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To ban spooning between certain hours

106 replies

Calmondeck · 26/09/2024 07:59

DH is a hugger. He has 3 pillows, one for his head, chest, and back. But sometimes when his pillow fort fails him, he snuggles up to me, inevitably waking me in the process.

He thinks I’m a cold woman for grumbling about hugs, I think I’m going to murder him if I don’t get uninterrupted sleep.

I proposed a time ban - ie he can’t snuggle me before 7am (when our kids are waking up), he says that would defeat the purpose of him snuggling himself back to sleep if he had to look at the time.

Can I kill him?

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CheeseWisely · 26/09/2024 08:03

YWNBU to kill him. I'll help you hide the body if you then help me hide my DH's.

More than once we have had the 'Do. Not. Deliberately. Wake. Me. Up.' conversation. But of course he 'didn't mean to wake you up, it was just a cuddle' and then a full explanation that being touched will always wake me up and then it doesn't happen for a few months and then he does it again 🤯

Stoufer · 26/09/2024 08:03

Do you have a super-king-size bed? They are so good for minimising sleep disturbances between partners..

Namechangeforthis88 · 26/09/2024 08:03

Can he honestly look you in the eyes and say his sleep is more important than yours?

Putting · 26/09/2024 08:02

Killing him might be a little extreme. Perhaps a little light mutilation would suffice in the first instance?

YANBU to set a time limit, though.

JacquesHarlow · 26/09/2024 08:02

Agree with PP, you are definitely not a sleep aid!

Didimum · 26/09/2024 08:01

He definitely needs to realise that people need different conditions to get optimum sleep. You’re not a sleep aid.