To cancel our first holiday together 6 days beforehand

Who took the photographs?

She has binned him. And no, they aren’t all pigs.

Men are all pigs. Bin him

Yes she made a bad decision within an abusive relationship. If you don't see attacks on the OP Read again.

I think it’s extremely clear the OP has self esteem issues. From the beginning she sounded highly intelligent and articulate - they say opposites attract. Perhaps this skid mark was physically attractive and she couldn’t believe he was interested in her, or perhaps there was an age difference where he was a lot younger to explain the disparity in standards and expectations. Something must have happened for her to change her mind after all the advice and acknowledging what a shit the man was. Unfortunately it was all confirmed during this very expensive lesson for her.

OP - it was commendable that you returned to tell ppl they were right and offer this disgusting experience as a warning to other people on this forum - to listen to advice and end things when they don’t feel right. I’m sorry you went through it. Take from this experience that it proved once and for all that this man was no good to you or anyone else and had you got more involved with him - marriage/mortgage/kids - shit really would have hit the fan and your MH would be somewhere under the floor with fewer options available to you.

It was and awful, shitty experience but it crystallised who this person was and has prevented you from a life time (or any more time at least) of utter misery and financial ruin, and spared other ppl from being hurt through you. Well done on getting rid 💐

Please can the posters attacking and abusing OP take note that she has said that she is under the care of a mental health team and has been involved in a very unhealthy and arguably coercive relationship - during which she suffered sexual assault. You do get that coercing somebody into a sexual act that they don't want to partake in is sexual assault? Because it doesn't read like that and it is gross - I'm ashamed to be on this forum sometimes. You are victim blaming and baiting.

You are also very lucky that you are so unaware that situations like this arise in too many "relationships".

As to those troll hunting, reported. This thread would have been taken down by now if it wasn't 'real'.

OP, I'd suggest stepping away from this thread. I'm so very sorry this happened to you and I hope you get some therapeutic help, take care.

To be fair, she didn’t need to go anywhere to find out, she already knew what type of man he was as he already told her as detailed in the OP’s very first post. That’s why people were telling her not to take him on holiday.

What a horrible way to find out what type of man your ex is. Although you don’t have to go as far as Thailand for this to happen, there are bars and clubs in the uk that operate in a similar way, keep supplying drinks and you will pay for anything. People saying this happened months ago, it was only last month.

The holiday was months ago

Why r u paying for him..
Take a friend instead

I am sorry this happened to you op. It's a shame that you ended up paying for him as well. What a complete loser he is. I'd send the pics to his mother.

Please say you dumped him soon after?

He sounds vile and I'm glad you are well rid of him. Hope you manage to work though what happened and feel better in yourself soon.

I'm usually a kind and reasonable poster, I believe, but OP find your self worth for goodness sake. Have a backbone! I feel harsh but this is the most ridiculous update I've ever read.

How so? I’ve literally just repeated what you claim happened. You sat there while he had an orgy, no? You helped “finish him off”, no? Where have I been a terrible person? Not my fault none of it makes sense. Any normal person would have been out of there the second he began to unzip his trousers. Actually, any normal person wouldn’t have taken him on holiday at all.

She hasn’t posted any bank details which could be used. She’s just posted a screenshot of transactions - no account number, sort code, name etc.

Anyway - she’s successfully proved to the bullies and trolls she was telling the truth about the encounter.

I guess it doesn’t make it any better though that it was the truth. If anything, the truth is worse. But I guess she knows she’s made a number of massive mistakes and putting the boot in isn’t going to help her.

@Chickenrun12 as long as you’ve come to your senses now and ditched him, that’s all that matters.

Didn't you bring the subject up first? Sounds revolting now you are upset?

But good grief are you that desperate for attention? and no there is nothing gentle or hand hold about this

I believe you. He sounds awful and I’m so pleased you’ve finally left him. Sounds like he’s really done a number on your mental health. I wish you all the best and hope you’ll find a man deserving of your love soon

This is a few months old and OP has updated since the first post

I would tell him that you need some time with a girlfriend and you’ll do it again another time. Take some time to pause and reflect. If it’s Thailand there’s heaps of Swedish and Danish men there so maybe you might find someone new that respects women and equality.

I can believe this happened in Thailand very easily. I can see how you would have been coerced by your misogynistic arsehole of a partner into going in to a 'bar' in the red light district and participating in paid sex against your wishes. You knew he was a misogynist arsehole and you made a good decision to go alone which would have been a lovely holiday, instead you took him and had an awful time. It was predictable that you would, but I'm sorry you did and I'm glad it was the last straw that made you end it. Shame you had to waste so much money and ruin your holiday to learn that lesson and sorry you're feeling so unwell at the moment. Support from the CMHT will help and when you're ready, some domestic abuse counselling would be very helpful.

I live in Thailand. This stuff does happen rather frequently. It isn't uncommon and bringing the drinks + multiple girls is a common tactic because it raises the price.

If you don't pay, you get taken by police to jail until you do pay.

Anyone that goes with bar girls is scum, these girls are often from the villages and groomed by their father's and uncles and then sent to Bangkok to prostitute themselves and send the majority of the money home.

I have no idea if OP is telling the truth, but her story about what happened is far from the most outrageous I have heard.