AIBU to not want to call my daughter’s genitals her vagina?

How is vulva horrible for children to say? It’s literally what it’s called. My 4.5 year old calls it that, because that’s what it is! Can’t understand why I’d teach her anything else. She also knows I’m growing her sibling in my uterus/womb rather than my tummy - I’m a midwife, you wouldn’t believe the number of women who don’t know their own anatomy aged 30+.

My username is from fucking Home Alone, but alrighty

@ISpyNoPlumPie - my advice to you would be to chill out a little, stop worrying about this and maybe find something else to devote your thoughts to. I'm sure your children are saying the words you don't want them to say in the playground, and they will be just fine..

I hate this argument that if enough people use a word incorrectly it becomes correct. It eliminates perfectly good words for things, like "nonplussed", however in this case if you call an entire area of the body "vagina", you miss out on the nuance and knowing the names for all the constituent parts. And you'll never change the meaning of vagina, because it's an anatomical term and we need specific terms for each part of the body.

No. It would be like saying urine or faeces. My issue with using the wrong words are that it is juvenile and instill shame around normal bodies and normal bodily functions. I don’t lie to my kids, and I don’t want to perpetuate misogyny. Front bottom is puerile. You’re a grown up (I assume).

Girls have both, and sometimes it is vagina

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You think it's ridiculous to be very concerned or detailed about using accurate words?

OP seems to be adopting this faux naïveté that she's never heard of the wrong word being used has caused issues in SA abuse cases and asking for links, I'm not sure this is a genuine post.

Also, if you have an issue with the word willy or noony, whatever people call it that's not the "proper" words - why is that??

Sorry but both vagina and vulva are horrible for children to say.
If they say vulva they might as well be saying shit or piss in my opinion, it's the same kind of adult kind of feel.

We call it front bottom. If you don't call it vulva or vagina I think your child will be just fine!!

Why are you fixating on needing to read about disturbing SA cases? It's as if you're desperate to prove people wrong rather than just use appropriate terminology for your vulva/vaginally. GROW UP

Plenty of people say vulva. We sat vulva. You cannot really be pointing at a vagina, it is inside.

YABU. It is basic safeguarding.

The real terms gor our genitals are nothing to be ashamed of and I personally use them for myself. I began using them to make a point when a man started giggling at the word "vulva" and I decided to never stop.

"Pretty" names like foof are ridiculous.

I've always been brought up calling it privates. My dd 9 calls or her private parts. I think that's obvious to anyone else if she needs help. With my son who is now 11 I've always said willy. Both children know the official names.

As a child I just used to say my privates or private area.

When I was little the term was "gee" as in "Aww my gee" when you are riding a too tall bike with a crossbar or "I'll kick you in the gee if you say that again". It wasn't classy but you have to call it something. Nuts would have been the boy version.

It’s a parenting forum, and this is a legitimate parenting question.

Well this is one of the weirdest, and most questionable, threads I've seen in a long time

Brainstorming names for your very young daughters genitalia on an online forum, and inviting others to do the same.. Does nobody else see how fucking weird this is?

MNHQ what the hell are you allowing on your platform??

Seen quite a few things on here lately that made me wonder if incels wrongens and weirdos have infiltrated MN. This is definitely one of them.

Abusers typically invent innocuous terms to make it less likely that abuse is uncovered - knowing the correct name reducers the chance of that.

We’ve kind of ended up with peanut thanks to mispronunciation! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well done you. It's been really tough for me too but completely worth it as it was very much my own personal discomfort like you say.

We always used the proper biological terms. It's really hard to know what the child is talking about if they are using some 'cutsie' word if it's just a family thing. There are terms that people have used here and I find it confusing. So, just use the correct word, that way there is no ambiguity.

Yes, this.
And I suggest you start calling stuff its right names.
You are supposedly the adult.