to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

So you would rather be with someone who was made redundant and sat on their arse because they were too important to be a cleaner or a traffic warden or something you didn’t feel was good enough?

I would have huge respect actually. I am a rules sort of person though and am very grateful for traffic wardens and think they are awesome.

I would not date someone whose job didn’t match my values. Someone who ran a tobacco company for example. Or high up in the gambling trade.

What! Making sure people follow the rules of the road!

It's just job.

You should date who you want. Just like I wouldn’t date a surgeon, or a “wannabe” artist/actor/musician or a high level manager in a corporate company.

For god's sake people, a democracy gives the right to a lawyer and fair trial. Would you really want to live in a world without that? Sorry to add to the massive derail...

@OrdinaryMatilda you do realise a large number of defence lawyers are poachers turned gamekeepers and also prosecute crime as well as defending. In both cases, their role is to test the evidence to ensure if there is a conviction it is a safe one. Ill-informed attitudes like your own simply make a very hard but entirely vital job much more difficult. These people deserve gratitude not your disgust.

It's your choice. But your friend saying you're being silly makes me wonder if there's a pattern here.. do you rule out people all the time for various, sometimes trivial reasons? If you don't like him, you don't like him but sometimes we can self sabotage. And if he's great in other ways, I don't know if this should be a deal breaker! People take less than ideal jobs all the time for various reasons- and people's employment can change at any time!
I worked with a former traffic warden who left it to take a 'better' job.. actually said he wished he'd never left as it was a nice job, walking around all day and actually paid better than the new job!

I don't think you're unreasonable for choosing not to go on another date you don't have to date anyone for whatever reason. However, I do think you are unreasonable to think somebody doing that job has no morals, is not a very nice person etc. For a lot of people a job is a job especially in this current financial climate, there are also a lot of people who are just selfish idiots with their parking. I live opposite a busy private school and we have been begging parking enforcement to turn up and do their job, maybe then we could get on and off our own driveways and not have cars driving and parking on pavements, double yellows and yes even sometimes the middle of the road on hockey match days! I do think you're being unfairly judgemental, but don't think you have to date the guy.

You are perfectly free to date, or not date, whoever you want - however personally I think you are a raging snob, so be prepared for someone not to want to date you. I certainly wouldn't date a snob. This man has had a lucky escape in my opinion.

To answer your question though OP (sorry for my slight derailing) I don't think it's a problem to not date someone based on anything really. It's up to you and you've no obligation. However you could be missing a really nice loving person if you're too restrictive as people are more than their jobs.

If a client tells a lawyer they're guilty a lawyer can't tell the court they aren't. They can test the other side's case but not say the witnesses are lying just challenge in terms of how do you know that's what you saw etc and then make a submission at half time to say the case hasn't been proved but if that didn't work they couldn't then carry on and defend the person by putting forward a case that the person didn't do it. Most of the time, therefore, a lawyer would say they couldn't continue to act if the person still wanted to go not guilty and wasn't in their best interests. A friend of mine tried to explain it as they're a lawyer in the field but yeah, if they confess you can't tell the court they didn't do it (you don't have to tell them they did but hence why it's easiest if they get a different lawyer or go guilty)

Perfectly fine. I could probably cope with a traffic warden as I can believe there are some who aren’t morally bankrupt but I’d never date a letting agent for example.

This. If you treat the grace period as a grace period, not as an extension, you arrive on time.

What you seem to want OP is a grace period for a grace period. And you'd want another after that presumably.

But if people didn't park like dicks, we'd have no need for traffic wardens.
Your friends ignored the parking restrictions, then ignored the grace period that they were given on top of the restrictions and are now upset that being 1/2 mins (really 11/12 mins) late back they've got a ticket....

I guess there are certain jobs that would put me off someone but it would more be to do with the things that go along with that job eg would I need to move to facilitate their work, would their job put them in danger every day, would they work ridiculous hours and leave me alone a lot of the time. But something like a traffic warden probably wouldn't bother me overly. I think I would look more at their qualities eg do they have drive and motivation to progress and develop themselves as I do.

@Newmumatlast guessing they tell their lawyer they are guilty but under oath and have to do their best for them

It is a person with their whole life, hobbies, and interests... that happens to be a traffic warden. it is just the way they get their money.

"one of those people that puts parking tickets on cars"

err Parking warden? Civil Enforcement Officer?
perfectly reasonable for you to not wish to date him, but you sound such a snob he's probably had a lucky escape.

I genuinely could not find a traffic warden attractive.

Thank you, very interesting.

It's fine to be picky as long as you're not bothered if men don't want to date a single mum which I'm sure puts a lot of guys off, especially if he doesn't have kids himself.

YANBU to not date who you want.

YABU for thinking you are better than someone with a low-paid essential job doing a service that benefits the community.

Perhaps he has ambitions to be more than a parking attendant? DH had a series of lowly paid, lower status type jobs before he found what he really wanted to do with his life, trained and became a professional healthcare worker in his 30s.

Or is it once a parking warden, always a parking warden?

Fine not to date anyone for any reason!

im not sure it’s fair to judge their whole personality on that particular job though; he didn’t make the rules. And I’d bet you wouldn’t be so worried about dating someone high up in the council who is in charge of parking enforcement or budgets.

he’s trying to earn a decent living enforcing rules.

you may have missed out on a good un, you’ll never know.

I think if you had a good connection with someone and the only thing holding you back from moving forward is a job, I'd think you were daft. It clearly comes from a place of snobbery and writing off someone who you (maybe) had a connection with is stupid, but if that's how you feel own it.