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DH threatened to throw a spider in my face

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Cupofteaformeee · 24/09/2024 16:53

I am extremely phobic of spiders. 🕷️

I’ll try and keep this brief - DH is a STBEXH as I’m making plans to leave due to EA and VA. I’ve started writing everything he’s done or said to me and I’m seeking opinions on his behaviour.

Around a year ago we were both in the living room and a huge spider ran across the floor. I stood on the couch and shouted for DH to please please get rid of the spider. He’s not scared of them. He was gaming at the time and replied saying “Don’t tell me what to do” I begged him, please please get the spider and he shouted that if I scream at him one more time he would pick the spider up and throw it in my face. 😦

Opinions please?? His threat has stayed with me ever since.

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AgnesX · 24/09/2024 17:01

Diddys · 24/09/2024 16:56

No, thats par for the course. Its common in most peoples houses to catch the spider then wave it towards anyone who's afraid of spiders when on the way to taking it outside. It's just a joke.

Presumably you're being facetious - better known as a smart arse 🙄

MapleLeaf123 · 24/09/2024 17:01

Sorry what? You demanded someone to do something for you and then because you didn't like their answer and demanded it again (while screaming) when they said no and made a joke this was your response? Threats are serious, violent in nature and designed to hurt. While I do think your irrational fear of spiders is real, this isn't a 'threat' and you may need to re-centre yourself about what a threat truly is.

OhNoOhYesOhMy · 24/09/2024 17:00

MissyB1 · 24/09/2024 16:59

@Diddys Only if you are 10 years old.

OP just get out of the relationship and away from him.

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Maybe in immature people's houses.

MissyB1 · 24/09/2024 16:59

Diddys · 24/09/2024 16:56

No, thats par for the course. Its common in most peoples houses to catch the spider then wave it towards anyone who's afraid of spiders when on the way to taking it outside. It's just a joke.

@Diddys Only if you are 10 years old.

OP just get out of the relationship and away from him.

GalileoHumpkins · 24/09/2024 16:59

I'm scared of spiders and think this a shitty thing to do, however, it seems like a really petty thing to be focusing on.

Diddys · 24/09/2024 16:56

No, thats par for the course. Its common in most peoples houses to catch the spider then wave it towards anyone who's afraid of spiders when on the way to taking it outside. It's just a joke.