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Would you be upset by this?

30 replies

Mildon · 24/09/2024 19:40

I do the majority of the cooking despite the fact we both work FT. Dp says he’s rubbish at cooking and if just falls to me (interestingly the same as his family dynamic growing up).

If he doesn’t let me know what time hell be home, I’ll make dinner and have it on the table for him to heat up. If I don’t message him when I’m running late from work, he’ll cook himself something and eat it and then offer to cook me something when k arrive. I got really upset when he did this - how hard is it to cook my dinner at the same time and then have it waiting for me?

would anyone else feel the same?

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TimelyIntervention · 24/09/2024 19:44

He offered to cook you something, so while I get it, I think you’re overreacting to that particular instance. However, it sounds like it’s more about the fact that food always falls on you, and you are absolutely not unreasonable to want him to do more. Set yourselves up with a routine of who cooks and when. Doesn’t matter if he’s rubbish at it, he can buy ready meals, or anyone can whip up a stir fry, or a cheese/crackers/meats plate.

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/09/2024 19:44

It's strange and extra work for him but he's still offering to cook you dinner, so no, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

poppyzbrite4 · 24/09/2024 19:43

I think it's strange behaviour. I assume you've spoken to him about it and he continues to do it.

ThinkingUpsideDown · 24/09/2024 19:43

it wouldn't bother me either

Sethera · 24/09/2024 19:42

No, it wouldn't bother me.