Childminder pay after bereavement

Sounds like you still worked and got paid so I'd just pay. If you'd had to take unpaid time off I might have a different view.

Just pay it. Be kind

When my cleaner’s husband died suddenly I transferred her £250 (about 6 sessions’ pay) and told her to only come back when she felt ready. She came back after 4 weeks and I started paying her as normal. She later said that was a real lifeline.

I would pay, and have paid in similar circumstances.

A little bit of generosity and empathy goes a long way. I aim to be the best person I can be (tbh often failing miserably), and I would pay.

Really? I thought childminders saw it as a business transaction too. Ultimately they need to earn money to eat. It's business.

Respectfully I disagree. A contract is a contract and a childminder should 100% build cover for holidays/illness/emergencies into theirs. After all they don’t work 52 weeks a year.

Pay her, poor woman.

I would pay.

I don't see anything wrong in taking it from the next payment exactly as she told you.

Self employment means that the rate they charge is set to already cover their time off. It is one of the reasons there is a difference between self employed rate and hourly vage of employees doing the same thing.

Nothing is stopping you from wanting to give her something extra, but it is your decision and both options are ok.

I don't understand why people who give someone at business context small extra money consider themselves moral or good doing so. In my eyes it is rather undignified, treating another adult as a servant who should be greatful for their breadcrumbs.

To not pay her would be such a disgraceful move IMO. I wouldn’t even consider not paying her, and if you did, I’d leave if I was her. Unbelievably harsh.

Yes pay her

@familylifeishard you’ve done the right thing by paying her

if it had cost you money/holiday entitlement then that might have been different

she's been with you and your 3 children for a time now, I’d buy her some flowers/chocs

I know you are going to pay her
Maybe you should point out to your dh that goodwill goes two ways.

youre husband is a tight arse poor woman

you said your other dc went there you soun like you like her and shes good at her job

I’m with you - it’s two days and you haven’t had to pay for childcare elsewhere or lose income through not working yourself, so pay her out of compassion.

Apart from it being the decent thing to do, she’ll be grateful and more inclined to treat your child better, if your husband needs a more selfish reason.

I would pay her for this tbh regardless of what the contract stated x

Of course i would pay her ! Your husbands sounds like a dick !

I would pay too!!
your DH is mean!

You worked at home so are no worse off and the goodwill generated would personally offset the money for me - your husband sounds heartless

Well from a purely humanitarian pov, its the right thing to do.

And from a practical pov, its the sensible thing to do. If you have a last minute meeting out of town (say) and ask her if she can help by having your son an extra day, she is far more likely to yes if she can. Dont pay her and you wont be in the wrong as she told you to deduct it, but she wont go out of her way for you will she?

I would pay her no question.

I’m a childminder. My mum died unexpectedly recently. I had 2 weeks off. I let each family know the amount they needed to deduct from the following month’s fees. Out of 6 families, 2 deducted the fees, 2 deducted one week and 2 paid in full. I absolutely did not expect or even hope to be paid so was hugely grateful and appreciative that some did pay me and totally fine with those that didn’t.
I’m sure your childminder will be grateful you have paid her in full.

Covid proved that many people don’t pay, but it is morally wrong not to in my opinion. Especially if you weren’t out of pocket because you had to take leave from work.

when covid hit I still paid my child minder and I was the only parent who did. I had a contract with her and didn’t want her children going hungry any more than my own. She actually then said I didn’t need to as she had figured out finances and was ok, but it meant a lot to her that I cared about her too. My child minder went above and beyond for me many times after that. She held a space for my second child even before he was born because she wanted him instead of other children, offers extra days or to help with things like when we’re moving and what’s more I genuinely regard her as a friend.

I would pay (I don't have a childminder, but when a client cancelled at short notice recently because of a bereavement I didn't charge them) but it's not really a penalty, it's just not paying for a service you didn't receive.