3 DC have grown up and left home and since then I just seem to moaning at DH about putting his clothes away!
We have a tiny downstairs bathroom with no window so I like it to be uncluttered so as not to make it even more claustrophobic than it already is as I hate being in there. DH will use it as a dressing room, leaving clothes that he plans on wearing again on the hook on the back of the door every day, rather than take them upstairs. He also keeps his suit trousers in there rather than on a hanger. As well as his dressing gown. Three hooks full of his clothes. I have asked so many times now if he will just take all clothes up to our bedroom and hang them up when he's not wearing them, that I'm fed up of hearing my own voice. I must have explained to him dozens of times how it makes me feel. He knows I'm claustrophobic. He says that he understands and that he's sorry and then promises, every time, to make an effort to do it from now on.... but nothing has changed and this has been going on for 2 years now. I can't understand how he can possibly just hang them up again, forgetting that it makes me so upset. I'm aware that the original issue wasn't a massive deal in the grand scheme of things but It's kind of gone beyond that now and I'm actually more upset that he's seemingly not bothered by how it's affecting me...although he says that he is, and says that he doesn't want to upset me, he just forgets. (How?!)
We have a small cupboard downstairs that has always been for coats, but he now also keeps his workshirts in there once they have been ironed and so 75% of that is also taken by his stuff, as its more convenient for him. Whilst it's annoying that hes comandeered the cupboard for his own use, I've even suggested that he hangs his clothes in there to keep them out of the bathroom, but he wont do that either.
He's got a pile of clothes folded on the floor by the side of the bed that I really can't be arsed to ask him to hang up...its almost as if hes got an aversion to using his own wardrobe! Yesterday I took his suit trousers off the back of the bathroom door and hung them in his wardrobe. He had a shower and got ready for work and I heard him going round the house looking for them before asking me what I'd done with them!
I thought my life of moaning would be over once it was just DH and I, but I feel like I've still got a teenager at home! We are in our 50s!! I'm considering removing the hooks off the back of the bathroom door, but wonder if I'm massively overreacting and that this would just be a bit petty?!