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Should DC have a relationship with people who treat you badly?

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wishuponarainbow14 · 25/09/2024 13:51

Background: in laws have treated me awfully for the past 2 years (since engagement and marriage). Previously got on really well - will never get the answers one needs when they're turned on for no real reason, there's been no apology for said bad behaviour.

I am now NC, husband is LC. It has caused many issues in our marriage. I feel as though he has not stuck up for me, he feels differently...

I am 12 weeks post having our wonderful first child. We both really love parenting and it is a pleasure to see what a wonderful father my husband is.

In laws showed no real interest in DC and MIL visited once when they were 6 weeks old (I have since gone NC).

They have asked my DH to see DC in December (I assume for Christmas). He said maybe instead of no, which is what we agreed would happen going forward.

I just don't understand why (please enlighten me and don't attack me, if you have a differing view). Why would they expect a relationship with our DC after treating me awfully, no apology and me going NC? I would not expect to have a relationship with a child, if I didn't with their parents? Please share your wisdom with me!

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Sugarplummama · 25/09/2024 13:54

On a serious note I think your DH is the issue here, obviously his parents are crap but he needs to be on your side more. Maybe his unwillingness to side with you is the reason for you having to go NC.

Sugarplummama · 25/09/2024 13:53

It’s a tough situation to be in. Friends mum disrespected her completely and a crap mum tbh, but now her DC is here she wants to be a hands on Nan? Aye!