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To be frustrated when people make assumptions about your lifestyle based on your appearance?

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ShadeMuse · 25/09/2024 17:28

I’ve noticed that people often make assumptions about my lifestyle or financial situation based on my appearance, and it annoys me. I feel like they’re judging me without knowing my actual circumstances. AIBU to be upset by these assumptions and to expect people to avoid making judgements based on looks?

OP posts:
Ethylred · 25/09/2024 17:38

They're not making assumptions, they're drawing inferences. Completely different.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 25/09/2024 17:36

That's what most people do.

thing47 · 25/09/2024 17:35

@ShadeMuse there was a long thread about this a couple of years ago, don't know if anyone could dig out a link to it. The long and the short of it was, try re-framing this as amusing (lots of funny stories were posted) – after all, it says more about them than it does about you 😀

cheezncrackers · 25/09/2024 17:35

It's literally human nature to sum people up at a glance OP. Our survival can depend on it. But if you're a millionaire and everyone thinks you're homeless because of the way you dress, perhaps smarten up a bit?

K0OLA1D · 25/09/2024 17:33

Surely everyone makes a snap judgment immediately meeting someone. Its whether they allow that judgement to cloud other things. Do these assumptions change their treatment of you?

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