People on this group!

Calling someone a moron either to their face (via MN) or behind their back in RL is never nice.

@HolidayAtNight

Those threads can definitely be nasty ABOUT Mumsnet, but the way posters interact with each other is very different.

Does that excuse how nasty they are about MNetters? Some of the stuff they say about me is truly awful. Not just Bootcamp - I don't mind that, as they patently have no clue about low carbing - but about me specifically.

I agree OP. I was just reading a post about curtains and comments had been removed for breaking the talk guidelines and I was thinking how on earth could someone be so moved to write something mean when the op was just asking if it was ok to return some curtains with a fault! I think there are people who get off on just being nasty. I was offering good helpful, totally I controversial advice the other day when someone randomly started attacking my replies either snarky comments. I guess to some it's a sport. Ignore the trolls. Your point was literally proved with the first snarky response!

Plus that’s part of the reason some people post. They want to know whether calling their baby Bertie-Bob Russell Roberts is a good idea, and friends and family are saying ‘Lovely’ and changing the subject.

lol it's nice you see the best in people but this isn't true. Lots are deliberately really really cruel with no advice at all. But also lots are very kind and helpful too but let's not dismiss the blatant nasty ones

I think it's nice that everyone is so honest on here, it's much better than people nodding and smiling in real life and then bitching behind your back.

and i was simply explaining why the "wah wah meanies on mumsnet" is quite so annoying

HTH

Those threads can definitely be nasty ABOUT Mumsnet, but the way posters interact with each other is very different.

I have absolutely no idea what your talking about. I was simply pointing out that threads/topics will get repeated.

It's not a new thing, but yes there are many nasty and rude people on here. People can be as rude as they want to when they are anonymous. The best thing is to just ignore the comments, don't feed them the attention they crave by quoting them or replying to them.

The thing about posting on the internet, as opposed to face-to-face conversation is that you don't have to couch what you're saying so as not to offend the other person.

That's not to excuse being nasty - but it does mean that posts here are much more direct.

I think it's also very refreshing to be able to say what you mean, and not have to kowtow to the #BeKind brigade.

(Oh, and if anyone tells you that Tattle is better/nicer/kinder than Mumsnet, just have a read of their long-running MN threads. It's beyond bitchy.)

See this "If you've nothing nice to say..." crap it really pisses me off.
I'm not here to defend nasty but if people only want to hear "nice" things then you're not actually a fully grown adult, and you do not fully understand how the world and human beings work.
You post here for a range of opinions. Not fake niceness

I mean the ones who jump on threads like this to tell off the OP for being unoriginal, new here, a snowflake, in the wrong place etc.
But don't seem to see the irony that they are posting on a thread they don't like.
And I've been here since this was all fields.
And I report bullying when I see it.
In this case, as I said previously, I wonder if the OP here is reacting to the really nasty vicious trolling that an OP of an overnight thread was subjected to. I've never hit the report button so fast.
I understand that AIBU is home to the vipers. I like it. It's entertaining.
But just because it's AIBU shouldn't mean that all vestiges of civilised behaviour should be abandoned.

I have been on MN for nearly 20 years. I do think it has got worse.
AIBU used to be robust, sure. Now, it is just seen as an opportunity to be openly rude, aggressive and argumentative. And it leaches into other areas. If you dare to post an opinion that differs from the general direction of responses, the vitriol can be vile.

Did you come on Mumsnet by mistake?

First post proves OPs point entirely.

YABU

It's the old lazy response that "people who disagree with me are trolls".

We're all different - you can't please all of the people all of the time. If you are asking a large number of people something, be pleased if 80% agree with you or support you. If you are focussed on the minority who think you're wrong, then it's not us, love, it's you.

You are the first one to post and have proved the OP right 😂

Ops point has been proven in the first post 😂

Lol, it's AIBU. It's known for it. Post in chat if you don't want to poke the Vipers. AIBU - you need to brace for a roasting.

If you are so fed up, why are you reading and replying on the thread?

You don't have to read everything just because it's here. If I don't think a post looks interesting I don't read it. Try that and you won't get fed up.

Why? Why should be prepared for bitchy answers?

It would be better for the posters mh if they took a breath before typing.

I agree. If someone says something you don’t like, either ignore it, or call it out and report them. If it’s just that they’re not stroking your ego, or agreeing with you, that’s fine. We all have different opinions. I don’t really give a toss what other people’s opinions are, beyond a quick scroll while I drink my tea. I just roll my eyes and scroll on. No one’s here to make you feel better. If you don’t happen to like me, pass me by.

Tsk, people are so touchy nowadays. If you are asking on AIBU, you need to be prepared. Twas ever thus.

I never really understand why people think AIBU is for support. Its not - its 'am I being unreasonable', just like Reddit's AITA - it is famously brutal and snarky. I remember when I was pregnant being on a baby forum and someone linking to AIBU because it was 'hilarious, but vicious and not for the sensitive'. And that was a decade ago.

The rest of mumsnet is fantastic for supporting posters, providing brilliant advice and information.