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Affair partner lied to me

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Midlifecrisis4 · 25/09/2024 20:16

Hi. First time posting but could really do with some advice. My affair partner of 4 years blatantly lied to me today about information that he shared with another colleague. It was to do with him asking her advice about a forthcoming (secret) interview for a job elsewhere. I said did you ask her for advice when he went to meet with her and he said no and that the meeting was about something else entirely. Devastated as whilst I know that we are being deceitful by the nature of having an affair, I thought that between us we were honest, best friends and confidantes at work. For context, he is a big flirt, has got close to this other colleague in recent months and she has become distant with me over the same timeframe. I have long suspected he is a convert narcissist due to many behaviours and do wonder if he has moved on. I’m very much in love with him and desire him sexually - the reason I’m still involved ! Just very upset and don’t know where to go from here.

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greenwoodentablelegs · 25/09/2024 20:21

Probably time to re examine your life choices

TyneTeas · 25/09/2024 20:21

An Affair Partner lying is a feature not a bug

Createausername1970 · 25/09/2024 20:20

Are you saying you are both having an affair, so both have other partners?

If he is cheating on someone else to sleep with you, eventually you will be the one cheated on, whether that be emotionally or physically. You might have thought you have a special bond, but I very much doubt he thinks so. His partner probably thinks she (or he) has this special bond with him too.

Ibloodylovetea · 25/09/2024 20:20

It does rather sound like he feels your affair has run it's course & has either moved or is moving on.

WingSlutz · 25/09/2024 20:20

I think you're about to be replaced by a newer model OP.
Good luck.

Mapleunicorn · 25/09/2024 20:19

I’m going to assume you are fishing here, because if not you are about to get your arse handed to you