, they wear ears and a tail and go to the loo on the grass.

This is just a rumor that scatologically-minded right wing paedophiles share.

AngelinaFibres · 27/09/2024 13:05

When did we lose the ability to say " But you clearly aren't....a man....a woman...a dog. ..a cat. No go and do your homework".

ExquisiteEmelda · 27/09/2024 13:05

TheSandgroper · 27/09/2024 13:03

I have decided that any girl or boy that has no idea what they are needs to spend six months with a Welsh hill sheep farmer, preferably in winter. Or being a Northern Territory jack/jillaroo.

With apologies to all the sheep farmers on here for suggesting they could be social workers in their spare time. I’m really not.

But it occurs to me that hard work, mother nature and looking after something other than themselves may not go amiss.

That’s exactly it! Too much indulgence these days and not enough hard work.

ChanelBoucle · 27/09/2024 13:05

I was listening to this just earlier. While doing so, I found myself thinking that we have totally lost the plot as a society now. A couple of decades ago, it was the done thing to humour kids for their phases and foibles as they went through adolescence, to take it all fairly light heartedly and in good humour, but there were limits and kids respected that.

For example, I fancied myself as a bit of a goth when I was 13/14, and my mum humoured me and went along with it, buying me whatever gothy stuff I wanted for Christmas, allowing me to play my goth music in the car and not crying too much when I dyed my hair black and pierced my ears in several places. I knew however that I had to wear correct uniform for school and behave in a courteous and respectful manner. Not that being goth and being courteous are mutually exclusive ofc but you get my drift I hope. I dunno, there were just boundaries.

A couple of years later I moved on to the next thing, we had a bit of a laugh and I had a bit of a cringe but that was it. Nowadays, we have po-faced guest speakers on R4 actually trying to psychoanalyse this nonsense. These kids are never going to look back and see this light heartedly, instead they’ll see it as some kind of intrinsic psychological trauma personality trait thing that they’ll carry for the rest of their lives and what should be seen as a phase, a form of healthy rebellion even, is being taken way out of context and that is why I truly believe the world is going mad.

theresabluebirdinmyheart · 27/09/2024 13:04

LostittoBostik · 27/09/2024 12:54

Lollll, exactly.

To anyone here saying "give it time" or "well it probably is happening somewhere" - YOU are the problem.

There are a handful of extremely mentally unwell children unable to get medical care and no longer sectioned/in institutions because of austerity. The rest is just bullshit hype that when proven wrong someone goes "oh well give it time!"

This is the very definition of fake news

Well wolves and cats etc get their medical care at the vets don’t they? No NHS waiting lists for them!

Joleyne · 27/09/2024 13:04

My DD did this during lockdown, when she was 11. She and her best friend both decided they were wolves and spoke to each other in Wolfish (yaps and yelps).

The school staff were quietly indulgent, but insisted on English in class.
They both grew out of it when the world got back to normal.

TheKeatingFive · 27/09/2024 13:04

araiwa · 27/09/2024 13:02

Why do people keep repeating this made up bollocks?

Let's hope there are no Haitians nearby who might eat it 🙄

I'm never quite sure why this is clearly 'made up bollocks' whereas men identifying as women or vice versa is treated as deadly serious.

Any thoughts?

TheSandgroper · 27/09/2024 13:03

I have decided that any girl or boy that has no idea what they are needs to spend six months with a Welsh hill sheep farmer, preferably in winter. Or being a Northern Territory jack/jillaroo.

With apologies to all the sheep farmers on here for suggesting they could be social workers in their spare time. I’m really not.

But it occurs to me that hard work, mother nature and looking after something other than themselves may not go amiss.

araiwa · 27/09/2024 13:02

Why do people keep repeating this made up bollocks?

Let's hope there are no Haitians nearby who might eat it 🙄

ChungKing · 27/09/2024 13:01

Look, the stuff about litter trays being available in schools is clearly bullshit, but there are "furry" kids who identify as animals, and worryingly, there are some teachers who take it a bit more seriously than they should. The mind boggles.

ntmdino · 27/09/2024 13:00

Meh. Our daughter spent the majority of a year as a dog (she tried cat first, didn't like it much) when she was 7. Turned out absolutely fine.

Honestly, there's a bit of me that thinks it would've been cooler if she'd been a wolf instead.

BunnyLake · 27/09/2024 13:00

Maray1967 · 27/09/2024 12:39

I’ve heard of an American family who dealt with this with their tween by building an outside enclosure out of scrap wood and chicken wire and chucking some raw meat and telling the tween that if they’re a wolf that is where they will live.

On the other hand, if they want to sleep in the bedroom and have pizza on Saturday night, then they are a child and will dress and behave like one.

Apparently that solved the problem.

