to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

Yes, this is my issue: when they give out as many tickets as they can to hit targets, regardless of whether they're justified or not.

I was talking to the manager of a shop the other day, who was parked outside the shop (pedestrianised area, plenty of room to get by) for three minutes, whilst she unloaded a car full of stock. The warden knows her car and that she works there - and could surely see the car crammed to the roof with products - but he still gave her a ticket. She had all the faff of appealing and was successful in getting it quashed, but it's just a huge waste of everybody's time - plus many vulnerable people would just pay up without appealing.

This is why so many people hate traffic wardens - not because of the ones who clamp down on blatant selfish arrogant people.

Your dad was disgusting for acting like that; but I wonder what you're supposed to do when the space markings genuinely cannot be seen because of sand, snow or whatever.

Are they expecting you to get a spade to clear the sand/snow, so that you can (by trial and error) find where the space is? Or should you just not use the car parks at all?

I wouldn’t date anyone with anything to do with the Army or a bailiff (doesn’t aline with my values), or a policeman or a Fireman (I have anxiety and couldn’t cope with the risk of their job).

but a traffic warden? It’s just a job.

At least they are working

Well you do you obvs.
My observation is thar without traffic wardens there would be chaos.

Definitely fine to exclude him for whatever reason you like! I got chatting to someone on online dating years ago who had worked as a shop assistant for the last 4 years. I’m ambitious career-wise and just knew I wouldn’t be compatible with him. I told some friends and they thought I was being awful. The same friends that when I told them I’d been on a date with a Japanese man said that they would never date someone Japanese because he wouldn’t be tall enough!

I wouldn’t date a copper no. They have very high rates of domestic violence in their relationships.

Because they give out tickets to hit targets and they often give out incorrectly and cause stress and upset as people have to get them cancelled.

Have twice been given tickets for incorrect reasons and I think most wardens are proper little shitebags. If one was fit enough I might waive my principles but someone doing this job would give me the absolute ick.

#notalltrafficwardens 😆

It’s fine to date who you want. But I don’t care about traffic wardens because I always park correctly.
If you pay to park and don’t park illegally why would you care.

Hold on, you don't want to date someone who is cracking down on arrogant pricks who think they can make things more dangerous for kids, other drivers, pedestrians and cyclists by parking illegally? Or who think that they don't need to pay the £1.90 because they think they are better than that, even though it funds essential services?

Do you know where those (well deserved) fines go? To support maintaining the roads, to public transport? Taking the pressure of child and social care?

Absolutely choose who you date, but I think your choice is misdirected - not exactly a finance bro or an oil baron destroying the world is it?

That is absolutely no true. There is no 'rotation', a lawyer can refuse any client for any reason. Of course everyone has the right to be represented, that also means though that any lawyer has the right to reject to represent that client. And, we also, in a fair society, have a right to reject dating a lawyer who would choose such a client.

This is crazy. You know lawyers rotate so they have to take turns doing these type of cases- to have a functioning legal system everyone needs representation.

@Melonjuice As the OP said, these grubs charge for one minute over. And as she said, a woman with a baby in her arms and breast half out was running to the car and stood there crying as the maggot wrote the ticket. Anyone who does that to another human being is nothing but shit in the sewer. There is EVERYTHING wrong with it. These maggots should get a decent job instead of gleefully seeing a desperate mother with breast half out crying in the road.

Would you date a police officer? It's the same thing. They are enforcing the law. He's only giving people tickets who park illegally, and it's for the council and not some seedy private rip off company.
It's fine to have your issues with stuff like this but you've just added another box to tick (must have job I approve of) as well I assume soh, nice looking, want same things in life, similar beliefs, etc etc. Good luck finding love 🤣🤣

Spot on & 100% agree.
That said OP can date/not date whoever she likes for any reason she likes.

Although reversed, I’d not date someone who thought like that about people doing their job and working to earn a living. For me, it says more about OP that that’s her reason. OP owes nobody a relationship (of course!!). But I’d probably have kept my opinion of why I wouldn’t date him to myself as it isn’t pretty, is it?

Completely fine. A womans gotta have standards. Your friend is the one that is being unreasonable. Ask her if she would date someone who defends paedophiles in court. Or a used car salesman. I wouldn't ever date anyone involved in the military nor anyone who even showed an inkling of interest in the military or anything related to military/forces. Nor police officer. That doesn't make me bad or petty or fussy. Just someone who knows the type of people she doesn't want to associate with.

I used to do that job but for the police . Nothing wrong with it . Get a grip

I'm still none the wiser. Is the OP telling us she's unemployed.and volunteers for a charity? It's not as if you earn big coins working for one either.

You can reject a potential mate for any reason you want. No reason to make a big song and dance over it though.

My DP is a postman for the same reason. He was turning 40 and between jobs when I met him. Jobs can be a good indication of someone’s character but circumstances and context are important. If I’d been rigid about career and status requirements I wouldn’t be with the wonderful, kind, caring, supportive equal partner he’s proved himself to be.

Not unreasonable at all - you are perfectly entitled not to date someone based on anything at all, completely up to you.

Your view of parking wardens is odd though. Do you think parking should just be a free for all? And you do know they don’t make the parking rules? Would you not date a local councillor who sits on the committee that makes those rules?

I think you’re fine to have whatever feelings you like. Out of curiosity though, did the date go well otherwise ?

Absolutely no problem at all. You can date whoever you do and don't like.
I'm similar (i haven't come across a parking warden yet), but I want to date someone that matches my level of education and has a career that isn't what I consider blue collar. I also have some professions that I stay immediately clear of, armed forces, police, anyone in law, and a few other that I know harbour an above average amount of narcissists. One of my main requirements from a partner is someone who can intellectually challenge me, and someone who can tell me about their day, their work issues, what they learn through work etc and me be able to do the same. I can't imagine Mr parking warden will come home and have engaging stories about his day.
The only caveat to this would be is if he is doing it temporarily for whatever reason and is looking for a different role.

Ita so good to have your boundaries in place on date 1. Each to their own and equally I wouldn't judge someone that would date this person as again, they might have a different set of boundaries, also fine.
But you know what yours are.
Good luck with the ongoing search x

Yanbu. On reading the title my immediate thought was that I wouldn't go out with a traffic warden, bailiff or police. 🤷‍♀️

Op whatever about the parking attendant. The first guy you dated and said was lovely but no spark perhaps you should try a 2nd date with him. Give the spark a chance to grow ...