Having I fucked up the sex talk?

I agree with this. My DD asked me every question around, how is a baby made - daddy puts a seed into mummy and the baby grows. This was very early on. Prepared my response for ‘how does the seed get inside mummy’, similar to what you said, but she never asked that bit! Around 8 I knew it would be coming up in school so told her that bit via a book and she was mortified by it all, which I didn’t expect. At 6 it’s really just more about biological facts and I think you did great. Stealing their innocence!

I don’t think lying to your kids outright about something factual like that is funny. It’s fucked up

@Razorrain oh god not tonight, it’s a Monday I’m tired. Go & be outraged some where else… please 🙏

I did Biology at third level and I'm handy enough at drawing a diagram. When my DD was growing up I answered any questions she had about reproduction factually but in an age appropriate way.
When she was 10 she came home from school very affronted and said I shouldn't have explained periods by drawing her little pictures. I should have just bought her a book and been properly embarrassed like all the other moms.

It's fine, I've told my 4 year old something very similar in response to his questions. I don't think I said the penis goes in the vagina, but I did explain all about eggs, and seeds coming out of the penis to meet the eggs, and babies growing in mummies' wombs and coming out of their vaginas. He knows about periods too as he's seen my sanitary stuff and asked what it was all for, so I told him.

DS wants to be a midwife now, "so I can help all the babies get out of their mummies' tummies, and help the mummies to give their babies milk" bless him.

FWIW I had a picture book in the 80s that talked about "special cuddles" but it also included the mechanics of sex - I'm sure it had a diagram of a penis. I definitely knew where babies come from by aged about 5, anyway.

They probably won't even remember the half of it!

I told mine in dribs and drabs. Was cuddling DC2 and gave her the spiel. Thinking I'd done a decent job, I waited to hear what she would say.

"Can you tell me all that again, I've forgotten?"!!!

And god no, no special cuddles. Euphemisms for stuff never work out well.

OP sounds like a perfectly appropriate conversation. DH is being a bit strange and may want to read up on the research around sex education. Also, remember there is no one 'sex talk' - keep the lines of communication open and there will likely be several more. We live outside the UK where these things are discussed far more openly and rates of teen pregnancy are far lower.

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I told mine daddy gave mummy the seed and I ate it and they grew in my tummy 😳 I was on the spot but it just sounds a bit weird tbh! 😂

I don’t think lying to your kids outright about something factual like that is funny. It’s fucked up

Other kids are school will tell them, and it's far less likely to be accurate or age appropriate than if you'd had the conversation yourself. All it takes is one child with unfiltered Internet access and suddenly your child can discribe scenes from an adult movie their friend watched. This happened to my Dnephew at 8 years old and it was much worse than just saying 'a penis goes into the vagina'. My nephew was asking around the playground because no adults in his home would tell him the truth

Many years ago my dad, a GP, had "the talk" with my little brother. All the relevant facts. Very scientific.

A long silence and my brother said in a faint voice "How embarrassing..."

I think it's fine. We gave DD1, then 4, a slightly less anatomical version, just about daddies' bodies making a seed, etc., but I think she'll ask again soon and we will say what you said. She already knows babies come out of vaginas (or are cut out of a mummy's tummy like with her and her sister).

We have the Mummy Laid an Egg book too and DD1 thinks it's hilarious.

We definitely think way more about this stuff than they do though. While we are stressed and sweating about saying the right thing, they just shrug and get on with their day.

I told mine daddy gave mummy the seed and I ate it and they grew in my tummy

This is bloody mental!!!

Findmebythesea1 i distinctly remember finding out how it worked in terms of penis/vagina at about age 9 from an age appropriate illustration in a children's encyclopaedia. At 6 i think they are still very much all about toilet humour and its a bit young for it.

Don’t do this - it makes it sound like it’s some dirty secret.

You gave a bit more detail than I'd have given at 6. I don't think they need to know the mechanics. I think i said the seed comes from the man, joins with the egg from the woman inside the uterus, grows there then comes out when ready to born.

He says I've stolen their innocence, and they'll never see the world the same way again

Why is he being so dramatic? Children take basically everything in their stride at that age. You could tell them the world will end tomorrow and they'll just ask for a snack.

I told mine daddy gave mummy the seed and I ate it and they grew in my tummy 😳 I was on the spot but it just sounds a bit weird tbh! 😂 But I couldn’t imagine telling my 7 & 5 year olds now that daddy put his penis in mummy’s vagina. From this thread clearly I am in the minority but I honestly think it might upset them.

You did fab OP. Your husband has no clue what children are up against now days.

My Dsis never talked to my DN (her son) about babies / reproductive system where as I have always been honest with my similarly aged child. My child came to me concerned about DN because he had been saying some really disturbing things about how babies were made which my child knew were not accurate. I got permission from my Dsis to talk to DN and let me tell you, the playground nonsense he had been told by other kids at school was by far more damaging to him than the age appropriate truth.

At the time, my child and DN were around 8yo. All it takes is one child at school with unfiltered internet access and suddenly a whole group of children have been told really messed up things. I was so glad my child already knew the truth and had the trust to talk to me because it was a much more difficult to undo the inaccuracies my DN had

Umm... Ill tell him before he's having sex age!

There's a big difference between telling a 4 & 6 year old, and telling a 10 year old.

I'd be bloody petrified to cuddle anyone ever again with that explanation!

I did exactly the same with my kids. Straight up and age appropriate.
They won't be confused by silly made up words. Well done. As for stealing their innocence 🙄

Yes - just imagine what they might think if granny asks them for a special cuddle? What a numpty.

Maybe just tell them they are not to talk about this in school lol, as not everyone tells their children so young

I'd have probably said something like "that's a discussion for when you're a bit older" and moved the conversation away

and that is why so many children don’t turn to their parents for questions to be answered and end up in shit scenarios.