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What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

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harriethoyle · 24/09/2024 11:17

Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

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MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 11/10/2024 17:34

sharpclawedkitten · 11/10/2024 17:31

Another one today - apparently "everyone" can hold in farts.

No they can't. You can try to let them out quietly but if the air is coming, it's coming. It's not controllable like a bowel movement (generally) is.

To be fair they should be controllable for most people most of the time. So no, not everybody can, but it's equally inaccurate to say they aren't controllable for everybody.

sharpclawedkitten · 11/10/2024 17:31

Another one today - apparently "everyone" can hold in farts.

No they can't. You can try to let them out quietly but if the air is coming, it's coming. It's not controllable like a bowel movement (generally) is.

JHound · 06/10/2024 17:00

C8H10N4O2 · 27/09/2024 12:12

Parents who work full time outside the home have someone else to do the childcare - they don't don't both childcare and work simultaneously.

Full time childcare is a job. The reminders about life admin (which is absolutely a thing when you are doing it for everyone, not just yourself) mostly arise on threads where the "SAHM" triggers and expectation for 24*7 work covering every job a household needs on top of childcare hours.

Any women who has the temerity to be a SAHM should be on her knees in gratitude to the mighty male who does a real job which earns £££ and therefore should do nothing in the home beyond collecting his pipe and slippers at the door. No expectation on him to provide scad loads of unpaid labour outside of office hours.

The SAHM bashing on here beggars belief at times. Ditto handmaiden threads where posters happily throw other women under the bus because they don't think they will ever need protections put in place for all women. The patriarchy is alive and well in 2024 and still has women competing with each other all too often when we should be supporting each other.

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Not true when the children are of school age. In the hours they are at school that is when much life admin can be done which is not something a working parent can do.

Both SAHPs and parents in paid work typically see the children spend similar numbers of hours out of the house. I was making the point that the comment that was mocking working parents for finding life admin exhausting was bonkers as typically working parents for that on top of a full time paid job. Of course it’s exhausting!

There was no SAHM bashing in my post. You just failed to read it properly.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 02/10/2024 15:56

PedantScorner · 30/09/2024 09:36

@30percent , I don't have particularly strong feelings about it, other than one is the standard way of saying it.

@RosesAndHellebores wasn't being supercilious, @Slidesclipsandbobbins .

That'd be a first.

HaddyAbrams · 02/10/2024 15:48

PedantScorner · 02/10/2024 15:28

Now Haddy, do you really think little Elizabeth-Margaret Truss-Thatcher Abrams will want to look after you in your old age? I'm off to spend your inheritance.

Grin
PedantScorner · 02/10/2024 15:28

Now Haddy, do you really think little Elizabeth-Margaret Truss-Thatcher Abrams will want to look after you in your old age? I'm off to spend your inheritance.

HaddyAbrams · 02/10/2024 15:20

PedantScorner · 02/10/2024 11:54

If your DD has a baby, you have no right whatsoever to comment negatively on the name, even if she decides that Donald John Trump III is a perfect name for her.

Mum is that you? Look, if you don't like your new granddaughter's name then that's a you problem. You don't have to visit, but I'm not caring for you in your old age.

Grin

Tryonemoretime · 02/10/2024 14:31

Mumsnet has taught me that people arguing over 'aitch' or 'haitch' can take up more space on a thread than anything else😬

sharpclawedkitten · 02/10/2024 14:21

Dialect is not an affectation

I agree, it's only an affectation if you put on an accent from an area you don't come from or don't live in.

People can be intolerant of different expressions (which can be nothing to do with regional difference, but eg derived from social media), but some accents just aren't very nice to listen to. And while we're all different, there's general agreement on the accents that are more aurally-appealing and those which aren't.

For me, many Irish and Scottish accents fall in the former category. I won't offend anyone by talking about accents I don't like!

Slidesclipsandbobbins · 02/10/2024 13:09

Yes, I am.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 02/10/2024 13:01

Slidesclipsandbobbins · 02/10/2024 12:54

Where are all these people hypercorrecting to say haitch in the belief it makes them more well-spoken?

Where I live it's just the normal, usual way of speaking.

Are you Irish?

RampantIvy · 02/10/2024 12:55

And aitch is where I live Grin

Slidesclipsandbobbins · 02/10/2024 12:54

Where are all these people hypercorrecting to say haitch in the belief it makes them more well-spoken?

Where I live it's just the normal, usual way of speaking.

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 12:53

TwigletsAndRadishes · 02/10/2024 12:42

Okay, I agree that affectation probably wasn't an appropriate choice of word. I should have said adaptation, or variation.

Although having looked at the definition of affectation (meaning someone speaking in a way that is pretentious and designed to impress) then I'd say anyone hypercorrecting to say 'haitch' in the belief that it makes them more well spoken than me with my 'aitch' is most definitely guilty of an affectation, even if innocently done!

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Wasn't aitch the original hypercorrection?

TwigletsAndRadishes · 02/10/2024 12:42

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 02/10/2024 11:26

Jesus Haitch Christ, a dialect is an 'affectation'? Is that really how some people think?

Slidesclipsandbobbins, great post.

Okay, I agree that affectation probably wasn't an appropriate choice of word. I should have said adaptation, or variation.

Although having looked at the definition of affectation (meaning someone speaking in a way that is pretentious and designed to impress) then I'd say anyone hypercorrecting to say 'haitch' in the belief that it makes them more well spoken than me with my 'aitch' is most definitely guilty of an affectation, even if innocently done!

Yelloworangetomato · 02/10/2024 12:23

CrumpledBankNote · 02/10/2024 11:58

@Yelloworangetomato batshittery or what?!

I should pay more attention to these threads, I suspect I'm doing all manner of things wrong

CrumpledBankNote · 02/10/2024 11:58

@Yelloworangetomato batshittery or what?!

PedantScorner · 02/10/2024 11:54

If your DD has a baby, you have no right whatsoever to comment negatively on the name, even if she decides that Donald John Trump III is a perfect name for her.

Yelloworangetomato · 02/10/2024 11:53

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 02/10/2024 11:39

Apparently you put on gloves and go in there with a wad of loo roll and scrub Confused

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Is that so 😶

SafetyPins · 02/10/2024 11:44

Tolerating

PedantScorner · 02/10/2024 11:44

You then go outside, burn the gloves and haz-mat suit and go into your immaculately clean bathroom (probably the en-suite that your DH isn't allowed to use) and scrub yourself raw with anti-bacterial shower gel.

SafetyPins · 02/10/2024 11:44

TOLERATINH CRAP BEHAVIOUR!

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 02/10/2024 11:39

Yelloworangetomato · 02/10/2024 11:35

Just started this thread and I'm short of time but WHAT?!

Did an answer emerge? What are we meant to do without brush or bleach?

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Apparently you put on gloves and go in there with a wad of loo roll and scrub Confused

Yelloworangetomato · 02/10/2024 11:35

CrumpledBankNote · 24/09/2024 11:26

That you're not supposed to have a toilet brush as only heathens have toilet brushes. Also, only worse heathens put bleach down the loo.

Don't get me wrong - I don't LIKE them, no matter how many different swanky looking concealed toilet brushes I buy.

But if I can't use a brush or bleach how the hell do I clean my loo?????

Just started this thread and I'm short of time but WHAT?!

Did an answer emerge? What are we meant to do without brush or bleach?

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 02/10/2024 11:34

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 11:32

Not their own dialect though, that's just correct. Grin Always the way. Probably the same people who claim they don't have accents.

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Or, at best, that they have a 'neutral' one (ain't nothing neutral about southern British English, as almost anyone outside the Home Counties can testify).

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