What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

If your DP sneezes too loudly you should Divorce them immediately

I have sent flowers to people for birthdays ( who I know like flowers as a gift) but I find them a faff if I receive them ( although I'm always grateful and admire them for the thought behind it and take care of them)
However, there are different presents you can send along now via the internet like chocolates etc and made me realize that I should mix it up a bit more maybe?

Wait....what? How do I know if I'm doing it wrong?

I should have gone NC with my MiL when she voiced an opinion I disagreed with.

@CookieClutter - I actually think I've become much more trans supportive from reading MN. I used to think it wasn't a big deal and figured most people were just nice and sensible and wanted to co exist, but having read some of the posts on FWR I think I now feel a lot more sympathetic towards trans people and understand why so many are angry and defensive.

Eating biscuits when I should be surviving on air and self-righteousness.
Enjoying my child-free life when I should be miserable because I obviously don't know what real love is.
Saying hello to every dog I see when I should be disgusted that such a creature exists.

Not washing towels after every use.

Thinking that putting a dog poo bag in an outside bin about to be collected isn't an indication of the individual being scum and having a dirty house.

Weekends are only for My Little Family.

I have sent people flowers in the past - because I think it is a nice thing to do.
I like receiving flowers myself.

According to MN it is the equivalent of emptying a bag of rancid, rotting food onto someone's kitchen table.

The "life admin" involved is horrific and an unforgiveable insult to busy people.

You have to:

a) Open your door to the person delivering them.
b) Speak to that person.
c) Hunt for a vase or other suitable receptacle.
d) Fill said receptacle with water.
e) Arrange the flowers.
f) Watch them slowly die.
g) Endure the odious stink of the water.
h) Dispose of the rotting flowers.
i) Clean the vase/receptacle.
j) Use your valuable time to thank the person that sends them.
k) Lie awake worrying about the carbon footprint/landfill implications of said kind gesture.

Yes, you terrible, terrible intrusive person. How presumptuous of you! Don't you know that Weekends Are Sacred Family Time?

That I shouldn't ever leave the house or go anywhere other people are as being disabled and unable to control somethings offends peoples laws of etiquette and obviously made up comfort of normal/healthy people comes before disabled peoples right to exist.

Like how you should not interact with others or go indoors unless you can take your glasses off or how you are not ever allowed to say 'no' if you don't want to be physically touched by a strangers child because its rude or how if you have any imbalances that cause any form of BO you should never be allowed around others and so on and so on...

We should all just stay in our dungeons and die alone, better yet bring back asylums and freak shows so we are out of the way of the clearly ever so much more polite and well mannered mumsnetters.

@CookieClutter I don't think Mumsnet is mostly anti trans - it is concerned about males in female spaces and about the exposure of children and young people to surgery and drugs without thorough investigation and/or evidence based practices.

I know, and work with, trans identifying people some of whom I like very much and I still want single sex places. It is not too much to ask.

Oh, I do everything wrong. I can't drive or swim, and neither of these have noticeably hampered me. I generally answer the door if someone rings. I have no issue with unannounced visitors or phone calls unless I'm working from home, and it has never bothered me, visitors or no visitors, whether my house is tidy. Neither do I experience any guilt at employing a cleaner. I am an introvert, but have no problems making friends or dealing with rejection from potential friends, because I do not confuse introversion with being misanthropic or socially maladroit. I have close male friends, including one ex, and go out for dinner and on holiday or away for weekends with them. The school run has never struck me as an appalling social gauntlet. I have one child by choice and am not burdened with guilt that he won't have siblings to share our end of life care with. Neither am I guilty that I hated maternity leave and went back to work early. I regularly travel and go to the cinema/theatre/opera alone. My parents were dreadful parents, but I remain fond of them, and we have a good enough relationship. I'm quite fond of my PILs, despite the fact that they would have far preferred DH to marry his previous girlfriend. If a friend doesn't reply to a text message or cancels with short notice, I don't cut off contact with him/her. I don't find those 'things I don't know threads' funny, I often find them horrifying glimpses into how ignorant some adults are.

Having said that, I've also learned things from Mn, and had some excellent advice on pregnancy/labour/newborn stuff, and once a very kind and helpful group diagnosis at a distance of my toddler which let me keep him comfortable until I could get to a pharmacy.

Sad things I've learned via Mn include the prevalence of abusive and unequal relationships, often posted about by women who have no idea they're in an abusive or unequal relationship.

I've been thoughtlessly and rudely inviting friends to birthday parties and proposing weekends away with the kids. Now I know that they all secretly hate me for being a CF and wish I'd just leave them alone to scroll mumsnet all weekend.

I know the idea of them sitting full of poo in landfills for years is gross, but that’s the whole point of disposable nappies, I thought!

The poo is the least of the problems. The bacteria in the landfill will eat it in a few days. The plastic and other materials in the nappy will still be there for centuries. (But as far as I'm concerned, that's one area where we can afford a bit of modernity!)

I shouldn't be sharing my joys of trying to be a vegetarian and how much it has done me good, because I'm just trying to be smug and make meat eaters of Mumsnet feel comfortable and I'm just a weirdo hippy who doesn't know how to get nutrients in.

The other thing is I've been wrongly trusting my own parenting judgement over the judgements of professional people on the telephone who don't have a clue about my neurodiverse DD and her needs, but repeat verbatim from a book as advice and I must follow it because what do I know. If I question their judgement on my own personal situation, then I'm unhinged and need social services involved and have I thought about seeing a therapist for my arrogance and anger issues.

How do non-heathens clean their loos (in hard water areas), I’m asking for a friend…

Trolling

Haha I still do it. Be a good little buy and don't sit on the lettuce dahling.

I've learned it's not ok to have an opinion 😁

The 'needs done' thing made sense to me when the scottish presenter on Homes under the Hammer said it. It's a nice quirk.

That I am a filthy godless heathen for only washing my hair once a week, but also that I'm an environmental menace who wants to watch the planet burn because I refuse to share my husband's bath water.

Life admin, going alongside that other MN favourite 'wife work', I often wonder who takes care of other parts of family life, garden, car, DIY etc. or are we to lump these into 'wife work' too?

Agree 100% @CookieClutter. But lots to laugh about too.

Hah I realise that this thread has take quite a sarcastic turn. Not that there is anything wrong with that but actually I think I have genuinely learnt a lot from mumsnet and not just from the threads I started asking for advice. I have definitely learnt a lot from the relationship board and I suspect I hold men to higher standards now than i may have done previously. Also the anti trans stance of most of mumsnet has really made me think. It has also given me an insight into areas that are just not or haven't been so far part of my life and I think maybe that has made me more tolerant and less judgmental.

Honestly so many of the views you read on here are so extreme that they make me feel really normal. I don't constantly wash towels after each use but similarly I would never consider using the toilet flush to clean a mooncup so I feel really in the middle when I read some of the housekeeping and hygiene threads.