Saying please don’t drop daughter caused resulted in silent treated

You were in the wrong. By saying what you said you inferred he wasn't capable or careful enough to hold his child, that ye was incapable of keeping the child safe, that he was incapable of sensing danger etc.

He was in the wrong for the silent treatment. Is he 12? God damn be an adult and communicate when you feel aggrieved instead of resorting to childish muting.

Your warning came from a place of concern, so to punish you with silence all day is ugly behaviour.

OP, MN posters love to give a kicking for no reason.

He replied to you. Absolutely no need to spoil the rest of the day.

I bet this behaviour is not in isolation.

Unless there's some back story about you being constantly overlooking and criticising his care for DD, or making it plain she's YOURS, then he is being ridiculous over a light hearted comment. I honestly couldn't be with someone so sensitive they'd ruin a day in Paris by sulking over something like that. While we should be sensitive to feelings, there's surely a limit as to how many egg shells we need to walk on.

DD and DSIL joke with each other that the DGC are 'mine' when they are being lovely and 'yours' when they are being awful! If this was just a jokey lighthearted comment then I think he was being supersensitive to get sulky over it. In a good relationship I think one should be able to say something like this and the other person say something jokey back or if they found it unfunny and annoying they should be able to explain how they feel without sulking.

You both need to grow up

If he carried her all the way up he was probably tired and concentrating. I wouldn't want a comment like that either.

Why would you keep saying it all the time if you knew it annoyed him?

Agree @ErickBroch you're carrying something delicate and precious on a rather tricky staircase and someone says the annoying 'ooo watch out!! Don't drop X' 😐

You.it is our child and why on earth would you think he's incapable of carrying him?

I would have been pissed off if I was DH. I hate that kind of commentary - oh please don't do this thing which you are obviously already trying extremely hard not to do - it is extremely patronising. Sounds like he sulked because you didn't apologise - I would have also been annoyed until my DH apologised.

You say he has "never mentioned it" but even in your OP, you describe his reaction as being:

In response dh said “OUR child will be fine” or something similar.

You must have done it at least 4-5 times on this thread, so it seems you do this all the time without thinking, and it obviously pisses him off, yet you continue to do it, and have no awareness of it even when it is pointed out multiple times, I wonder how many times he's mentioned it and it just isn't registering that he is getting fed up.

I'd personally hate it if my DH did this to me, it's like you are treating him as a member of staff AND someone who needs instruction on how to care for YOUR daughter, rather than treating him as an equal parent, only you know why that is, but if he hasn't done anything to deserve that then you need to acknowledge it and work on it going forward as it is you causing that resentment, I'd be in a mood with you too to be fair if this is an ongoing issue that you refuse to acknowledge.

this I honestly didn't expect the replies on this at all.
I had my children out a walk with my oh last year and he was carrying the youngest near a steep hill and 3 times I said to him don't drop him- he got a bit frustrated understandably but the silent treatment all day because of that is unnaceptable!

MY daughter!

Of course it must be the man's fault, 'underlying issues' and so on. So many women refer to 'my baby' on this site then wonder why the child's father is not as hands on as she thinks he should be!

My DH will often refer to the children as each others, I can see me saying “ please hold my baby tight” in the same circumstances just is he might well say the same to me in fact there was one occasion when he said to then toddler so. ‘ well I know mummy feeds my little boy when I’m not here “ he was joking because said son was over fed on party food at the time and had just been sick 🥹.

we do it now even as adults I said to him this morning “ your son needs a loan to pay a bill “

it’s light hearted maybe it’s just us ?

but yes I think in panic under those circumstances I might well have referred to her as “my baby” doesn’t mean I think she’s more mine than his, unless she’s just been sick that is then she’s definitely all his 😂

You were in the wrong.
Unless he's that emaciated not to be able to carry a one year old.

It depends if it is a one off or if I am constantly being treated like I can't keep my own child safe. If he did, if this was a pattern in his behaviour I would absolutely walk away. Without respect a relationship isn't worth shit.

Well yes, as per the thread.

But my point is do they allow "babes in arms" to be carried by their parents who climb the AdT? I should have made myself more clear, obviously.

Seems like a H&S nightmare.