To cancel our first holiday together 6 days beforehand

go by yourself or take a friend. But this situation has red flags all over it, please bin him.

Why are you buying your boyfriend expensive gifts at this stage in your relationships. It should be the other way round. Quite honestly by doing this you are attracting grim spongers and lo and behold a grim sponger.
I won't go out with anyone who won't or can't pay his way. Please stop doing this and have some self respect.

🤮 He is a revolting sexist pig. Please please please dump his sorry arse. And do not take him on a free all-expenses trip, whilst he treats you like you are beneath him. Who does he think he is?!

Call the travel company and ask how much it would cost to change the name of one traveller. Take a friend/family member instead. If no-one is free at short notice please go by yourself. Solo travelling is wonderful, take a load of books, treat yourself to nice food, lovely massages (the regular kind!) and come back with a weight off your shoulders.

As well as the total stupidity of thinking that's an appropriate thing to say in a relationship, I don't think I could cope with the complete hypocrisy. He actually expected you to be ok with it...even though he actually got angry at you for mentioning it? Insane

You were extremely silly to get into this relationship in the first place, he showed you from the start he was a POS when he slept around but demanded that you didn't. He is a misogynist and controlling. Bin him.

Do not have him as a boyfriend if you want a monogamous relationship. You won’t get it from him. He’s seen you be fine with him sleeping with other people and is comfortable enough to have had the massage parlour conversation with you. He knows you like him enough to want to buy him a holiday to Thailand.

go by yourself, and have an amazing time.

Don't cancel but don't take him either.
If you do, I'd dump his sorry arse as soon as you're back.

Men who think sex is 'different' for them have deep rooted mysogynist beliefs. You may be able to get them to stop voicing them or stop behaving in accordance with them if they feel you will leave them otherwise, but they'll always be there. And a bit like the junk and clutter you shove in a cupboard and close the door on, they will keep falling out.

if there’s a ticket with his name on it you can’t stop him getting on the plane, the hotel may agree to changing the booking to your name only

Get this man out of your life completely - he has no respect for you, he uses women and he has no morals. The only good thing is that you have found out now and not when you are on holiday with him…horrible man. Regarding the holiday, cancel it or (better) go on your own or see if a friend will go with you if you can change the name on the booking.

It's totally inappropriate for you to pay for a really expensive holiday one year into a relationship. He's a wate of space. You should go alone or treat a friend. Your money would have been better spent on therapy to work on your boundary issues.

Cancel the holiday and dump him! Or go on holiday with a friend and dump him.

Ah, he's only joking! He sounds great, a right laugh. You really don't need a random group of unknown people on an internet forum to tell you the flipping obvious do you @Chickenrun12 ??

HE'S A KEEPER! You are one lucky lady 👌

Phone the airline/travel agent and find out if you can change the name on his ticket, take a good friend and have the best time.

You don't want to spend your life with a misogynist so don't waste another second.

Go on holiday enjoy yourself and go from there!

You’re still going on your amazing holiday - but he’s no longer invited.

Dump him! Take a friend, have a fab holiday and take a moment to celebrate not wasting any more of your life on him!

I’m guessing the same reason that many of us get into relationships with poor partners - low self esteem.

Would be drier than the Sahara for this fucking creep.

Run run run.

Fuck him off. Take a friend if you can but if not go and have a good time by yourself.

Go on your own, lose that prick.

He’s probably still sleeping around but enjoys the perks you’re giving him - free holidays.

Don't cancel it. Take a friend/ go on your own after dumping him

Is 'cancel the holiday' synonymous with 'break up'? Because there's no point doing one without the other.

A lot to take in when you have a ticking clock and the stress of a big trip ahead.

But this could be a life defining moment.

You paid for the holiday, which puts you in an even stronger position to go on your own! Would he have had you pay for his happy ending too?

For context he slept around alot whilst we were seeing each other but not officially together

So what was it about him that made you want to get together?

You should definitely still go on your holiday. Go solo or see if you can change the name on his flight ticket and take someone a friend instead.

I know you must be gutted, but don't let a creep ruin such a great trip.