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To be looking so differently now at Drs, schools etc etc

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Loveafridaynightchippy · 26/09/2024 22:11

Has anyone else had a change of opinion about things that they’ve not really questioned and always just accepted before, in the last few years?
It could be since a became a mum, but I’m wondering if it’s more.
My Dd has been very ill recently and I’ve gained much better help, advise from less traditional Drs-think medical Drs who focus on naturopathy too, homeopathy and so on, I never knew anything about homeopathy before my Dd got ill. The results I’ve seen are incredible and much more positive that traditional things like antibiotics, painkillers and so on.
I used to be a teacher and loved it, but I’ve found myself really questioning if this is the right system and the right way of doing things and am increasingly doubting traditional schooling. Even the way the majority of us work, the 9-5, the commutes, snatched weekends with loved ones, the yearly holiday.
Maybe I’m just becoming an old hippie! 😂
Does anyone else feel like this?

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Boobygravy · 27/09/2024 04:25

Autumnweddingguest · 26/09/2024 23:14

I know some trad doctors who also practise homeopathy. I once had to take a teenage tourist to a doctor when he jammed his hand in a tube door and it bruised badly and swelled up. She prescribed him some homeopathic tablets which made me very suspicious of her at the time. But they brought the swelling and bruising down overnight. I learned to be a bit more open minded from that.

Probably Arnica.
Arnica does work for inflammation.
Lots of people use it.

knitnerd90 · 27/09/2024 03:55

Oh dear -- I saw PANDAS/PANS mentioned. This is a minefield.

Don't get me wrong: It's very real. However there is a subset of the internet that is dedicated to suggesting that PANDAS/PANS is the cause of all sorts of issues that it is not. In some cases I think it is desperation to avoid diagnoses like OCD or Tourette's.

The other issue is that it can be quite difficult to diagnose and treat and that is a ripe field for quacks. You see this also with Lyme disease, particularly in the USA though there is a very suspicious clinic in Belgium.

Homeopathy simply doesn't work. The theory is bad, there is no evidence, absolutely nothing adds up. Practitioners often conflate various forms of herbal medicine with homeopathy because herbal medicine can work (it's not inherently superior just because it's natural, but some of the remedies do work). But there's no active substance in homeopathic remedies. It's a completely bonkers theory about water having a memory.

A lot of holistic and natural practitioners rely on the feelings you get when you go. There's no being rushed in and out, no feeling like you've been given a standard remedy, 10 days of amoxicillin and off you go! They do a very in depth questioning so you feel like you have been truly listened to, that the plan has been thought out specially for you. This is really important to the placebo effect. Many conditions will improve on their own without treatment, so when you go to the doctor and get better, you attribute the improvement to the doctor rather than to the passage of time. This is an issue in standard medicine as well; it's why it can be so hard to explain to patients that they don't need antibiotics because their disease is viral (for example). They've had antibiotics before and got better; clearly the antibiotics worked.

stammergreetings · 27/09/2024 03:55

OP, the homeopathy may well be working. If it is (or you think it is) and you are still pursuing traditional medical routes as well, there's no harm in it. It's just sugar pills/water. The risk comes if you decide to go against the advice of doctors and not give your daughter traditional treatment.

As others have said, the placebo effect is actually amazing (it even works in animals*), as is the effect of having someone spend time and listen. If you have the money, and it's working for you and your daughter, go with it. Just please don't start to use it instead of real medicine.

Naturopathy is more dangerous. There are absolutely alternative medicines and therapies that do work. It's just with alternative medicine it's not just sugar pills - they might conflict with medication your doctor has prescribed and vary in intensity so you do need to consult your doctor (not your natropath). Where a 'natural' medicine/treatment has been proven to work it normally becomes 'real' medicine. For example, you can get acupuncture on the NHS.

AmeliaEarache · 27/09/2024 03:30

Pat888 · 27/09/2024 03:28

Mumsnet hates homeopathy

Mostly people just hate quacks and charlatans.

