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Telegraph article - ‘We gave our son £325k to buy a flat – or he would have been stuck renting forever’

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floral2027 · 24/09/2024 16:05

https://archive.ph/JujMC#selection-4141.0-4152.0

It found that this year, 42pc of properties bought by people aged under 55 will have help from the <a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/o/JujMC/www.telegraph.co.uk/money/sons-13000-more-bank-mum-dad-daughters/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Bank of Mum and Dad,* *equal to 335,000 transactions. By 2026 that will reach £11.3bn.

'His recent clients include Rick and Linda Denton, who rearranged their finances to free up £325,000 to help their 29-year-old son onto the property ladder.
The couple, both 63, were keenly aware that without assistance he and his girlfriend, despite both having full-time professional jobs, would be stuck in expensive rental accommodation forever.

Rick Denton knew his son would be stuck renting forever without financial help
Their gift has enabled their son to buy a two-bedroom flat in Denmark Hill, south London. Their 30-year-old daughter, a lawyer, was given a similar amount to buy her flat in West Hampstead, north London, three years ago.
“We felt it was important to give them a good start in life,” says Rick, who has worked in financial services, and is now an investor, company director, and entrepreneur. “We wanted to make sure they got through university debt free, and could buy a reasonable property in London. We didn’t want them bowed with debt.”
But equally Rick and Linda, who runs her own public relations firm, didn’t want to give their kids a completely free ride. Their son <a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/o/JujMC/www.telegraph.co.uk/money/property/mortgages/lloyds-offfers-first-time-buyers-mortgage-5-times-salary/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">borrowed four times his annual salary to help pay for the rest of the property, with his girlfriend’s wages also factored in.
The couple, who live on Guernsey, were able to finance their contribution by dipping into their investment portfolio.'

Am I the only one who feels that if this continues, the young (who don't have Bank of Mum and Dad) might be totally demotivated (and that the rest of the UK would also become the inheritocracy that London is as there would be a ripple effect).

I did benefit from the inheritocracy too (parents paid my university fees/london rent for 3 years, DH and I had rent free living for 3 years at his mum's house in London), but definitely not to the tune of £325k. I am mystified as to why the son needed such a huge sum to buy a 2 bed flat (I also bought a 2 bed flat in my 20s) and the only other alternative to such a large sum would have been an existence in precarious private rental forever. They also paid his uni fees too so the parental subsidy from age 18 was much more than 325k. Apparently average gift to London FTB (cash gift) is 70k as of 2024.

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eggplant16 · 24/09/2024 16:13

WallaceinAnderland · 24/09/2024 16:12

It's their money, they can do what they like with it as long as it's legal. I don't see a problem with this.

Unless you are ( through no fault of your own) stuck working to pay rent. Stuck in a crap job after completing a degree.

No. its fine really.

WallaceinAnderland · 24/09/2024 16:12

It's their money, they can do what they like with it as long as it's legal. I don't see a problem with this.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 24/09/2024 16:11

Maybe it depends on where you are? I have five kids, three have bought places with a partner but without ANY help from me (I don't have that kind of money, and certainly not times 5!) Another one is thinking of buying and one is in accommodation that comes with the job so doesn't need to think about it yet. We live in the north, but even so I haven't got the kind of cash to splash to 'give' them money for deposits or to pay for their Uni fees, as a single parent.

So it can be done without Bank of Mum and/Or Dad.