To report this mum to the school

We have many of these mum's around my childs school too! It's disgusting you'll be surprised how common it actually is, there's always texts from the school office regarding parents complaining about other parents swearing in the playground, smoking outside the gates, or using vulgar language in the school grounds! Myself and other parents, have all smelt booze and weed on parents too!

Please report, the school might be aware of her but not be aware of her recent comments or their specifics. The usual advice about the missing piece of the safeguarding jigsaw puzzle.

Alco mum at my children's primary clearly very drunk turning up stinking at 9am , crashing car etc. school reported to SS under safeguarding but children still with mum. Sadly they be better off not. So if you report as well it would help the children.

The school are being cowardly in this matter, turning a blind eye. Someone needs to tell social services.

I think LADO is who you contact if you have concerns about someone who works with children. Not actual parents. Usually bog standard social care. I could be wrong but that's how I have understood some training I did.

Yes definitely, I'd report to school and SS

Absolutely report to Children's Services. If she is under the influence and in charge of a child and young baby this will be taken seriously.

Tell SS and the school. I’m surprised by reports of schools doing nothing in similar situations - my DC’s school refused to let two children leave when their mum turned up to collect them very obviously inebriated.

Surely just ring the police at the time? Drunk in charge of a minor I presume.

My dd had a friend whose mum was exactly like this in primary school. There's actually not a lot that seems to be able to be done. The school banned her from the premises after a couple of incidents and the teacher or assistant or headmaster used to walk the children out of the gates to meet her. No help at all for the kids and so embarrassing for them. Mum gave no shits.

She once asked my nanny if she'd mind picking her kids up for her, and walking them out of the gate as the school wouldn't let them leave without an adult (they were 5&9). She said they could then just get the bus home on their own once they were out!!!! My nanny was a mandated reporter so reported this and yet again nothing was done.

Dd followed her daughter on social media for years after they left primary. Lots of videos of her smoking weed with the "best mum in the world" and she's currently awaiting trial.

It's so bloody frustrating. She was a clever, funny, kind, cheerful girl and I believe she was badly let down by the authorities who kept her with her mum.

I agree, it a SS report.

Some people need help, let's hope she get's some 🤞

Fortunately things have changed. Safeguarding is a huge things for schools now. Sadly I have had a few children of alcoholics in my class over the years and the school certainly didn't turn a blind eye. I actually once saw a parent leave her 8 year old dd in a pub garden while she sat inside the pub getting drunk and arguing with people. I reported it to the school and social services paid a visit. As a school we kept a close eye on the child, making sure she had a decent packed lunch, clean uniform etc and checked on her emotional well being too. Eventually the mum went into rehab and we were there for the family as much as possible

If a mum is constantly under the influence if alcohol they will intervene no matter how well dressed the children are.

Contact SS. They can reach out and offer help to this mum. People seem to think that SS is there to take kids away from their parents. It's actually only used when all interventions have failed. Call them OP or tell school. What if she accidentally killed one of her children by negligence when being drunk. You would regret your inaction for the rest of your life. Start with school if it's easier for you, they would know who to contact.

SS might intervene if you tell them about the alcohol though.

You need to report this to social services, but even if you do, I doubt if anything will happen. The bar for social services intervention is high, and they won't do anything about a mum swearing. If the children are fed, clothed and clean, SS won't interfere.

Doesn’t matter. They can do their reports. Parents noticing is also important safeguarding evidence. Contact the LADO by looking on your local authority website.

The school might not do anything about it. My dad used to regularly forget to pick me up from school because he was in the pub or in bed at home. I'd be left waiting and waiting. Once the principal even drove me around the village looking for him 🫣
He came to parent/ teacher meetings clearly drunk, talking absolute bollocks. Nobody ever did anything whatsoever.

Please report this woman. I hate to think what that child's home life is like.

School won't have exactly missed her, and have probably reported her as part of their own duties for safeguarding, but it's not them who will deal with her, so I don't know why you'd want to try to go through them.

Make your own report (edit) to children's social care/local child protection team as you're responsible, as a reasonable adult, for safeguarding vulnerable children too.

To be fair, the loud swearing (aggressive behaviour or demeanour) is a more visible/audible issue due to other children being exposed to it. No child would recognise that she's drunk unless she's literally falling about slurring her words, and even then...not all.

The drunk bit is for safeguarding of her own children.

I know many on MN swear like no other (probably loudly too even if not on school grounds) so this part would be a touchy subject.

You need to report to social services as well as the school

Yes I would, although the school will likely be aware already.

My DDs friend had an alcoholic mum and the school were aware but couldn’t do much about it.

She was often very lovely but a bit embarrassing for the kids, however sometimes she was awful and would try and pick fights.
She died a couple of years later and I know SS were involved but it didn’t seem to help because their dad would do most things for them.