Pat888 · 27/09/2024 03:28

Mumsnet hates homeopathy

PlayingDevilsAdvocateisinteresting · 27/09/2024 03:25

AllTheChaos · 26/09/2024 22:35

What? Really? My doctor hasn’t informed me of any great new treatments and I will try almost anything to improve! Can you share some links please? (Genuinely)

I also have Parkinson's and my neurologist has never mentioned anything to me either about AI having practically cured it. Also, if that is true, why do I keep on having strong drugs 4 times a day, which do help some aspects of my Parkinson's, but which also have some very unfriendly side effects?

I will be very interested to see or read about these amazing advances as well if @harrumphh replies to you @AllTheChaos!

Bgfe · 27/09/2024 03:19

OP your argument would make more sense if you meant HOLISTIC treatments rather than homeopathy. You talk about the gut/brain relationship. Yes. Very interesting stuff and worth exploring. It is real science though.

You sound like a teenager who has thought deeply about something for the first time and now feel superior to the ‘sheeple’ with their blind trust in government and science.

Teapot13 · 27/09/2024 03:03

And the question—“We can’t all be wrong, can we?”—yes, that’s entirely possible. Until less than 200 years ago, bloodletting was a common practice. All those people were wrong!

flashspeed · 27/09/2024 02:27

I agree with you to an extent - homeopathy is valid for some health concerns - I would treat covid or viruses or minor wounds with herbal extracts etc but the worry is when you listen to quacks, they will persuade you to treat EVERYTHING with it. A balance of both is good - you shouldn't mess around with an infection that has progressed too far, anything with the young or old that could progress to being fatal if not treated etc.

TempestTost · 27/09/2024 02:25

A lot of people say homeopathy when what they mean is natural medicine. The former is a theory with no evidence based and it also doesn't make sense. But natural medicine is a lot wider a category and does include things that probably do work. I think what can often make those practitioners effective though is taking more time to talk to the patient and try to get at what's going on. A lot of conventional doctors are too rushed and in the end treat everyone like a number, it's like taking your car to the garage at the dealership.

Anyway OP - yes, I have changed my view on doctors in recent years. A lot more than I realized seem quite stupid, and have little or no relation to evidence based medicine or, it seems, science.

PetsPalace · 27/09/2024 01:59

There's a finite amount of water on the planet and now it all contains (or not? if that's how homeopathy works) an extremely diluted amount of the cure for everything so just keep drinking it.

AllTheChaos · 27/09/2024 01:47

MargaretThursday · 27/09/2024 00:18

Dehydration. It cures dehydration.

😂

Mirabai · 27/09/2024 01:30

twentysevendresses · 27/09/2024 00:22

So... by 'traditional doctor' you actually mean a GP (with many years of actual medical training)?

And by 'non-traditional doctor' you mean a quack? Because they are NOT actual 'doctors' are they?

🤦‍♀️

You realise that people can train as both right? Conventional + alternative medicine.

AllTheChaos · 27/09/2024 01:02

Differentstarts · 26/09/2024 22:34

Yeah I would never mention earache again either if my nan pissed in my ear

The original post made me smile but your response actually made me cry with laughter!

Agapornis · 27/09/2024 00:50

I hope your daughter will soon be old enough to learn about the placebo effect, and that she'll be able to make her own medical choices.

Fwiw I know a woman who avoids medical professionals (because they are part of The System 🙄) and loves quackery. Didn't get her kids vaccinated. Guess what, her now-adult kids got themselves fully vaccinated and seek medical attention as needed.

iwfja · 27/09/2024 00:46

twentysevendresses · 27/09/2024 00:22

So... by 'traditional doctor' you actually mean a GP (with many years of actual medical training)?

And by 'non-traditional doctor' you mean a quack? Because they are NOT actual 'doctors' are they?

🤦‍♀️

Well she said she's in Europe so there's a possibility that they are actually a GP with years of medical training who has done a qualification in homeopathy and is flogging this shit to patients.
Plenty of them in Austria.

twentysevendresses · 27/09/2024 00:22

So... by 'traditional doctor' you actually mean a GP (with many years of actual medical training)?

