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To be irritated by people who constantly share their achievements on social media?

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TalkNerdyToMe · 25/09/2024 15:10

I’m getting increasingly frustrated with people who share every little achievement or success on social media. It feels like they’re showing off rather than sharing genuine moments. AIBU to think that this constant sharing is annoying and unnecessary?

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Alittlebitfluffy · 25/09/2024 17:06

TalkNerdyToMe · 25/09/2024 15:10

I’m getting increasingly frustrated with people who share every little achievement or success on social media. It feels like they’re showing off rather than sharing genuine moments. AIBU to think that this constant sharing is annoying and unnecessary?

Depends what they are sharing for me.

One old school friend treats Facebook like her personal diary and it's way too TMI. Another distant family member likes to brag about every fancy meal out and 5 start hotel etc.. I just roll my eyes and scroll past in those instances

But for people genuinely sharing big achievements - weddings, new houses, promotions, babies etc.. I have no issue with this, these are milestone moments in peoples lives and it's kind of what social media is there for.

I also don't spend hours on it either so it's easy to avoid it if it bothers me.

cardibach · 25/09/2024 17:04

Ifoughthefight · 25/09/2024 15:58

I don't have any real life contacts on fb, only people I met through shared interests and so on - who cares what random woman from the USA posts anyway

Can’t you just follow them through the shared interest groups then? That would stop you seeing their personal stuff. Though I have a couple of friends I only know via internet interest groups and I’m still pleased for them if they post happy news 🤷‍♀️

GoldenNuggets08 · 25/09/2024 17:04

A friend once said this about her social media "my page is my space, its not for you. If you don't like what I'm sharing, it's up to you to stop looking, not for me to change my content". I think in this case that fits fairly well.

Vettrianofan · 25/09/2024 17:03

I don't use SM so completely oblivious. Give it a try🤣

betterangels · 25/09/2024 17:03

ForSereneBluePombear · 25/09/2024 15:58

It’s a sign to get off social media.

But also this. Not having it is liberating.

betterangels · 25/09/2024 17:01

Surely that's what it's for? Don't follow people you don't like?

NerrSnerr · 25/09/2024 17:00

If people are on social media and don't like their friends and family posting their achievements why even be on social media? What is the point for you?

gannett · 25/09/2024 16:55

I only follow people I actually like on social media (apart from the professional bit which I keep separate). And I like seeing my friends thrive. I like seeing things they enjoy - a nice restaurant plate or a gorgeous holiday or a fun party or day out or their DOGS - and I certainly love to see when they're doing well in life. I'm all for people posting their achievements online.

I suggest that if seeing someone happy and proud pisses you off, you don't much like them in the first place and you're not their friend. So unfollow them.

bifurCAT · 25/09/2024 16:38

Some people need validation.

Needmorelego · 25/09/2024 16:36

@sandrapinchedmysandwich did you mean to quote me?
I'm happy for friends to share their good news and achievements and (I hope) they are happy to read my news.
As I said - that's part of the point of Facebook.

NerrSnerr · 25/09/2024 16:34

I want to see my friend's achievements on social media. It's nice to see nice things. Also like seeing their children's achievements too.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 25/09/2024 16:24

Needmorelego · 25/09/2024 15:14

Isn't that kind of what it's for?
I see Facebook as my personal online scrapbook that I choose to share with selected people.
If something good happens to me - then quite possibly I would put about it on my page.
You don't have to read people's posts if you don't want too. It's not compulsory.

Wow. If they are your friends then surely you should be happy for them. Why shouldn't people be proud of their achievements? Glad I am not your friend

fairydust11 · 25/09/2024 16:22

Onlyonekenobe · 25/09/2024 15:33

You've come on social media, to complain about people using social media for the thing that social media were invented for.

I think don't think social media are for you.

Completely agree. If you’re not happy to see these things, maybe leave social media or unfollow these “friends” that are irritating you.

Flugelb1nder · 25/09/2024 16:10

I put some thought into this and i guess achievements may be a bit of a brag

However we are all guilty of showing our 'best life' on social media. I dont show my regular day to day sitting in PJs life, but i might post a day out to the coast

Wisterical · 25/09/2024 16:08

It's a pleasure to hear about other people's achievements and successes. It's also natural to want to share them.

I think the people who struggle with this grew up in families where they were shamed by being told to 'stop showing off' whenever they were proud of something they'd done.

Spidey66 · 25/09/2024 16:03

Surely thats part of the reason for social media? To share your good news?

SoupDragon · 25/09/2024 16:01

What is the point of SM if not to share things? What are you allowed to share if you shouldn't share achievements?

CagneyAndLazy · 25/09/2024 16:01

ForSereneBluePombear · 25/09/2024 15:58

It’s a sign to get off social media.

I agree.

If it was someone close enough that I'd have event the faintest interest in their "achievement" I'd know about by some method other than Facebook, etc.

ForSereneBluePombear · 25/09/2024 15:58

It’s a sign to get off social media.

Ifoughthefight · 25/09/2024 15:58

I don't have any real life contacts on fb, only people I met through shared interests and so on - who cares what random woman from the USA posts anyway

buttonsB4 · 25/09/2024 15:54

Why aren't you pleased for your friends when they've had some joy/success in their lives?

That seems very odd of you.

HaPPy8 · 25/09/2024 15:35

I agree it’s nice! Far better than negativity. I like seeing people’s happy moments.

Onlyonekenobe · 25/09/2024 15:33

You've come on social media, to complain about people using social media for the thing that social media were invented for.

I think don't think social media are for you.

Maria1979 · 25/09/2024 15:30

This is one if the reasons I don't have social media. Noone is forcing you to be on it OP.

SoupDragon · 25/09/2024 15:30

Sirzy · 25/09/2024 15:14

I’m only friends with people I like so I like to see their achievements

This.

I don't understand why people are friends on SM with people they aren't interested in.