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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

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Distanceinvolved · 27/09/2024 14:48

Does he go to work in regular clothes and fancy watch and a bag with work clothes in it and come home in work clothes and no watch with his regular clothes and watch in the bag? Assume you’ve checked the bag?

Sounds a bit weird, mainly because of the clothes and watch, but it also sounds like it would be the shittest affair ever.

I’m sorry you’re so worried about it and I hope everything works out well for you.

YeahWellWhyNot · 27/09/2024 14:46

That would be super weird @readyeddy

User19876536484 · 27/09/2024 14:45

readyeddy · 27/09/2024 14:43

Does he still have a bedroom at his parents house?
Could he be watching porn or online chats?

What on Earth would he be telling his parents he was doing in his old room for an hour every morning?

YeahWellWhyNot · 27/09/2024 14:43

Yes I would be suspicious. And your latest post, even more so. Id be following personally, it sounds like he could have a story all tied up in a neat little bow so it looks v.innocent.

Really hope I'm wrong OP.

readyeddy · 27/09/2024 14:43

Does he still have a bedroom at his parents house?
Could he be watching porn or online chats?

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:36

I have a weird feeling that he is seeing someone who lives in his parents street. And he parks his car at there house so if his car was ever seen then he could just say he was at his parents.

He knows all of the neighbours. He grew up there as a child and he's really friendly with all of them. A lot of young mum neighbours in the street.

I don't know, maybe I'm reaching now.

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SwankyPants · 27/09/2024 14:36

Yes it would. Not necessarily an affair but something I'd going on.

Edenmum2 · 27/09/2024 14:36

wwyt · 27/09/2024 12:43

Baby doesn't wake until like 10 so I cant really follow him.

I 100% believe he's going to work but I think there's something suspicious going on before work.

Side note I know ....but wow. Seriously don't worry about anything else in your life if you get to lie in until 10 every day 😂

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:34

Diarygirlqueen · 27/09/2024 14:30

I think there's something going on, is there any females who work there? I really hope it's innocent.

Nope, no females!

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:34

readyeddy · 27/09/2024 14:29

Even if he was having an affair surely not every single morning without fail?
But.. If he's as filthy as you say after work then maybe he is going when he's clean and can shower after.
Also just to add my mil and sil were very unpleasant and dh hasn't spoken to them in over 10 years why is he not standing by you?

He can never seem to see his mum or dad do no wrong, their his world. he is like a mummy's boy.......

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cheesecakewrestler · 27/09/2024 14:32

*watching thread….

Diarygirlqueen · 27/09/2024 14:30

I think there's something going on, is there any females who work there? I really hope it's innocent.

readyeddy · 27/09/2024 14:29

Even if he was having an affair surely not every single morning without fail?
But.. If he's as filthy as you say after work then maybe he is going when he's clean and can shower after.
Also just to add my mil and sil were very unpleasant and dh hasn't spoken to them in over 10 years why is he not standing by you?

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:28

Yes! So change of plans.

My friend is going to go herself. By the time I get baby up and sorted into the car he'll be long gone and if he doesn't go to his parents we won't know where he has gone.

My friend is going to be parked down the street for 7 and follow him from there.

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pinkleopardess · 27/09/2024 14:25

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 27/09/2024 14:11

Let your friend follow him alone if that's easier than getting the baby up and in the car? He's less likely to spot anything suspicious too. Please update us OP.

I think this is the best idea.

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:24

Beastiesandthebeauty · 27/09/2024 14:18

He does this Saturday too ??

Yup!

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mondayawoos · 27/09/2024 14:23

How will you get the baby out to your friends car without him noticing, does she even have a car seat?

Beastiesandthebeauty · 27/09/2024 14:18

He does this Saturday too ??

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:18

MadeForThis · 27/09/2024 13:37

Does he complain about having to get up early to collect his DF?

Seems like someone who loves to lie in would complain.

Nope never complains. Which I did find strange too.

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 14:17

DogInATent · 27/09/2024 13:36

It's less than 2hrs at dark o'clock in the morning.

Are you sure he's not just joined a gym and working out an hour before work, getting into his work clothes there?

I'm positive, I've said previously he calls his friends who go to the gym "gym freaks" he has always said it's not for him and never will be.

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Snowdrops17 · 27/09/2024 14:16

Not healthy advice but I would be very tempted to stick an AirTag or similar in the car it's really odd behaviour.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 27/09/2024 14:13

OP, why not check the mileage on the car? If he's going further than to his parents and work, then you'll know that he's up to something. I'd definitely be worried enough to do this.

FlipFlopVibe · 27/09/2024 14:13

Bloody hell 1-3 times a week with a one year old! My DH would be absolutely thrilled! If it does end up him getting some elsewhere, DO NOT let him convince you that it's because you are having less sex than pre baby. Your baby might sleep late (my first used to sleep 14 hours a night) but they are massive work when they're awake and our hormones are different.

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 27/09/2024 14:11

Let your friend follow him alone if that's easier than getting the baby up and in the car? He's less likely to spot anything suspicious too. Please update us OP.

WOPRsystem · 27/09/2024 14:08

a different job or an extra one @wwyt ?