And by 'non-traditional doctor' you mean a quack? Because they are NOT actual 'doctors' are they?

🤦‍♀️

Anxiouswaffle · 27/09/2024 00:22

You're not imagining the result but its a placebo - you improve because you expect to -it doesn't mean the improvement doesn't happen necessarily

You (and presumably because of you your daughter) believe in homeopathy/had a tendency to believe in it- otherwise you wouldn't have gone to one of these practitioners in the first place
Whereas i don't believe in it at all and would not visit one so it wouldn't work. I definitely wouldn't call them doctors

pinkfleece · 27/09/2024 00:20

MargaretThursday · 27/09/2024 00:18

Dehydration. It cures dehydration.

You need a lot of those tiny bottles to do that!

viques · 27/09/2024 00:20

MargaretThursday · 27/09/2024 00:18

Dehydration. It cures dehydration.

😃

pinkfleece · 27/09/2024 00:19

MissEsmeWatson · 27/09/2024 00:04

I've found homeopathy hugely helpful for my asthma, OP. Do what works for your daughter, let others think what they want.

You can get it cheaper from the tap.

MargaretThursday · 27/09/2024 00:18

viques · 27/09/2024 00:07

It’s funny how people forget that less than 100 years ago millions of people died annually from simple infections , TB was a death sentence, hundreds and thousands of children were maimed by measles, diabetes killed swiftly, polio and smallpox were unstoppable.

Yet to my knowledge not one of these once terrifying illnesses - not to mention all the other medical procedures we take for granted - have been cured , eradicated or halted by homeopathy. It has taken conventional medicine to find vaccinations and cures.

In fact I am trying my hardest to think of one homeopathic cure that has been adopted by conventional practitioners because they recognise that it works. There must be one, surely.

Dehydration. It cures dehydration.

iwfja · 27/09/2024 00:16

kookoocachoo · 27/09/2024 00:10

Worse is the woo-people who prey on parents of kids with disability and illness. The ones who “cure” Downs Syndrome etc

Hope there is special place in hell for them.

I agree. And the ones peddling woo bollocks to cure cancer in both children and adults.
Making money out of the ill and disabled,and as you say the parents who love their children and will stop at nothing to help their child.

kookoocachoo · 27/09/2024 00:10

iwfja · 27/09/2024 00:05

You aren't in Austria are you OP?
Total and utter pain in the arse here trying to find doctors who aren't peddling all this bullshit on the side. Quite often a husband and wife team will work together. Husband is a GP, wife runs some kind of woo practice on the side (often isn't medically qualified) and GP refers patients to wife for woo treatments. (Before anyone has a go at me about the man being the GP and the woman doing the woo stuff, that's the way it is most of the time here. Austria still needs to catch up as far as equality goes).
Now we have homeopathic dentists cropping up. What the fuck. No way in hell am I going to a homeopathic/hollistic dentist.
We've even got homeopathic vets. I have to go miles out of my way to visit a vet who actually treats animals with proper medicine (and also diagnoses them properly with proper blood tests and equipment such as ultrasound) rather than doing some kind of woo bullshite feeling their energy and then prescribing fucking water in a little bottle.
All of this shite should be banned. But it isn't and they get really pissed off with you if you say (politely, I'm always polite even though I have ranted here) that you prefer non-homeopathic treatments.

Worse is the woo-people who prey on parents of kids with disability and illness. The ones who “cure” Downs Syndrome etc

Hope there is special place in hell for them.

viques · 27/09/2024 00:07

It’s funny how people forget that less than 100 years ago millions of people died annually from simple infections , TB was a death sentence, hundreds and thousands of children were maimed by measles, diabetes killed swiftly, polio and smallpox were unstoppable.

Yet to my knowledge not one of these once terrifying illnesses - not to mention all the other medical procedures we take for granted - have been cured , eradicated or halted by homeopathy. It has taken conventional medicine to find vaccinations and cures.

In fact I am trying my hardest to think of one homeopathic cure that has been adopted by conventional practitioners because they recognise that it works. There must be one, surely.