Am I being sensitive, or is my dh a dick?

OP are you better than him at your sport than he was in his sport? You said he wasn’t as good as the pros but you’ve made podium. I was wondering wether he’s making you feel how he felt, rather than celebrating you because he didn’t have that.

Well done OP, it’s clear how much fun you had at the weekend and I think simply finding and participating in a sport that brings you joy is worth congratulating, regardless of how good you are. You are not being unreasonable. Your DH will clearly continue to piss in your cornflakes in this way so I would avoid giving him the opportunity. Simply stop talking to him about your sport and share your joy and happiness about your sport with people who want to celebrate it with you. If he makes his “jokes” just don’t respond. A deliberate, blank stare should suffice and then turn to your DD to continue the conversation or leave the room. Your DD will soon cotton on that you do not appreciate his “jokes” if she hasn’t already and will hopefully also not laugh or respond to them. You can’t control his jealousy but you can control how you respond to it.

Karma is a great thing.
I would give him the same reaction for his next achievement.

You sound amazing!
I am someone who loves fitness and runs and bikes and gyms but is noticing its dwindling as I am aging! I am so much slower!
My husband is pro fit and would only ever be incredibly positive and proud of me for doing as well as you did and for encouraging our darling children too.
I am so sorry that your husband said such unkind things.
I think I would sit down with him and have a proper conversation about his words and the impact they had on the people he is meant to love more than anyone or anything else, which is you and your daughter.
He might benfit from doing a bit reading or speaking with someone like a counsellor about his negative words and behaviour.

“well done, for someone who doesn’t even pump on a pump track” is definitely an insult I’ve heard before (I used to do biking) so it’s not even original! He definitely sounds jealous. And you sound like you smashed it! Well done

Where did I say everything had to include men? 🙄

I asked if it was possible that he was feeling left out because biking is his "thing" too.

I also said his behaviour was totally unacceptable if you actually read my posts.

He's an absolute dick.

He feels threatened by you, and he's trying to diminish you.

It's a very unattractive quality in a partner.

How enmeshed are you? Do you have children? Does he do this in other areas of your life together?

You did brilliantly. Don't let your dick of a DH degrade your achievements.

What did you say back to him? The correct response from you should have been "Don't be so bloody rude. You should be congratulating me not making sarcastic comments. You come across as rude and jealous and it's ridiculous".

He tries to take the wind out of your sails. Snap back.

How's the rest of your relationship?

Jealous and nasty.
Both ugly traits.
Stop sharing ANYTHING with him.
Start organising more things away.

Good men do not behave like this.
You are not sensitive.

You are unfortunately married to a nasty belittling tool.

You deserve better.
Give your future some thought.
Women who leave nasty, jealous, belittling men, NEVER regret it.

He should be happy for you. I think in a decent relationship you encourage and support each other to be the best you can.

Definitely no need for such comments. Like he's putting you down and there is no need for it. To say that's amazing is a normal reaction. What he said is a put down. What a dickish thing to say

@sunsetsandboardwalks
Seriously? Why does everything women do have to include men? If he's still tripping over that bottom lip he needs to grow up really quickly

Even very small children can understand sometimes it's not all about you

This is what I was trying to say - maybe he felt a bit left out.

Obviously he's an adult and shouldn't behave the way he did, but I do wonder if that's part of it. You say he likes cycling too but this seemed to totally exclude him.

On the surface, he's a dickhead who's happy to piss on your chips.

Only you know if this an ongoing problem or a one off where cycling has been dominating your time and he's getting a bit sick of it.

You say you spend a lot of time on your bike - being honest, is it too much? Are you using it as a way to get away from him or to get out of the house at weekends?

Next time he does it i would ask him how he wpuld feel of your DD grew up and married a man who said things like this that brought her down?

Watching how her father treats her mother is the #1 influence on what kind of partner a little girl grows up to choose.

Yeah this would annoy me too.
Does he ever celebrate your wins?

I hate "banter". It's just meanness given a pretence of acceptability.

He's definitely an unsupportive dickhead.

Good girl!

Similarly I say, "a joke is when the other person laughs" a lot. 'Banter' i.e. being horrible to someone with a smile on your face, has become ubiquitous. It's made us worse.

She did.

He begrudged your joy and wanted to deflate you, and he did. To me this says he is manipulative, self centred and cruel. He wants to feel superior. You know and sense this, if not maybe you would have laughed with him and taken it as the joke he is pretending it was. Context and history matter, you know/sense he is being a jerk, because he has done it many times before. You’ve just reached your limit or near to the limit and are finding it harder to brush over and overlook. I would be willing to bet that he shows his selfish cruelty, and is manipulative, in other ways too.

It’s possible that he is simply an idiot and that if you could get him to understand how his comments make you feel he would stop. But you’ve already told him and he seemed dismissive so that tells me he doesn’t understand and more importantly doesn’t care. Upsetting you is the feature not a bug.

Maybe it’s because he feels jealous and insecure, as well as left out. Maybe if you try to include him in a similar occasion that’s open to men too, and he feels more included he would be more supportive; but honestly I doubt it. So I do not think you’re being sensitive, a person who cares about you and likes you should be happy for you and celebrate your achievements.

My DD 15 read this with me earlier and her reaction was "it's only having a laugh if everyone is laughing otherwise it's being mean".

I think she nailed it.

I'm not the least bit sporty but it's obvious that you have had a fun weekend pushing yourself to do new and/or better things with a fun hobby and having a great time with your DD, into the bargain and there he goes, taking a great bit shit in the middle of your joy. Definitely dickhead, I'm afraid.

Don't question yourself. Work out what you want to do about it. That obviously will not be accepting his "just bants, innit" excuse.

I’m a firm believer that a life partner should be your cheerleader and you theirs. There are enough people trying to pull you down in life, the person who supposedly loves you should be on your side.

Congratulations! I think I would have either cried or had a massive go. That’s really horrible.