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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

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OrchardBlack · 01/10/2024 21:53

Tanjamaltija · 01/10/2024 21:42

She set the cat among the chickens, and left. Or, as we say in Maltese, she threw the stone and his her hand.

Or maybe she has bigger things to worry about rather than updating an Internet forum thread??

Tanjamaltija · 01/10/2024 21:42

She set the cat among the chickens, and left. Or, as we say in Maltese, she threw the stone and his her hand.

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HowToSaveAWife · 01/10/2024 19:53

I would just assume that maybe OP has found out the truth and is dealing with some real life situation(s).

In which case OP, I really do wish you the best.

BabyOwlinthePlumeria · 01/10/2024 19:47

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You're an absolute treat💗

BabyOwlinthePlumeria · 01/10/2024 19:43

I started to think it wasn't real as well, but after you've gotten everyone so stirred and invested, surely you would thicken the plot before you left? Maybe she is 11 bottles of bleach op and the delivery driver had it right

bringslight · 01/10/2024 19:35

the posters built up well this thread. Has a thread ever been filled up to the 1000th with the main poster never having come back

Errors · 01/10/2024 19:17

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 01/10/2024 18:56

I don’t think it’s fair to turn this into a debate about whether the post is real. I think it’s far more likely that OP has simply got caught up in life and it’s no longer in the forefront of her mind to post updates here.

I agree besides I want the thread to stay so we can get an update

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 01/10/2024 18:56

I don’t think it’s fair to turn this into a debate about whether the post is real. I think it’s far more likely that OP has simply got caught up in life and it’s no longer in the forefront of her mind to post updates here.

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ClaredeBear · 01/10/2024 13:38

@onwardsup4 yep.

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 01/10/2024 13:12

Merryoldgoat · 27/09/2024 20:09

But he’s going Saturday as well…

Oh really- I didn’t see that part

Errors · 01/10/2024 09:18

OP has not been back!! I hope everything is ok!

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Tanjamaltija · 30/09/2024 16:33

Long shot, but could you call him exactly before working hours and tell him you need him to come home for [whatever?]. Since he works with his father, it shouldn't be a problem if he's late.

HS123123 · 30/09/2024 11:52

Lackinginspecialskills · 29/09/2024 23:10

This must be very stressful I’m so sorry.

Maybe you need to ask him directly why his car is outside his parents if he’s supposed to have driven his Dad to work. Say you happened to see it on your way out or something. Are you able to drop in to his work saying you were just out with the baby or something and wanted to say Hi! - you need to catch him out so he doesn’t fob you off or gaslight you.

good luck xx

and this, very good point, anything unexpected but just in your mind hope for the best and you're wrong and only reacting like this because you care about yourself and the relationship, do not go with bad intentions that may give him an excuse that you are... fill in the blanks bad person

shouting, screaming, accusing

HS123123 · 30/09/2024 11:50

wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

best way is to start to arrange polite gestures, send flowers to the work place, have a note in the car about how much you love him somewhere in the passenger side, maybe in the glove box maybe everywhere but hidden, at some point the truth comes out either by the other person seeing them or through guilt. Love can be the eye opener as strange as that may sound.

Lackinginspecialskills · 29/09/2024 23:10

This must be very stressful I’m so sorry.

Maybe you need to ask him directly why his car is outside his parents if he’s supposed to have driven his Dad to work. Say you happened to see it on your way out or something. Are you able to drop in to his work saying you were just out with the baby or something and wanted to say Hi! - you need to catch him out so he doesn’t fob you off or gaslight you.

good luck xx

Bellatrixpure · 29/09/2024 20:33

wwyt · 28/09/2024 10:32

Update:

I rung dp he says he's at work. We rung the workplace his father answered.

Well, this is painful

Oh no, hope you get some answers

ClaredeBear · 29/09/2024 20:25

Doubt very much the OP hasn't returned because someone suggested her story didn't quite hang together. There could be other explanations.

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