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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

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Errors · 13/10/2024 07:31

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DreamW3aver · 11/10/2024 17:29

FlyingFox · 11/10/2024 13:39

Don’t think I was asking you!

Clearly you dont know either that anyone can reply to any post they like, no restrictions on here

FlyingFox · 11/10/2024 13:39

DreamW3aver · 04/10/2024 07:22

Are your see next and coloured ops posts not working? Don't be so insenstive

Don’t think I was asking you!

Disappearedwife · 10/10/2024 21:26

OP we need an update!!!!

NetflixAndKill · 08/10/2024 10:41

Laura0076 · 02/10/2024 14:54

Yes far better to ask a bunch of strangers 🫠 my bad

Is that not what this forum is for? Also, her post title is “to feel slightly suspicious about DP” must have missed what you’re talking about 🤷🏽‍♀️

nothingtoseehereatall · 07/10/2024 19:06

Alwaysinamood · 06/10/2024 19:03

I have another theory - how do you know for sure that it’s his parents house if you have no relationship with them, have you ever been or seen proof they live there? He could have been having an affair with someone who lives there and they’ve had a child and that’s why he’s going every morning ?!!

It might be a nice plotline from a book, but the OP talks about his parents street, about her DH knowing all the neighbours and growing up there as a child. She might be NC with his parents now but she wasn't originally (eg his mum was rude to her about having put on weight). So I would imagine she certainly has in the past been to their house!

DeathNote11 · 07/10/2024 18:28

Alwaysinamood · 06/10/2024 19:03

I have another theory - how do you know for sure that it’s his parents house if you have no relationship with them, have you ever been or seen proof they live there? He could have been having an affair with someone who lives there and they’ve had a child and that’s why he’s going every morning ?!!

Please write the book. I want to know what happens!

Alwaysinamood · 07/10/2024 18:16

@ConnemaraMare I used to write but not as much now! But this thread has definitely got me thinking!
Love the username, I was actually in Connemara two weeks ago!

ConnemaraMare · 07/10/2024 12:46

@Alwaysinamood that’s an interesting thought! Do you write? Not being sarcastic, I admire your thinking.

ooopsinamechangedagain · 07/10/2024 12:27

Any updates op is he still heading out early?

AngelicKaty · 06/10/2024 22:52

@wwyt Any updates OP? Did you go for a walk last Friday morning? How did your DP react knowing his departure from your house was going to be delayed?

Alwaysinamood · 06/10/2024 19:03

I have another theory - how do you know for sure that it’s his parents house if you have no relationship with them, have you ever been or seen proof they live there? He could have been having an affair with someone who lives there and they’ve had a child and that’s why he’s going every morning ?!!

bringslight · 06/10/2024 14:11

Updates

Lifeisbetterbythesea · 06/10/2024 12:12

😃

Lifeisbetterbythesea · 06/10/2024 12:10

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KaleQueen · 06/10/2024 10:14

TheShellBeach · 06/10/2024 10:11

You could have edited it.

Oh god….for gods sake….are you this fun in real life?

I did ask for it to be edited. It was edited. It’s a thread title. You can’t self edit. MN has to. So they did. But the URL (which is the link) can’t be edited or it will break and you won’t be able to use it.

I hope that clears things up and I hope you have a wonderful wonderful Sunday hun xx

TheShellBeach · 06/10/2024 10:11

KaleQueen · 06/10/2024 09:18

It was an initial typo. It got corrected but the url retained the typo.

You could have edited it.

KaleQueen · 06/10/2024 09:18

Calliopespa · 05/10/2024 21:09

A thing that causes something else to happen. So I guess in this instance something like wealthy people having money in the bank and it causes them to get more in interest?!

Come on op! Attend to your thread!

It was an initial typo. It got corrected but the url retained the typo.

Notaregularmummy · 06/10/2024 01:04

@wwyt Did you manage to find out any more? I don’t mean to trivialise your problem i genuinely feel for you but I have also been wondering if you have found out anymore? I know it would be eating me up
hoping you find out it’s all innocent

Calliopespa · 06/10/2024 00:28

Coruscations · 06/10/2024 00:07

Can you switch off his alarm, or change it to 8am? It could be interesting to watch the reaction, and also to see if anyone phones or texts him to ask where he is.

This is cunning.

The only risk op is I think he is currently aware you are suspicious so you may well get the blame - not undeservingly! I like the idea but think you’d have to leave it a bit before trying this.

Coruscations · 06/10/2024 00:07

Can you switch off his alarm, or change it to 8am? It could be interesting to watch the reaction, and also to see if anyone phones or texts him to ask where he is.

Pyaar · 05/10/2024 22:09

VERY weird that his plans changed when your friend was going to be following him. Maybe he has somehow got access to your messages (lets say he's guilty he might have wanted to see if you had anything you're hiding, to ease his guilt)

See if you can enlist friend via another method, unless you already communicated through phone calls only for example.

Good luck.. What a head fuck for you this is

TheEveningSun · 05/10/2024 21:24

Shade17 · 04/10/2024 08:02

Why wouldn’t you though? It’s a fairly cheap watch. My daily watch is worth many times that and I’d chuck it on to do the school run, I don’t even get out of the car! It’s not in any way fancy or going to impress anyone so I don’t get why this guy would be trying to impress with his. If it were a nice Patek, maybe.

As a person who loves a good watch on my wrist I read the OPs comment as - he put the watch on to look more presentable than usual, as this is what I do and this is what my DP does when we get out of our post code😀, I also put a necklace and a ring on and get out of my tracksuit.
maybe this the most valuable piece of jewellery to the OPs partner? How insensitive of you! It’s clearly impressive to the OP.
Thank you for stating the obvious that there are more expensive watches on the market than £400. hey do you know there are watches that’s cost more than Patek? 🙄 I would never ever made a comment on someone’s point what they think is impressive in terms of value. I guess you you can’t buy class. You should spend your money on training in good manners before you start buying more expensive watches.

Calliopespa · 05/10/2024 21:09

TheShellBeach · 05/10/2024 20:15

What is a causal thing?

A thing that causes something else to happen. So I guess in this instance something like wealthy people having money in the bank and it causes them to get more in interest?!

Come on op! Attend to your thread!

TheShellBeach · 05/10/2024 20:15

KaleQueen · 05/10/2024 19:45

If anyone wants a distraction while you wait there’s a full thread here inspired by Watchgate

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5180344-the-causal-things-that-wealthy-people-take-for-granted?page=1

What is a causal thing?