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What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

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harriethoyle · 24/09/2024 11:17

Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

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Crumpleton · 24/09/2024 15:33

That I should leave my DH as I broke one of my acrylic nails and he didn't immediately book a month off of work to console me.

helpfulperson · 24/09/2024 15:32

queenMab99 · 24/09/2024 14:58

Athough I have never learned from MN that I am doing anything wrong, I have learned that lots of other people do things differently and wrong !

Definitely agree with this.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 24/09/2024 15:32

harriethoyle · 24/09/2024 15:27

Well I agree with multiple wears pre wash BUT what do I do with the worn-so-not-clean-but-not-actually-dirty clothes in between? For some reason putting them back in the wardrobe feels wrong and DH is very tidy and loathes my chairdrobe... ( I know, I know, LTB etc)

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I use hangers and hang them on the back of my door with this:

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NoahsTortoise · 24/09/2024 15:30

That I'm not obsessed enough about how much protein is in a meal.

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harriethoyle · 24/09/2024 15:27

IMustDoMoreExercise · 24/09/2024 14:30

Well, I can't believe how many people say that they only wear clothes once and then put them in the wash.

How much loads must people be doing?

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Well I agree with multiple wears pre wash BUT what do I do with the worn-so-not-clean-but-not-actually-dirty clothes in between? For some reason putting them back in the wardrobe feels wrong and DH is very tidy and loathes my chairdrobe... ( I know, I know, LTB etc)

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TwigletsAndRadishes · 24/09/2024 15:27

I've been quite happily letting tradesmen who are working in my house use my loo for the last 30 years. I only recently learned from Mumsnet that the correct way to proceed when asked 'can I use your loo?' is to pull a disgusted face and say 'I'd really rather you didn't. Could you please try to schedule your shits before you arrive in future? This is my home after all.'

AnonymousBleep · 24/09/2024 15:25

It does make you wonder though - who ARE these people? I'm as middle class as they come but I still don't know anyone with the classic Mumsnet 'children at private school, only eats big salads, never puts on weight, has perfect children, dresses exclusively from Boden, tells everyone they don't like robustly to just fuck off, and has no debts and massive savings' persona in real life. Hmmm, now I write that down, it does make Mumsnet sound a bit like the women's arm of the Conservative party.

bringincrazyback · 24/09/2024 15:14

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 24/09/2024 11:23

I've been doing things when they need done, paying bills by direct debit and standing order, and making appointments when I need them. I didn't know that I was supposed to call it life admin, and make a big deal out of how time consuming and stressful it is

This is genuinely difficult for some people, for all sorts of reasons. No need for the snark just because you don't happen to find it difficult.

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 24/09/2024 15:10

PedantScorner · 24/09/2024 15:04

I do that, otherwise it just rinses the stuff away before it does anything.
It also means I only use about half the water.

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I do it too. Resources and money saved. It can be a bit chilly in the winter, but that's not the end of the world.

PedantScorner · 24/09/2024 15:04

CrushingOnRubies · 24/09/2024 13:47

I found out yesterday from Mumsnet that I should be turning the shower off between applying shampoo and rinsing it and the same with conditioner.

I'll just get really cold

I do that, otherwise it just rinses the stuff away before it does anything.
It also means I only use about half the water.

queenMab99 · 24/09/2024 14:58

Athough I have never learned from MN that I am doing anything wrong, I have learned that lots of other people do things differently and wrong !

CagneyAndLazy · 24/09/2024 14:57

PeppaSheep · 24/09/2024 14:17

Mumsnet has taught me that you can just find something that you like that someone else has written, and quote it writing simply “this” underneath. You therefore claim the wisdom as your own and don’t have to bother articulating anything yourself.

Well to be honest, quoting and adding "This" is more helpful than the posters who don't quote anything and instead just write, "I agree with @PeppaSheep " because then you have to go trawling the thread to find out what @PeppaSheep wrote 35 posts ago that they're agreeing with.

(I mean, obviously you could not bother scrolling back to see but that then makes the post saying they agree somewhat pointless, doesn't it? 🤔)

DBD1975 · 24/09/2024 14:56

Women should not like or enjoy sex and if they do they are shameless whores who are going to hell in a handcart!

HauntedbyMagpies · 24/09/2024 14:54

@TheGirlattheBack

What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!
Autumnalchick · 24/09/2024 14:53

thomasinacat · 24/09/2024 12:48

Handy with a saucepan are they?

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This tickled me! I have visions of a little chicken in an apron exasperatedly cooking for the family 😂

ChiffandBipper · 24/09/2024 14:53

I've been trying to navigate difficult interpersonal relationships and workplace politics.

According to mumsnet, if someone doesn't do what you want/questions you on anything you should just tell them to fuck off.

HauntedbyMagpies · 24/09/2024 14:52

@TheGirlattheBack 🤦‍♀️🤣

What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!
poppyzbrite4 · 24/09/2024 14:50

Here's something I learned recently. I should have been preparing for Christmas since January and buying loads of presents, getting into debt and doing loads of unnecessary work is compulsory. It's absolutely awful, akin to torture but there's simply nothing I can do about it.

HauntedbyMagpies · 24/09/2024 14:50

@TheGirlattheBack Yea it IS true! 🤣🤣🤣
I live 3 miles from a waste incinerator!

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TheDeepLemonHelper · 24/09/2024 14:49

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HaddyAbrams · 24/09/2024 14:47

I don't wash my underwear, cleaning cloths or towels separately. I just fill the machine with whatever needs washing and wash it. The machines job is to clean things so I assume that's what it does.

LightDrizzle · 24/09/2024 14:46

Just to add, @CrumpledBankNote, that if your own shit is sticking, you need to look at your diet and cut out the UFPs and rubbish you are obviously eating and poisoning your children with. I’ll see if I can dig out some of the 8 page 63 ingredients Ottolenghi recipes that are family favourites here for a quick lunch or supper.

CrumpledBankNote · 24/09/2024 14:45

@gotmyknickersinatwist

10/10 😂😂

thoonerismspread · 24/09/2024 14:43

CrumpledBankNote · 24/09/2024 11:26

That you're not supposed to have a toilet brush as only heathens have toilet brushes. Also, only worse heathens put bleach down the loo.

Don't get me wrong - I don't LIKE them, no matter how many different swanky looking concealed toilet brushes I buy.

But if I can't use a brush or bleach how the hell do I clean my loo?????

This is odd because I made a thread about an ex-housemate never cleaning the loo after themselves and my ass was handed to me on a plate for NOT having a loo brush!

HoppingPavlova · 24/09/2024 14:42

Not boil washing everything in the house that can possibly washed, every hour on the hour, or having eleven showers a day.

Despite getting several decades in in life and never getting sick from not doing such things, and also seeing thousands of people over the years, none of whom have become sick from such things*, it appears I’m a slattern walking towards a sure death by dirt.

*qualified to say I have seen people who have been affected by lack of hygiene but they have all been either homeless, severely mentally ill and not seen a shower for several months combined with other factors, or institutionalised/incapacitated such as patients from nursing homes with bedsores, infections from sitting in waste for prolonged periods without being cleaned etc. Definitely not the everyday categories that Mumsnet clutches pearls over.