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To think that 5 children growing up motherless because their Mum wanted cosmetic surgery is absolutely tragic *edited by MNHQ

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AngeloMysterioso · 26/09/2024 14:10

And actually a damning indictment of the state our society and the pressure placed on women to conform to increasingly ridiculous and unattainable standards of “beauty”??

A woman in her early-30’s has just died after having a Brazilian butt lift procedure in Gloucestershire, leaving 5 children who will now grow up without their mother. She’s not even the first woman to die after this procedure, which is known to be the most dangerous cosmetic surgery procedure commonly available- just the first to die after having it done in the UK.

What the fuck is going on?? Why are women literally putting their lives on the line trying to mimic some cartoonish Kardashian aesthetic? Is it that we place so little value on our own lives or so much value on appearance? Is it that these surgeries and treatments which were once the preserve of the rich and famous, are now available to pretty much anybody and can be performed by people with next to no qualifications?

I feel so angry for that woman, and desperately sad for her children.

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itwasnevermine · 26/09/2024 14:15

@Function men just die from the mental health crisis they have to deal with in silence instead. There's tragedy on both sides of the fence.

SensibleSigma · 26/09/2024 14:15

I have issues with our society that encourages extreme body modification as a normal part of life.

We shouldn’t accept expectations of grooming and presentation, or negative comments when people don’t meet them.

Tittat50 · 26/09/2024 14:15

I just read this story. I couldn't see why this happens in this procedure. It isn't the first time yet I understand it's usually when women have gone abroad.
I thought it was not being practiced in this country for that reason.
All for a big bum. It's insane.

I wonder what they tell patients having this procedure is the actual % risk of death

Tapestree · 26/09/2024 14:15

It is absolutely tragic, and says a lot about our society and the expectations on women to endure pain and to butcher themselves in order to conform to a norm. However, I do think that the title of your thread is insensitive to the individuals involved- she didn't simply "want a bigger arse", she was a victim of societal pressure, and your wording sounds like victim blaming to me.
It's all incredibly sad for all involved.

Function · 26/09/2024 14:14

BrigadierEtienneGerard · 26/09/2024 14:14

People have free choice. Sometimes their choices are stupid.

Sure - but men don’t seem to be dying from BBLs in the same way. Why’s that?

BrigadierEtienneGerard · 26/09/2024 14:14

People have free choice. Sometimes their choices are stupid.

Aquamarine1029 · 26/09/2024 14:13

Why are you angry for her? She chose to put herself, and the stability of her kids, at risk. No one forced her to do this.

AngeloMysterioso · 26/09/2024 14:12

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2m829lmk9o

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