To be so distraught over child coldsore

DH and I get recurrent cold sores too and we've never kissed the children and never passed it on.

Having said that, how can it be a cold sore if you've been so careful? I suspect it's just a patch of red skin.

Get in to see the doctor and tell them what you've written up there. They may offer a swab for baby and support for you

My DS 10 has had cold sores for about 3 years. (I don't get them and neither does my other DS but DH does and so does my mum)
It's more an annoyance than anything but it's not the end of the world.

I definitely think you need to see your GP about the obsession with cleaning and that's so so sad you haven't even kissed your baby. Please seek help OP that can't be a nice way to live at all 🌺

I think you need treatment for your health anxiety. Never kissing your child is likely to have a greater negative impact than passing on a cold sore.
Also children so need to be exposed to some bacteria so they can build up immunity

It may not even be a cold sore, op. If he's snotty, it could just be a patch of irritated skin from having a runny nose, that has got a bit sore and cracked. This happens to my toddler whenever he has a cold. I just put vaseline on it. If however you have passed on the virus, it is very common, and completely beyond your control, so guilt is useless.

Your anxiety sounds quite debilitating. Have you seen anybody about it? It might be worth looking into, if you haven't already. It is such a shame for you to have to endure that, but also it'll be good to try to sort it now, while your baby is very young, to limit any chance of passing it onto your children in the future.

Are you sure it's a cold sore and not just raw skin from all the snot? It seems almost impossible you could have given him a cold sore with such extreme hygiene and never kissing him.

Are you getting any help for the anxiety from your GP? As it sounds a very difficult way to live

Most people have had cold sores in their lives...it is not that serious, what do you think is going to happen? You have it, goes away and every now and again comes back, has no effect in your live whatsover (genital can be more problematic)

I cannot belive you haven't kissed your baby, definitely better to have coldsores than a mum that never kisses you. I think you need to talk to your GP for tour anxiety.

My mum passed the virus on to me and I have lived with it for 60 odd years. It affects my eyes and lips. I use medication to limit the effects and carry on as normal. You know your health anxiety is the bigger problem here.