To feel slightly suspicious of dp

It doesn't sit well that when challenged he gets angry and goes straight to claiming your sister is lying to break up your relationship. It's either extremely childish or reflects some insecurities he is feeling about what he is doing. Massive red flag. I'm sorry you're in this situation it can't be easy. Take care.

Yep - no matter what is going on, he's lying and misleading you.

100% suspicious!!! If he knows you aren't on talking terms with his parents it's the perfect excuse to use knowing your not likely to contact them. I would definitely be contacting the parents or following him in the morning.

Some people will cheat any time of day.

Getting up and cheating at 7am isn’t even early. Most of us are already up, showered and dressed by that point so a quick bunk up before work isn’t that out of the question.

The number of times you have sex with him is irrelevant. Some people have a higher sex drive when cheating.

I think I’d be turning up with the baby at his parents house when he is supposed to be there. Wake them up and pop them in their car seat or pram. His parents are hardly going to turn away their grandchild even if you have fallen out.

Howling 😂😂😂

You know you don’t need ‘proof’. He’s lying and he’s gaslighting you. Is that a way to live. Can you ever trust him again? Just get your things in order and get ready to leave with your baby. If he genuinely has a good reason, though seriously what can it be, then you can change your mind. But it’s the lying. I could not get past that.

Surely the woman was his mum. She would probably be 50-60 plus you know he goes to his parents every morning.

The weird thing is why he was in the car at that time when he should have been in work and as you say, why didn’t he just say he was with his mum when you confronted him.

If he isn't heading off to work until 10ish with his Dad, why is he leaving so early - he needs to appreciate this is suspicious and isn't it strange he keeps changing his plans when you are actively suspicious, its almost like he has inside knowledge. Is it normal for him to pop home with lunch?

It’s not sounding great.

Apart from reeling from your sister seeing someone my age as elderly (gulp) I have a very strong feeling that you need to stop confronting him, seem like you trust him, buy yourself some time and keep up the sleuthing. I fear he is trying to gaslight you. Play your cards close to your chest.

Beyond weird. The Uber/Taxi thing might be a reasonable suggestion for the early mornings but it's a stretch. I just can't imagine living with someone who's routine has changed to this extent and you don't ask or you're not given an explanation?!

And why would he 'go batshit' or kick off at you verbally when you question something if the change in routine is something entirely innocent? His reaction is immediate defensive which would indicate he's hiding something.

For me, it's the reaction and ongoing attitude that would turn me off and question whether I'd want to stay with this guy. Weird.

Could we just stop with this. It's a clumsy choice of words but op is just repeating what her sister said. It's offering absolutely nothing to the thread to keep bringing it up.

Op at this stage you need to confront your dh. Pack a bag if you have to. Or pack him one. And tell him you know he's lying about something and if he doesn't come clean right now you'll be forced to assume the worst and one of you will have to go. I couldn't live like this it would drive me insane.

The fuck you on about 😂

Funniest comment ever

😂😂😂😂

Yes, that comment was bound to cause a reaction wasn't it.

I remember being in my 20s. The bob-haired woman was probably 38.

I can't get past a woman in her 50's being described as
" elderly"

🤣🤣🤣

This. My head would be spinning. I don’t get why you haven’t literally said to him I know your up to something now come clear or you will be parking on that street more permanently. Don’t allow this behaviour and don’t allow him to gaslight you!

Turn up at his work and ring him when you're outside and tell him to come out. If he doesn't you know he's not there!

This is what I think. If you have fallen out with them then he may just feel he wants to spend time with them because presumably he can’t at weekends if you’re not on speaking terms.

Some people are just really close to their parents.

@secradonugh There are no rules about a passenger being in the front of a private hire vehicle. A 5 seat car is licensed for the driver plus up to 4 passengers, where is the 4th one going if not in the front?!

When I was younger he used to pick me up at 7am with a hot chocolate and drop me off at work. Never saw him later in the day.

Yeh it's almost like weighing in on a stranger's precarious love life situation with limited information leads to outlandish melodrama isn't it

I don't imagine the OP has considered that because she doesn't appear to be smoking crack. Or maybe her DP's dad is trans and wears a bob when he goes out as Sue, that would make about as much sense.