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Saying please don’t drop daughter caused resulted in silent treated

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Gorton · 25/09/2024 12:52

We climbed the arc de triomphe with my 1 yo. I very light heartedly told my dh (child’s father) “please be careful, don’t drop my child” as we were walking down. In response dh said “OUR child will be fine” or something similar.

Dh basically ignored me for the rest of the day.

Who was in the wrong?

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Itisjustmyopinion · 25/09/2024 13:12

It comes across as if you were patronising him in two ways. One that you thought he was going to drop her and two that you think of her as your child and not his

I think it was one of those careless comments but can see why he was upset.

You both need to communicate better

AgainandagainandagainSS · 25/09/2024 13:10

Disapprove of sulking but that was a horrible condescending thing to say. Do you consider yourself the superior parent?

Name972 · 25/09/2024 13:09

Both wrong both right.

Gimmeabreak2025 · 25/09/2024 13:06

Massive over reaction he clearly has underlying issues and this triggered them.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 25/09/2024 13:05

Sounds like both are unreasonable unless you forgot some important info like he was on crutches. Did you think that he was going to drop her? Has he dropped her before ?

FeedingThem · 25/09/2024 13:05

I mean it depends on tone and the situation. Was he dangling her over somewhere or holding her securely on his hip? What prompted the comment? What was your tone - jovial, snarky? Also is MY child something you frequently do to prioritise your relationship with her over his?

So generally I'd say he's been overly touchy but, background....

theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · 25/09/2024 13:04

Did you actually say "my daughter" to your husband, father of your daughter? 😮

Littlesunshinemoon · 25/09/2024 13:03

Yeah I can kind of see his point to be honest. A) you said my child, not our child and B) I’m sure he wasn’t planning on dropping your child!

Catza · 25/09/2024 13:02

You were in the wrong for sure. Whether your partner was wrong to sulk depends on whether you have form for undermining him like that on a regular basis.

purpleme12 · 25/09/2024 12:58

It's a bit like when my child was a toddler and we were walking along the pavement and some random person said to me 'careful don't let her go in the road' 😂😂

I can see how it might have got his back up coming from his wife

BarbaraHoward · 25/09/2024 12:57

TeenToTwenties · 25/09/2024 12:54

You were wrong in your comment.
He was wrong to sulk.
Did you apologise?

Yeah this.

A shame to lose a day of holiday to something quite petty on the face of it.

Pipecleanerrevival · 25/09/2024 12:55

You were both unreasonable

TeenToTwenties · 25/09/2024 12:54

You were wrong in your comment.
He was wrong to sulk.
Did you apologise?

Original poster
Gorton · 25/09/2024 12:54

Title should be “saying please don’t drop my daughter resulted in silent treatment”

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