to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

YANBU. I wouldn't be bothered by the actual job, more that he appears to have less ambition and work based success. I'm attracted to ambitious people and wouldn't feel comfortable accepting a life with a low wage earner who had no ambition to increase it. Life is expensive, I want a partner who can help provide a good standard of living (alongside my income)

YANBU

You don't know that he's the type to ticket somebody 1 minute over, he might be very reasonable and fair but you've judged him already.
That could be your soulmate right there but you've come across a bit snobby tbh. Do you have an amazing job?

Based on MN stories, a few paeking tickets that he pays out of his own money is a minor issue in the grand scheme of things. Many one here are stuck with neglectful and/or abusive partners. Mine is good as gold apart from his twatish parking habits. So, on balance, I think I'll keep him.

Might be time to change partner?

A job is a job these days. For all you know it could be a stop gap.

There are plenty of men out there who wouldn't date a woman who was too fat/skinny/tall/ugly.... we all have our preferences.

Me too. Not because I don’t have respect for them- I do hugely because it’s a really tough job but I am vegetarian and knowing what they had to go through (and the smell) would be really distressing

This.

Also no one goes into that job because they want to defend pedos ffs!

I’m a former defence solicitor. I got into criminal law because I believe everyone should have a fair trial regardless of means. You can’t pick and choose your cases - no one in the firm wants the horrible cases but that’s the job.

Definitely not being unreasonable.

Someone being a traffic warden wouldn't bother me at all.
An abattoir worker for example would be a definite no.

You mean those people that Stop selfish idiots from parking in disabled spaces. Stop selfish idiots from taking every parking space reserved for residents. Those idiots who ticket people who think they don't need to pay for parking or that rules don't apply to them. I think they are well rid of you if that's your attitude.

@Maria1979 Some of those like PT, artist, musician, dj, youtuber, etc are also now middle aged so you do risk running into them on the dating scene.

With some like the PT, artist, dj, musician etc would work odd hours so if you did a normal job wouldn't be free when you are especially if say like an artist they also worked in hospitality to pay the bills. Others like a YouTuber you would have to find out what their channel(s) were about as many do a channel link to their current profession. So they could be a lawyer, doctor, IT professional, travel agent, journalist or whatever.

I'm in slightly two minds about traffic wardens.

There is a junction near me that has hatchings and cameras. There are two lanes in and two lanes out. There are double yellow lines on the junction's exit. When people park on the double yellows it blocks the exit and people end up getting £130 fines for stopping on the hatchings. You'd think that would be a great place to hand out parking tickets, but people seem to be able to park with impunity on the double yellows at the junction's exit. I can't help but think they're working with the council to maximise the camera revenue.

Ultimately, people are selfish arseholes and traffic wardens are essential. Just go to Paris to see the chaotic and dangerous parking that happens when the rules aren't enforced.

I fucking love traffic wardens tbf, people are cunts and already at like the rules don't apply to them with there's a possibility of consequences, imagine if there was absolutely no deterrent to parking like a prick.

Couldn't date someone working for a charity mind, imagine actively taking money out of a charity when you know exactly where that money could be going to help less fortunate people, and then parading around the badge of "i work for a charity" as though theres some nobility in that, you may aa well with for a big pharma company. (Am I doing this right?)

OP still hasn't said what her job is! Other than she works for a charity.

@Terracata its fine not so date someone because you don’t like their socks or the tone of their doorbell- it’s definitely fine not to date someone because of their job!

Give me a traffic warden over a perennially unemployed bloke any day of the week. I doubt it’s his dream career but it’s an honest graft compared to the anxiety/IBS/bad back/Fibromyalgia crowd.

So not all of them then? I doubt very much defence lawyers are crying into their cornflakes because of my opinion, and nor is it making their job any harder.

No, I don't need to respect any role, where the purpose is to defend against the undefendable.

Sorry for derailing your thread OP.

Says a lot about people however, who are quick to scorn a traffic warden, question his intellect, and others who are blabbering on about the rights of paedophiles (which I never questioned).

Have a good day all!

YANBU it’s your personal choice who you do not date and why

I would never date a bailiff or water ever they are called now

Totally fine not to date for job reasons. Most people do this without even realising they are.

I used to work with traffic wardens. They were a mixed bunch but mostly lovely. I remember being witness to extremely unreasonable abuse I personally could not have taken. It's not a job any of them would have sought out as a career goal. Some just didn't have a lot of job prospects and the hours etc suited, a couple had quite severe ADHD so being out and about walking miles each day was a great job for them. And while you might not like it, they are just actually upholding order on our streets. It's no biggie. Sometimes they will lurk to catch a car, and yes they will always take advantage of repeat offenders which are an easy win. They have targets to make, and at the end of the day if you get a ticket, you were the one in the wrong.

There is a really good podcast called " things people do". Hosted by Jo Marlo. He interviews ordinary people about their jobs. It's so interesting. He interviews traffic warden once and honestly it opened my eyes. Well worth a listen

Your friend is being unreasonable. You can choose not to date someone for any reason, or no reason at all.

I wouldn't date him if I was looking for something long term because he doesn't sound very ambitious. It sounds like a dead end job that is low paid so I wouldn't be interested.

Lawyers will defend people that they know are guilty and suggest explanations for events to their clients - e.g. "I expect you found the old lady's purse on the floor."

It's no different when they defend paedos and I think it's a bit rich for lawyers to try and hide behind the nobility of 'everybody deserves a lawyer' when all they care about is winning/losing the case - even when that puts a paedo back on the streets.

Judging by the number of parking threads on here, many mumsnetters would be delighted to date a parking warden. He could ticket all their badly parked neighbours and school run drive blockers.