What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

I wash my clothes on 20 or 30 degrees.
I don't use a tumble drier and often leave my clothes out on the line overnight.

Therefore all my clothes, sheets, towels etc stink and are hideously stained. My family are filthy fuckers not clean or fresh enough to be in polite society.

or something.

I'm supposed to wear makeup and dye my hair. And be a size 6 or something. And make a roast chicken last for 3 weeks. That my husband is obviously cheating on me because I don't have access to his phone. That there's something the matter with me because I have or don't have children, who may or may not but likely have some sort of special need which might include being declared a musical genius at the age of 2. That I can't/must go on holidays by myself or with friends but without my family. That I'm odd that I've been married for more than 3 decades and am reasonably (but not perfectly) happy. And that I must be a frigging miracle that I can support a household on a salary as low as mine.

I'm curious to know what your objection is to giving these tasks a name. Who does it hurt? A statement like 'There's no such thing as life admin' is subjective, btw; some people do choose to call it that, including me. I'm struggling to figure out why it irritates you.

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@OpalGoose , did you mean end a sentence with a preposition? I think you meant presumption not a prediction.

I mean its pretty common knowledge and has been for DECADES... the water company even post letters out to all the houses multiple times per year reminding people you can be fined for doing it round here as it blocks the pipes.

It also clearly states you can't flush nappies, pads, wet wipes, kitchen roll and other such items.

You must notice when your toilet blocks?

Everything and nothing. From what I've read so far, there are as many opinions that the ways I do things are the wrong ways as there are that I do them all the right ways. Someone will be along shortly to say I shouldn't have started my second sentence with a preposition 😂 And someone to say I shouldn't make assumptions 😂 Someone else will say language has evolved so not to worry about starting with a preposition, another will say it was a prediction, not an assumption.

Wait, what? There is?!

Surprised nobody has come on here yet to claim they never knew they shouldn’t flush tampons until MN told them, despite every public loo in the UK having a big sign telling them this

My elderly mother hasn't had periods in 40 years but had to wear panty liners after an operation a few months ago. She asked me if she could flush them and was surprised she couldn't but had obviously seen something about it as it registered enough for her to ask me to check.

It's a really bad idea - very nasty chemicals. I'm a bit surprised that EU laws still allow it as they've banned various other things.

ChristmasCookie123 · Today 12:58

PuppyMonkey · Today 12:30
Surprised nobody has come on here yet to claim they never knew they shouldn’t flush tampons until MN told them, despite every public loo in the UK having a big sign telling them this.
I didn't.
Because when I started using tampons in the early 90s it was on the leaflet that you could flush not only the tampon but the applicator too.
I didn't and don't use public toilets very often so missed the public service announcement on toilets.

I didn't either, and it was a lot longer than the 90's when I started using tampons - tampax to be precise and the applicator was a type of cardboard in these days - is it plastic nowadays ?

and to date I have not seen such a sign in a public toilet, tho I can't remember when I last used a public toilet.
I do know there is no such sign in the toilets where I work - a major supermarket, not in the staff toilets nor in the customers toilets.

The mascara thing....I have been wearing mascara on the bottom lashes for nearly 40 years and on me it looks way better than just on the tops! I don't look finished if I just do the tops. Obviously it can't be cakey and too thick, but I don't think there is anything wrong with nicely applied mascara on the bottoms and I look all wrong without it.

I have learnt that I eat and drink too much but that I don't wash enough (both laundry and myself). I have also learnt that saying 'no' either is or is not a complete sentence depending on which way the thread is going. In a similar vein I am either too hard or too soft on my kids. Finally, and most importantly I should give my head a wobble, put my big girl pants on and throw the bastard cocklodger back because I deserve so much better.

Also:
I throw balls back if the kids next door kick them over, and if they want, they are welcome to hop the fence and retrieve them themselves. I don't care how much shrieking or shouting they do in their garden.

I answer the door and take in neighbours' packages.

I like Hallowe'en.

That there are people out there who actually care about wearing black or white to a wedding or a brooch to a funeral. That most people (claim to) wash their bed linen a lot more than I do.

And apparently you shouldn't suggest anything from The Seamstress of Bloomsbury in S&B as this is "1950's cosplay" and therefore bad and wrong.

I agree about the mascara one. I've recently stopped wearing it on the bottom and will have to ask someone which is better

Ha! Yes a fair point. I've had some pretty crap wedding meals over the years. We didn't do a meal, speeches or anything like that, just had a big old party that people could rock up to whenever and help themselves to food as and when. If someone had been mortally offended by a lack of ham on the pizzas we probably wouldn't have enough in common to be mates anyway

@bringincrazyback It's not snark It's the truth. There's no such thing as life admin, it's just called life. We all have to do it and we all get stressed. Life admin is just a really wanky way of saying it.

I have ocd, I check emails multiple times, I sign in and out of apps multiple times before doing what I need to, I write down what I'm going to say on the phone when making appointments, I'm like that with almost everything. It takes me much longer to get anything done, but it's still not fucking life admin, it's just being an adult.

no is a complete sentence... unless you are the thread 'to hate the phrase 'no, thank you' where apparently saying 'no' to having your stuff touched by a strange child is:

utterly rude, sarcastic, passive aggressive, unnecessary, nasty, horrible, condescending, harsh, messed up, sad, bullying, 'mean girl', mental child cruelty full of venomous contempt that lacks compassion and means people shouldn't be allowed to leave the house or have children.

All those words said by just ONE poster about the phrase 'no, thank you' but some others batshittedly agreeing.

I thought the life admin issue was if both parents were working and had kids but one parent was leaving it all to the other.

Yes, I hang my bathrobe and towels in the ensuite, so have space behind the bedroom door.

That is gluttonous if you’re a woman. If you’re male a massive salad like that is mean to be wolfed down…

I don't like rainfall showers for this reason. Ours is wall mounted and I remove it from the wall to direct it at specific areas when required, or turn it away from me while soaping.

Reheating rice leads to a horrible death.

@mathanxiety if rice isn't cooled properly it can lead to a nasty stomach upset. I have had bacillus cereus food poisoning before and it was grim. I reheat rice that I have cooked, but I always cool it quickly after it has first been cooked.

Just thought of another one:
I am a competitive undereater because I don't do chips with lasagne. I do salad instead or maybe I don't provide stingy portions of lasagne

That drinking a few glasses of wine makes you a raging alcoholic and you need to seek help as soon as possible!

I am greedy. I pig out on a whole lettuce leaf at once. Once I had 2 slices of cucumber as well ..... and didn't feel stuffed.