Having I fucked up the sex talk?

Yeah, I know that - it’s actually one of my biggest pet peeves when people screw it up. I’m responding to this “the Bible says Mary was raped by an angel” nonsense.

As someone whose birds and the bees talk from her mother was ‘mummy and daddy have a special cuddle’ which told me nothing and led to more embarrassment and curiosity when I was older. I’m very glad you gave your children the factual version OP!

Nothing to do with "the 80s".

Parents were giving decent sex education talks before the 80s and ridiculous sex education talks afterwards.

I think you said the right thing, when my daughter told my granddaughter the facts (I can’t remember now how old she was), my granddaughter thought it both funny and weird, so she said “I’m only going to do that twice like you mummy, each time I want a baby”. 😂

Much better to receive the explanation from a parent delivered in an age appropriate way, than the playground version! You did the right thing OP

I got "how does the Father's DNA get into egg?"

I always think special cuddle will confuse as you might get Grandma asking for a "special cuddle" in all innocence 😂.

It's best if kids do know these things. Especially after I witnessed stick insects having special cuddles at the zoo... It's good so they can know what a vagina and a penis are and understand about private parts and consent.

I think you did the right thing OP. As for 'special cuddle' - absolutely not

Much better using correct words and terms. See nspcc pants advice.

It is so important to keep it simple but true. When I got pregnant my step son was 7 and asked how it happened we asked him how he thought it happened and he said a boy and girl lay next to each other for a while. So his dad and explained in a very similar way to you. He was happy and pottered off to play. It is super important to use normal language. I will never forget a story about a little girl who said to her teacher he uncle licked her cookie. The teacher laughed it off that was until a few weeks later the little girl bumped her vagina and said ouch my cookie. It’s biology and perfectly normal to ensure our children understand and it helps they stay safe.

He didn’t see them during conception…?

I think as soon as they ask the question it's appropriate to tell them, factually.

My mum said absolutely nothing, including about periods (perhaps because she hadn't anticipated it so early), so when I started bleeding in school at 10 I was absolutely terrified.

Strangely I knew about sex way before then though (maybe I was about 7?) as one of my older pals had told me.

My niece also approached me with a very solemn look when she was 8, to tell me she 'knows about sex' - as though she'd discovered some terrible secret she'd heard about it in the playground and it'd been on her mind for weeks! I reckon if someone had told her earlier, it wouldn't have seemed so shameful

My dd was a child in the 80s. She had a biology book with a pop-up penis.

OP, I hope that whenever you want to initiate sex from now on, you offer your DH a 'special cuddle'.

You did better than me OP. My DS asked that question when we were driving round a big roundabout on our way into town. I just said 'the man puts it there' and waited for the next question, which didn’t come. But he obviously thought about it while we were shopping because at the same roundabout on our way home, he said, 'It would be funny if a man came up to you in the street and slipped one in without you knowing wouldn't it?'
Much better to be factual.

My 6 y/o asked hoe babies get out of the mums tummy

I said out of the vagina

Disgusting! Was the response and that was the end of that conversation

😂

Because it’s creepy sounding and he’s a creep?

Mary becoming pregnant as a virgin is the birth, not the immaculate conception. Mary herself being conceived without original sin is the immaculate conception.

Not saying I believe it but that’s how it goes.

Your husband needs to think this through. If you told them 'people have a special cuddle'.
I can see your DS and DD refusing to cuddle any of their relatives again and when asked why, saying 'Because that's how babies are made!!!'

The immaculate conception isn’t the same as the virgin birth btw.

Time to tell DH he wasn't left by the Stork.

😂80s? I had explicit picture books for this, including illustration of couple having intercourse (missionary position) for my children in the 80s. Possibly DH needs to move out of the 50s?

They are fine. Age appropriate and clear. They won't think much about it but it is the kernel upon which they will build future knowledge.

You don't have to lie but you don't always have to answer either. I think I would just say "I'll explain when you're older" at that age. I would explain more when they're around 9 or 10.

Did you blindfold him when you were making said baby??

I could've written this! DD, now 6, asked this very question a few months ago. I posted on here and was recommended 'Mummy Grew An Egg' so I bought that and read it to her. DH really unhappy that our 5 yr old knew what sex was. Cue lots of debates. Both our mothers agreed with me. DD occasionally wants to read the book again but also wasn't particularly bothered!

How did you create the baby?!?