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To cancel our first holiday together 6 days beforehand

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Chickenrun12 · 26/09/2024 03:55

Hi all, I'm trying to understand why my boyfriend would ask me this before I cancel our holiday. We have been together about a year and we are going to Thailand on Wednesday, he has never left Europe so we are both looking forward to it. Early today I mentioned I had read there are ALOT of massage places offering happy endings where we are staying thinking we would both have a have a bit of a laugh about it so I was shocked when he said 'I could get a hand job and you could watch' I laughed and said yeah right thinking he was joking but he carried on by saying 'it wouldn't be cheating if you were in the room would it'. I asked if he was joking and he said no. I couldn't believe he'd even suggest it. I said OK maybe I can get a happy ending from a man whilst you're in the room (I would never) and he got very annoyed saying it's totally different and why would I even say that. This is our first holiday together. I have planned and paid for this holiday as a gift and I just cannot believe he would even suggest it. He did apologise after I told him how upset I was.

For context he slept around alot whilst we were seeing each other but not officially together whilst saying if I ever slept with someone else he would never see me again. He swears blind he has been loyal since we have been official and I believe him (maybe stupidly). Any thoughts? I feel like not going at this point but maybe that's an overreaction

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Windrainandsnow · 26/09/2024 04:05

He slept around a lot when you first got together and now has asked your permission to have sex with another woman while you watch: this is who he is.

I don't think you can expect a monogamous relationship with this man.

So if it's monogamy you want then I think you should end things.

Scarydinosaurs · 26/09/2024 04:04

Do NOT take him. He has poor morals and an awful view of you. You’re not an equal in his eyes.

Boidont · 26/09/2024 04:02

I’d still go - just without the tosser

MrsPatrickDempsey · 26/09/2024 04:01

I think I would go on my own.

HamSad · 26/09/2024 04:01

Oh and he's happy to exploit women. In the bin for him.

HamSad · 26/09/2024 04:00

Get rid. He's not faithful and doesn't respect you.

HelenTudorFisk · 26/09/2024 03:59

You’re kidding, right?
This man is a walking red flag.
BIN HIM.