I’m making a plan to leave STBEXH after years of emotional abuse and verbal abuse/threats of violence. All my trust in him is gone. However in recent years the verbal abuse has mostly stopped, he’s stopped name calling in arguments (I can see him go to call me a name but then he stops himself) Apart from a couple of bad fights per year, day to day he is reasonable, “caring”, affectionate, generous with money, makes a big fuss on my birthday and at Christmas, tells me how much he fancies me and how beautiful I am. If anyone could see him now they would think that he was the perfect husband and there’s no way they would believe what he was capable of.
Has anyone been in a similar position? I told him it was over in June and he’s been the “perfect husband” ever since.