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AIBU to not want DH to wash my clothes with his streaky underwear

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Safirexx · 25/09/2024 09:23

My DH has a very relaxed attitude to leaving poo streaks in his underwear. It gives me the ick, and early on in our marriage it did upset me to be responsible for washing them and seeing all the streaks.

I told him this and asked him if he could please do his underwear himself and do it separately from the rest of the wash. (Or do a better job of not leaving streaks - up to him really.) I just don't like the idea of my clothes being washed in water that has poo in it.

As DS (16/ SEND) got older and does much the same, I showed DS how to wash his own underwear using bio detergent, and told him to add his dad's at the same time.

All was working well and I didn't even check anybody's underwear and felt much better about the state of the laundry generally.

However I've noticed recently a load of washing that had my clothes and DH's underwear all mixed in. It's very nice of DH to do my washing but I don't expect him to, and it's definitely hard to feel grateful when I think about my clothes being contaminated by his pants. 🤢

I don't know what the science is about this and wondered whether Mumsnetters would have a view.

AIBU?

OP posts:
ChungKing · 25/09/2024 09:46

I never understand this separating things out for the wash (bar colours and whites obviously) because it's all getting washed and will come out clean.

Your H not taking he minuscule effort required to ensure you wipe properly is the thing you should be concerned about here!

TheYearOfSmallThings · 25/09/2024 09:46

YANBU. Anything with visible faeces on it should be washed separately with extra cleanser.

BrigadierEtienneGerard · 25/09/2024 09:45

If your washing machine leaves your clothes "contaminated" because your DH's stuff goes round with them, you need a new machine.

icouldholditwithacobweb · 25/09/2024 09:44

But why the fuck does your DH - a grown man - feel the need to walk around with an arse that is SO shitty he's leaving shit streaks on his underwear?? This is beyond disgusting, and so unnecessary. And if he is that lax about something as simple as wiping his arse, does he wash his hands after going to the bathroom, or does he merrily spread those germs around everywhere too? Fucking rank.

GingerPirate · 25/09/2024 09:42

Unbelievable.

Nothingmatters · 25/09/2024 09:35

I don't understand why a grown man , and for that matter your DS, can't and won't clean themselves properly.
I can understand you not wanting to wash their underwear. But do you really sleep in the same bed as , and have sex with a man who can't clean his own backside?
And what about towels? Are they not marked in the same way?
I can't believe you put up with such disgusting hygiene standards.

JerryCanDo · 25/09/2024 09:28

I mean there is no reason to have streaks, and both your DH and DS need to improve their hygiene.
But YABU about the washing, the whole point is it's being washed. It's clean. If it gives you the ick though do something about it - do your own washing!