Bisexual Awareness Month

But Sandra might want to work in an organisation where she knows it’s absolutely fine to discuss her wife out in the open. Don’t take it as a given that this culture exists in every place of work, it doesn’t.

Haha, wish you'd been around to tell my (unknowingly to me) bi DH that you can be bi and faithful and not always be thinking about missing sex with the gender of partner they aren't currently with. I would have had a lot less doggy style sex with him then. After I found out I read research that found that bi men were the most likely to admit to cheating in a relationship out of any group. So I'm really happy for you to date bi men but I wouldn't be taking my chances again.

We are accepting to the point we don't care! Which is how it should be! What you choose to do with your minge has nothing to do with work ffs!

Biphobia? What fresh hell is this? There's way too much oversharing now. Just do what you want in the bedroom but please nobody assume I either want to know or give a shit.

Being gay and bisexual is normal

Totally agree, I dont need to know what gets you going at work, its not appropriate - I dont care about your sex life

I'm bisexual and I find this ridiculous.

Who I have sex with is nobody's business but my own and I certainly don't want my sex preferences to be 'visable' at work.

It's fucking stupid.
Being gay and bisexual is normal. It doesn't need to be celebrated or made 'visible'
That infers it's something out of the ordinary or special. It's fucking not.

I'm absolutely sick to death of this rainbow bullshit and so many of my bi and lesbian friends feel the same way.

I've changed my mind, this thread has convinced me that one month isn't enough. Let's make it two...

But do I need to know if Sandra in HR is bi, how will that help sort out the stationery cupboard or remember the formula for concatenation in Excel?

Well, I feel the same way about all of these comments on here. There are several crass comments implying that talking about bisexuality is immediately implying something sexual, perverse, and dirty, that should be a secret and not able to be discussed. Yet nobody would ever suggest that someone discussing a personal aspect of their lives was sexual if they were heterosexual - even something like having children which is obviously a direct result of sex, as you said.

Why is it the case that discussing being bisexual or gay is immediately something private that goes on in the bedroom and should be hidden from the workplace, but being heterosexual is normal, acceptable, and perfectly civilised to discuss?

I wouldn’t be offended because they’re not particularly offensive comments. I’ve had similar about being left handed, or not having children, you can’t go through life expecting never to be offended, you can’t force dickheads to cease to exist, so the key is to manage your own reactions. It doesn’t have to impact you in the slightest, you’re choosing to let it. If someone had beaten you up because you were bi, or continuously harassed you, or painted slurs on your front door, then I’d understand, but this is so minor.

Some ways you can mention your sexuality at work-

• My boyfriend got promoted last month
• My husband and I watched that Netflix programme you recommended
• I went to Sicily with my boyfriend last year
• We're decorating our living room at the moment- I hate painting but luckily my husband is good at it!

As heterosexuality is assumed, if you are a woman none of the above is likely to invite any further question about your personal or sex life.

If you are a woman and you mention a girlfriend/wife in those examples, you are likely to receive personal follow up questions along the lines of the examples I gave upthread. Not every workplace! And not all the time! But at some point in your life you probably will.

THAT is the difference.

Who, exactly, is discussing ‘being heterosexual’ at work. I’m heterosexual and have never felt compelled to discuss my sexuality with anyone.

Nobody thinks bisexuals talking about their private lives must mean they’re discussing sex. The point people are trying to make, is that nobody needs to be explicitly aware of the sexual orientation of their co workers. Daniel wants to talk about abseiling at the weekend with his partner Neil, crack on - if that’s the working environment you have. Same as Pat from accounting might talk about her and her husband seeing the grandkids yesterday. Do we need to explicitly be told what sexuality those individuals identify as? No. They’re just people. At work. Performing a role. No further information required, unless someone is desperate to share - and that applies to hetero, homo or bi.

Well, I feel the same way about all of these comments on here. There are several crass comments implying that talking about bisexuality is immediately implying something sexual, perverse, and dirty, that should be a secret and not able to be discussed. Yet nobody would ever suggest that someone discussing a personal aspect of their lives was sexual if they were heterosexual - even something like having children which is obviously a direct result of sex, as you said.

Why is it the case that discussing being bisexual or gay is immediately something private that goes on in the bedroom and should be hidden from the workplace, but being heterosexual is normal, acceptable, and perfectly civilised to discuss?

Well, I feel the same way about all of these comments on here. There are several crass comments implying that talking about bisexuality is immediately implying something sexual, perverse, and dirty, that should be a secret and not able to be discussed. Yet nobody would ever suggest that someone discussing a personal aspect of their lives was sexual if they were heterosexual - even something like having children which is obviously a direct result of sex, as you said.

Why is it the case that discussing being bisexual or gay is immediately something private that goes on in the bedroom and should be hidden from the workplace, but being heterosexual is normal, acceptable, and perfectly civilised to discuss?

Oh Save us from these 'let it all hang out' enthusiasts!!
Yes I have a GF not a BF. I am pleased that @Katielovesteatime would accept me if she knew.
But my sexuality is none of her business. Neither is it her business if I tell anyone or no-one.
OP. A waste of time by everyone imo. Do please ask the 'why' questions at work.

Good for you that you wouldn't get worked up about any of that. Surely you can see that not everyone is the same as you?

I wouldn't cause a scene about it or anything, but as @XDownwiththissortofthingX says above it's this kind of quiet assumption that proves exactly why bisexuality awareness month is needed- so that heterosexuality isn't the assumed default.

"For example asking why you’re dating a man, could come from a woman who had just had a bad experience with men and said it in a flippant way because if she was bi, she’d write men off - without the context it’s hard to know." - this whole bit is really weird. Why make up some completely random scenario for "context" when you could just ask me to clarify if you're that bothered (I suspect you're not actually if you'd sooner tie yourself in knots making something up instead).

Bisexual people can't mention their partners in the same way, that's the whole point!

It might be the case at your workplace that nobody cares what anyone's sexuality is, but can you honestly not see that homophobia and biphobia exists and in some environments people are not able to share who they are fully for fear of discrimination?

See my examples upthread for ways in which my sexuality has been questioned at work. Do you think straight people are questioned in this way?

Well, I feel the same way about all of these comments on here. There are several crass comments implying that talking about bisexuality is immediately implying something sexual, perverse, and dirty, that should be a secret and not able to be discussed. Yet nobody would ever suggest that someone discussing a personal aspect of their lives was sexual if they were heterosexual - even something like having children which is obviously a direct result of sex, as you said.

Why is it the case that discussing being bisexual or gay is immediately something private that goes on in the bedroom and should be hidden from the workplace, but being heterosexual is normal, acceptable, and perfectly civilised to discuss?

I totally agree? They should ban all talk about partners, especially the endless drivel when they decide to get married. The worst ones are the ones with kids, they never stop mentioning them. How dare they shove their sexuality down our throats on a daily basis, constantly reminding us what they do in bed, nobody cares. What's worse are the inconsiderate people who have pictures of their kids in public view, it's just pure woke virtue signalling advertising to the world what they get up to in bed. Why keep advertising it every day of the year.

What is stopping you talking about your partner if you want to, Katielovesteatime? In the same way that I might mention my husband. Can't you mention your partner if you choose to?

I really don't get these 'penis in vagina' comments at all, just because someone says that they have a child? It's gross really. Everybody knows - whatever their sexuality - how babies are made, there's no need for this.

All we need to be 'aware of' at work is that not everyone is in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, and that we should remember this and not make assumptions by asking Jake if he's bringing his girlfriend to the works do, or similar.