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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

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KaleQueen · 28/09/2024 22:09

zileri · 28/09/2024 21:48

@KaleQueen - please apply the forensic linguistics and share the findings.

I did. It got deleted by MNaHQ Sorry.

BluebirdBoogie · 28/09/2024 22:06

Any update OP?

zileri · 28/09/2024 21:48

@KaleQueen - please apply the forensic linguistics and share the findings.

DreamW3aver · 28/09/2024 21:46

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You can't be that dedicated or you'd know that troll hunting isn't allowed, its pretty much the only rule

zileri · 28/09/2024 21:44

Surely any of the neighbours would give him short shift (shrift)?

ClaredeBear · 28/09/2024 21:44

strawberryblue · 28/09/2024 21:43

OP could it be that his parents are unwell or something and that's why he's helping out more?

I wondered this too.

strawberryblue · 28/09/2024 21:43

OP could it be that his parents are unwell or something and that's why he's helping out more?

strawberryblue · 28/09/2024 21:43

@Clomid1 you and me both 😂

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Clomid1 · 28/09/2024 21:38

🍿 I am just invested now

ClaredeBear · 28/09/2024 21:21

martinisforeveryone · 28/09/2024 20:39

We know it's two minutes' drive from the OP's house to the DP's workplace. We don't know how far it is from OP's house to the in laws' house, do we? and then how far from there to the workplace?

I feel if I knew this I could channel my inner Ludwig and come up with the answer to the problem.

It can't be far surely, I'd be suggesting they should walk, so that'd put pay to any shenanigans.

Think the OP says I. An earlier post that the parent live about 5 min away from the workplace.

OrchardBlack · 28/09/2024 21:18

Genuinely hope it's just some misunderstanding or something OP 💐

BlazenWeights · 28/09/2024 20:57

I’m entirely being nosy tbh

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You should know by now that you can't troll hunt.
That's why your post was deleted.

Beach11 · 28/09/2024 20:48

Hope you are ok

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Probably classed it as troll hunting, which isn't allowed

pinkleopardess · 28/09/2024 20:46

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Perhaps troll hunting? Thread has been reported by others and it is still standing so not sure tbh.

mateow · 28/09/2024 20:46

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Hi, what makes you think it is made up? I'm interested what the red flags are you spotted

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Potter23 · 28/09/2024 20:43

need to confront him OP and tell him you don’t believe him and see what he says…

enough detective work has proven he is not being honest with you!

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 28/09/2024 20:40

His dad answering the work line also doesn't tell you anything, maybe he is there and busy. You/friend should have specifically asked to speak with him.
maybe the ‘this is painful’ is they did exactly that and he isnt there.

martinisforeveryone · 28/09/2024 20:39

We know it's two minutes' drive from the OP's house to the DP's workplace. We don't know how far it is from OP's house to the in laws' house, do we? and then how far from there to the workplace?

I feel if I knew this I could channel my inner Ludwig and come up with the answer to the problem.

It can't be far surely, I'd be suggesting they should walk, so that'd put pay to any shenanigans.

Butnothingsclear · 28/09/2024 20:36

Your last post is gutting OP. Whatever you have found that is painful, I’m so sorry. Look after yourself well. If you’ve had a big shock, just keep trying to look after your body the best you can, keep hydrated - and try and eat - sip water, regular small snacks if you can’t eat, keep breathing and lean in those you trust. Good luck 💐

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