Good parenting 👏🏻👏🏻 well done them.

What a lot of self indulgent nonsense this is. I wanted to be a mermaid when I was young. If I’d insisted I was and they threw me in a pool I’d have probably drowned because I’d be the world’s only mermaid who couldn’t swim!

HowardTJMoon · 27/09/2024 12:58

Maray1967 · 27/09/2024 12:39

I’ve heard of an American family who dealt with this with their tween by building an outside enclosure out of scrap wood and chicken wire and chucking some raw meat and telling the tween that if they’re a wolf that is where they will live.

On the other hand, if they want to sleep in the bedroom and have pizza on Saturday night, then they are a child and will dress and behave like one.

Apparently that solved the problem.

I've heard a lot of American right-wingers spreading this kind of entirely baseless rumour around because they want to believe it's true more than want to find out if it's actually true. Which it isn't.

Tagyoureit · 27/09/2024 12:57

JaneEyreLaughing · 27/09/2024 12:29

Then they want a sharp boot applied to their arses without any further ado,

😆😆

Best comment I've read today! 😂

JaneEyreLaughing · 27/09/2024 12:57

@LostittoBostik I know perfectly well what it means, thank you but it isn't the case here.
May I suggest you look up the word 'lunatic' it is still in the OED and see if it applies in any way to this story.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 27/09/2024 12:57

Any child that identifies as an animal shouldn't be at school. Animals don't get an education. Let their parents home school them if they want to.

A wolf in a school would be tranquilised and removed from the premises.

WandaFishy99 · 27/09/2024 12:57

Badgerandfox227 · 27/09/2024 12:25

I’ve heard that their are children at our local secondary identifying as a cat, they wear ears and a tail and go to the loo on the grass.

I saw a group of teenagers recently, one girl was wearing cat ears and a tail and meowing. I thought she was in fancy dress but now I'm wondering if she "identifies as a cat" 🙄

Cattery · 27/09/2024 12:56

Badgerandfox227 · 27/09/2024 12:25

I’ve heard that their are children at our local secondary identifying as a cat, they wear ears and a tail and go to the loo on the grass.

Kid needs some discipline at home

LostittoBostik · 27/09/2024 12:54

JaneEyreLaughing · 27/09/2024 12:45

If being right wing (you forgot to prefix right wing with FAR- right wing cannot be referred to without having Far in front of it-it's the law! )@JustAnotherPoster00 means that you have half a brain then bring on the right wing (far right)

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Look up the meaning of the word TROPE please

Cattery · 27/09/2024 12:54

I might identify as a sloth…

LostittoBostik · 27/09/2024 12:54

JustAnotherPoster00 · 27/09/2024 12:43

Happy right wing trope day everybody🎂🎉

Lollll, exactly.

To anyone here saying "give it time" or "well it probably is happening somewhere" - YOU are the problem.

There are a handful of extremely mentally unwell children unable to get medical care and no longer sectioned/in institutions because of austerity. The rest is just bullshit hype that when proven wrong someone goes "oh well give it time!"

This is the very definition of fake news

ExquisiteEmelda · 27/09/2024 12:53

marmiteisnttheonlyspread · 27/09/2024 12:48

Was it on R4 or R2 and Jeremy Vine?

I've not listened to it yet but wonder if it's like little girls pretending to be horses?

You go along with it and normality soon pops back into view.

But, in the past, children pretending to be horses, unicorns, monsters, pirates was only ever done at playtime at school. We didn’t insist the teacher call us Star and feed us hay for lunch.

HoppingPavlova · 27/09/2024 12:51

I fucking despair, honestly, why have adults lost the ability to tell children NO? We already have a generation of spoiled, idle and indulged brats as a result of 'gentle' (ie lazy) parenting

I don’t disagree, in that I believe 99.9% of this is a fad kids jump on these days with an inability of adults to tell them to cut the crap.

However, I remember, over 5 decades ago I was in hospital as a child. Those days anyone who had surgery was in for ages and there was no such thing as parents staying, they came at visiting hours and left. Anyhoo, the kid in the bed opposite was there because she believed she was a dog. Trying to cast my mind back I think she may have been around 10yo. The only things she would say were dog related such as ‘my name is Fluffy’ (or whatever it was), ‘I only eat dog biscuits’ etc. she refused to walk but would walk on all fours and would pant, bark etc. She genuinely refused to eat normal food and wanted dog food so was on a drip, and let’s just say she didn’t use the toilet like we did.

She was there in an effort for the hospital to basically get her to cut the crap out thinking maybe it’s the parents fault, but that didn’t work. I believe she honestly believed she was a dog. I do recall that when I left they were making arrangements for her to go to an institution as that was pretty much the answer to most things ‘out of the ordinary’ back then.