Having I fucked up the sex talk?

Na, you did the right thing. I tried to be frank with our DC, but must have been too vague. I still remember my eldest DD asking with wide eyed innocence ‘but how did the seed get in your tummy? Did you swallow it?’.

Still laughing about it 10 years later!

A man's "seed" is a bit of a creepy way to describe sperm. Very Wickerman or high cult religion. Reminds of the sort of language that you'd expect a puritanical slightly strange controlling parent to use ina horror film.
"and then his staff will enter her and spill his seed" type language.

I totally agree with being matter of fact with children and using correct biological language. Stops adults growing up all fearful and embarrassed about using correct language - men who talk about 'on the boob" instead of breast feeding types.

You’ve done the right thing! As a children’s social worker, children need to know the facts with the right language so that they understand how to keep themselves safe.aye direct your husband to www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/pants-underwear-rule/

You did a great job. It should be with the same tone and same level of detail as if you were describing how a steam engine works.

Oh this is funny! How 100% typical

‘should have been properly embarrassed like all the other mums’ 🤣🤣🤣

A poor girl in our infant/junior class {long before internet} knew some really strange stuff that we just couldn't fathom.

We just didn't believe her. {Not going to repeat here what she said over the years}

But years later, I realised that the poor girl was undoubtedly being horrendously abused in the worst possible way.

I just hope she got justice, as an adult- but I fear she may have been someone to get embroiled in abusive relationships. Still think of her and hope she is OK

I think if a child asks you the question you have to tell them the truth, in an age appropriate way - which is what you did OP. Well done! It really won't do them any harm. I think the 'special cuddle' thing is a) way too vague and b) easily misinterpreted by a child!

When I was about eight a 'big' girl around the corner to me told me and another girl that having a baby was caused by 'a man putting his oojamaflip into the same place only on a lady'. It sort of made sense to me because I seen a couple of little boys were different, when I was very small, and I actually tried to pee like a little boy and made a dreadful mess!

Anyway one afternoon I was at my aunt's house, her daughter and husband were there with his sister and her children, one of whom was little boy of my age. We were playing under the table. I gave him the information about how to have a baby and then asked if he would like to do it. He looked very scared and said, "No".

I knew nothing about sex, eg that it was 'nice', I thought it was just something technical that people did to have a baby.

Many years later, when I was a married woman and a mother, we were sat opposite each other at a family wedding. I remembered that - and hoped he didn't!

Op you explained things very well to your child. I wish I had been given such an explanation from my mother. She told me nothing which was not uncommon back then (I'm in my seventies). I explained things quite well to mine.

Why would they be up in arms for answering a question about the human body? A factual one?

I explained to DS when he was 4, and asked some questions, that he came from an egg in my tummy and came out of my "bits" and that's why I don't have a willy. He is nearly 6 so I expect he'll soon ask what exactly the dad's involvement is and I shall tell him!

I suspect the concept of you eating a seed and growing them in your tummy will have upset them considerably more. The poor things are probably worrying every time they eat something like strawberries that are covered in seeds, to say nothing of the mental picture they have of the baby jostling for space beside all the food that is also in your stomach. And they'll be a laughing stock in school if they repeat what you told them.

Dollshousedolly if her children share what they know in school, parents quite rightly will be up n arms, It is every parents right to share this information how they choose to themselves

All children that grow up on farms know this from a very young age and it doesn't do them any harm. I was flabbergasted when I moved from my small village primary school to one in a town and classmates had no idea 😂

It's just science, like telling them how many planets there are. Informed young adults make better decisions, and those with open honest relationships with their parents are less likely to be teen pregnancies.

When I was about that age my dm tried to explain to me and ended up getting so flustered for the next 2 years I was under the impression that once a month a woman had an egg (I thought like a chickens egg!) in her vagina and that she then had to have sex but I was very concerned about how you knew when that part was ‘over’ and was worried I’d have to one day as an adult plan activities like colouring in or reading to do whilst waiting for the sex to be over , then she added details about the doctor helping with the seed and I then wondered was our family GP my dad or was it my dad who lived with us. I also got stressed out and couldn’t do a poo for a few days as she had mentioned ‘pushing like when you do a poo’ so I honestly thought I may go for a poo and accidentally somehow a baby would come out instead.
I was then given an usbourne book too to read and got even more mixed up as it had male and female sex machine robot type illustrations and I was worried the penis actually had some kind of metal spring inside it ??!!!!!

Thank goodness for sex education in year 4!

I think you did great - and totally age appropriate for KS1.

For what it's worth - I gave a similar answer to mine.

Except they then promptly forgot it, so we've had "the chat" many many times. Over Christmas lunch with my parents was a real highlight 🤣

You told your children what blowjobs are ? Is this a joke ?

Good work, I would rather my child gets the facts from me then learn from their friends at school. My DD was told by a boy at school that women poo a baby out of their bottom and graciously corrected him 'no, the baby comes out of the woman's vagina'. He asked her what was that! Seriously you don't want your children learning from Oliver in 1R

I'm definitely using your answer when I get asked that question OP! It's far better than lying, and flustering through it.

Oh God, please no! According to his special protection officer, he has a load of teddies on his bed.

@oakleaffy

''daddy gets a seed and puts it with his penis into mummy's tummy''
A packet of garden centre seeds balanced on a floppy willy being put into a belly button {My imagination as a child}

😂

I think 6 is a bit young for that sorry

Mating dogs- commonly seen - ''He's trying to push his friend home, as she's tired''

@Razorrain Well I imagine by the time they are giving blowjobs they will have more knowledge on the entire subject.

It’s interesting that so many posters on here think you should be factual at 6 when schools do not teach sex education until year 5, which is obviously when they deem it age appropriate. I’m not going to berate OP because they are her children and I don’t think she’s harmed them, she just done what felt right for her. I don’t think it’s ’fucked up’ to not want to have that graphic a conversation with your 6 year old either though.

I actually don’t remember finding out about sex, clearly I did. So it’s probably not that deep either way.

''daddy gets a seed and puts it with his penis into mummy's tummy''

A packet of garden centre seeds balanced on a floppy willy being put into a belly button {My imagination as a child}