What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

I've also learnt that as a SAHP for a few years I mustn't of had any self respect as I wasn't earning my own money.

@BirthdayRainbow there have been some lovely threads like this except sincere in the recent past, not sure how to find them though.

Despite the general sneeriness here I've learned many invaluable things on MN (no sarcasm)

The number of MNers who seem to live in perpetual terror that one day they might meet a germ.

I’ve learned some truly invaluable things about my awful lack of understanding of boundaries. I’ve had lots of great advice that’s led me to life changing therapy and a new approach to setting boundaries and that it’s ok to just stop relationships with selfish narcissistic parents. I couldn’t have become as mentally well as I now am without 4 years of Mumsnet scrolling! Thanks

Are you telling me you answer the door without a specific invitation for the knocker? 😮 Clearly there is no hope for you either 🤭🤣

I bleach all my toilets daily (who knew) and then scrub them twice a week when I clean the bathroom. Utter heathen here

Also happily take my neighbours parcels in AND drop it into them week they’re home. And they do the same for us

@Bellaboo01

It's the GERMS (from the children)

All of their shoes are caked in dogshit - other germs/contaminants are available!

Your shopping will be contaminated.

Conversely, your children will also be contaminated by the trolley which has sat outside being sprayed in rat piss.

I'm not criticising but, why does it irritate people if kids stand or sit in the trolley? I have adult kids so this isnt something i've ever come across but, it wouldn't slightly bother me if i saw parents doing their shopping and their kids were sat in the trolley!

Every wedding and funeral outfit I've ever worn apparently 🤣

@BirthdayRainbow , it seems a lighthearted thread. I've learnt a lot from MN.

I posted and now I am reading the thread. There's a lot of sneery posts about fellow members plus nonsense about things that don't happen. Begs the question, why are you here then?

Just how many people are living in truly abusive relatiionships and how hard it is to break that cycle.

To never ever be complacent enough to think it couldn't happen to you.

The value of having jour own job / independent income and the ability to support yourself and how worth it it would have been in hindsight is to just work through the slog of children and a full time job for many

Indeed - in fact, according to one thread from a while back, kids should actively be allowed to do that in McDonald's because 'it's a children's restaurant'...

Thinking I was in a good and loving marriage.

Thanks for the reminder @harriethoyle
Even if you are a neurosurgeon with an operation planned, and DSC's father is on a golf course, and DSC's mother is having a well-earned spa day, you should still take time off work so that DSC doesn't feel unloved.

Also, if DSC wants the biggest bedroom, but is only at yours 1 night midweek and EOW, their needs triumph over your or your DCs' needs.

If you are a step-parent, you must act as a parent to the SC, apart from making any major decision and any disciplining. If the DSC's parents are otherwise engaged, you should drop everything to step in to look after the DSC, even if it means unpaid leave or making your own DC less of a priority.

How people respond to you will sometimes be based on your username.

There's no need to read the OP or other post before posting. Just read a little bit of it. A few words should be enough to give you the gist.

If you reply to an OP asking for an opinion, a poster will accuse you of being silly, ridiculous or 'rediculous'. If you challenge them, they'll get personal.

I've discovered that it's OK to let your kids run riot in cafes and restaurants and to make as much noise and mess as they want!

I didn't realise that wearing 'outdoor clothes' to sit in my flat made me a dirty cow. But I also have a loo brush, don't wash my towels after breathing near them and think asking guests to take their shoes off is bad manners 🤷🏻‍♀️

I really don't know how you did not know all these facts before joining Mumsnet. I mean, they are all so obvious/1

Someone's probably already mentioned this one but I've learnt that if I didn't waste money on coffees and just took a flask out with me I'd be able to afford private school fees which cost more than a years wages. Otherwise your child is doomed to academic failure and heroin addiction. If your husband doesn't help out by working 80 hour weeks he's an inconsiderate narcissist and and you should LTB.

I agree. I haven't had a period for 15 years now, and I don't remember seeing any signs not to flush tampons.

But being blue-lighted to hospital does actually involve blue lights!

Not when I was having periods there weren't 😳

Aww crud thanks @TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks and @Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright …

How could I forget these!