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To buy an engagement ring to NOT propose

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Blahblahgoat · 26/09/2024 22:03

Let’s say you found your engagement ring. Then let’s say you found out your engagement ring was bought years ago (as in SIX years ago). You have been together 11 years, live together, have pets together and a kid together. He knows you want to get married.

Is it normal to keep hold of a ring for years and then propose? Or is holding onto a ring to just put off using it a huge red flag?

My head is spinning

OP posts:
llamali · 26/09/2024 22:08

If he hasn't been able to commit within 11 years he never will

Doltontweedle · 26/09/2024 22:07

SpringfieldPet · 26/09/2024 22:06

Please don't be beholden to him.
You want to get married, so why can't you propose? Be active!

I think you’ve missed the point though, that he was clearly planning on proposing, and decided he no longer wanted to marry the op.

SpringfieldPet · 26/09/2024 22:06

Please don't be beholden to him.
You want to get married, so why can't you propose? Be active!