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Annual leave is a terrible excuse!

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ANightingaleSang · 27/09/2024 07:25

How many times can you get away with using annual leave as a excuse for failing to respond in a timely manner/delays?

For context I have been in discussions with a third party for over a year! I was anticipating we would have the issue resolved within 4 months, ideally sooner.

At every stage the person I am in communication with is saying things such
'I'll take a look when I get back from annual leave at the end of next week'
Sorry for the delay, I've been on leave and only returned 2 days ago. Ive been in back to back meetings since. I'm off again until 2nd October, I will take a look then.

This has not been once or twice but at least 15 times over the past year

So far I've gritted my teeth and remained polite but it's getting ridiculous. Does he ever work? If he's away so often surely he should delegate tasks to someone else? I'm being left in limbo waiting.

The cherry on the cake that pushed me over the edge was that he gave me a 2 week deadline to respond to a a report. I had to do a mountain of work and got back to him ahead of the deadline l. He then replied he'd look at it on 2nd of October (see above). I just find that rude!

I have always replied within 2-3working days. All the delays are on their side

Am I being unreasonable to think that annual leave can be used as an excuse once or twice but after that it's just ridiculous?

Does anyone have any comebacks? I need to remain professional but if he keeps stringing me along i am going to explode!

Thank you!

OP posts:
ANightingaleSang · 27/09/2024 07:48

I wish I had asked this question on Mumsnet sooner. These are excellent replies. @BrokenSushiLook I completely understand what you are saying and I had thought of that. I have been patient for a year but now it feels like I'm being taken for a ride. Your suggested response is perfect

OP posts:
BrokenSushiLook · 27/09/2024 07:40

It might be that they are actually taking compassionate leave/carer's leave/medical leave but that you are not entitled to know the details of this person's medical or social private life so they are using the white lie of AL instead.

How you deal with this depends whether they are in your organisation and who ultimately controls and benefits from the work that is being affected by this.

It would be reasonable to ask in neutral terms whether it would be possible to review forward plans for the timescales of the project in the context of this person's other commitments so that you aren't working to unfeasible deadlines for outcomes that depend on this person's availability.

Bgfe · 27/09/2024 07:34

Are you in a position to escalate to someone senior to him?
If it’s just him the reply above is good. I would add that his leave plans have delayed resolution at least 15 times so you would like him to give a specific time when he will be working on your issue.
Not sure what carrots and sticks exist in this situation though.

Tagyoureit · 27/09/2024 07:31

I would just come out with it.

How many times have they used the excuse? I'd be petty enough to tally it up and explain that as this has now taken a year, would it finally be possible to get this actually resolved or can someone else now deal with it as you were only expecting this to take 4 months.

Is this something you are paying for?

mammabing · 27/09/2024 07:30

”Hello, please can you send me the dates of all of your upcoming annual leave as I’m finding it difficult to communicate with you in a timely manner. This way I can only message you when it’s mutually convenient”