to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

Though I can’t imagine there’d be much in the way of riveting conversation about the day’s work with a traffic warden, so there’d have to be plenty of shared views and interests!

YANBU OP, why spend time with someone when you differ over something so fundamental?

That specific job wouldn’t bother me overly. Plenty of jobs I wouldn’t date though. Police, bankers, Tory politician, just to name a few.

Suppose you met some gorgeous sexy interesting unattached man who shared all your interests and with whom you felt an instant connection, who turned out to be a traffic warden?

You can absolutely turn anyone down for any reason. You are being unfair to parking attendants though, it’s a job isn’t it, wouldn’t think less of anyone for doing a days work.

When dh lost his job, I was glad I'd married someone who would 'take whatever is going', as if meant we were down to one wage for a only a couple of weeks. But then, having wasted 2 years of my life with lazy, workshy bastard, anyone with a good work ethic would have hit my box.

I think it’s ok to not want to date someone because of any random thing, tiny or huge, that bothers you, or if you just don’t fancy them after all. Be as picky as you like!
In defence of parking ticket people, I am sick to death of idiots parking dangerously outside schools, blocking pavements and forcing pedestrians into the road. I wish there were parking ticket people everywhere all of the time!

Everyone is entitled to a defence. I've not questioned that.

Knowing your client is a child abuser, and you're getting paid to defend that - far more disgusting than a traffic warden, happy doing a job outside, and people think he's the undateable one.

This is a job for the authorities and we need some of them. Not sure what to say. I love intellectuals and softies, so good that your man won't end up the man of someone like me

I see your thinking, OP, and I would probably be similar were I in the dating scene.

I agree that there are necessary jobs - such as traffic wardens - but I think the issue for me is when people are enforcing rigid rules, regardless.

We all know people who constantly and flagrantly park selfishly, wherever they like, with no thought at all to the rules or other people - and people like that really do need the full force of traffic wardens on their backs.

However, there are so many nuances and genuine reasons why ordinary folk might fall foul of them and end up with a hefty fine. What if you have a GP appointment and they keep you waiting ages; or you need to fetch your prescription, but there's an issue or complication that leads to a huge delay in you getting your medication?

What if you finish your errands to go back to your car in plenty of time, then your toddler throws a tantrum, your baby has a poonami and vomits everywhere? Maybe people will just say that you should always pay for an extra hour or two, just in case; but parking often isn't cheap. Moreover, a lot of council car parks have rules (in my opinion, immoral and deeply shifty), where you can't pass your fully paid-for ticket on to another driver, however long you have left on it. Get held up and stay 15 minutes after you've paid for and you'll get a large fine; but pay for an extra 45 minutes that you don't end up needing, so the council can sell the same space again and get double the money in - that's all supposedly above board and normal.

Others may strongly disagree, but I get the distinct impression that most councils do not have uppermost in their intentions the smooth running and fair use of parking facilities; but rather they are hot on getting the fine revenue in. The 'ideal' of ordinary people - everybody parking fairly and considerately, with no fines needed to be levied at all - would be a horrific nightmare for the councils!

You don't have to date anyone for any reason you choose whether that is the job they do or the shape of their head. I personally think your reason on this occasion is ridiculous but people might think the same for my reasons like I won't date a picky eater or a man with long fingernails 🤢 and many other stupid reasons. I once dumped a guy who kept sending me selfies with his tongue sticking out.

Where have I questioned someone's entitlement to a defence?

Indeed you are

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How long have you been single for OP?

Show me where I've said I think people accused of a crime shouldn't have a lawyer?

Interested to know how, if they got off, anyone (including their lawyer) would know that they were in reality guilty and thus a perv or a paed as you suggest.

You don’t owe him anything. You either like the person or you don’t. If their job puts you off, then it puts you off.
Back when I was single I don’t think I would have cared. If I liked them as a person it would not have bothered me what their job was.

How is that even worse? No one should have to date anyone they don't want to but this is weird logic, not everyone can afford to wait for the ideal job when there are bills to pay.

People are obviously free to date who they like but there's no need to be scornful of a traffic warden, and saying that it takes a certain person to do this job.

Many/most in London are immigrants and I expect they are just trying to earn a living as opposed to being a certain type of person.

What is your job OP?

Totally fine.

You don't have to date anyone you don't want to and you never ever need to justify it to anyone.

It’s fine to not want to date someone because of their job.

But I think you’re being unfair to traffic wardens.

They provide a needed service and are just trying to pay their bills like the rest of us.

What job do you do out of curiosity?

Would you rather all the paedophiles roamed free because they couldn't get a legal rep and therefore couldn't have access to a fair trial and safe conviction? Personally I'd rather they have great rep so when the evidence shows they're guilty, they aren't likely to get out on appeal

Personally I think we need more traffic wardens as it seems, without them, people aren't able to stick to the rules and not park like inconsiderate toss-pots. So that job wouldn't put me off at all. In fact, I think I would be more put off by someone who dislikes traffic wardens as I would assume they drive and park like a dick!

What a ridiculous thing to say. As disgusting as paedophiles are, in a civilised country with laws every person accused of a crime is entitled to a legal defence. Quite rightly.