Am I being sensitive, or is my dh a dick?

I was going to suggest insecurities but I can see you've raised that yourself!

My husband can be a bit like that about my career as I can tell he feels a bit embarrassed and insecure that I've done better and earn a lot more. When I got made partner he was a bit sarcastic and snippy and when I pulled him up he said he was worried I'd leave him for someone "more successful". It's OK now but ugh, why do men have to feel threatened by women's successes.

Well done from me anyway! I have horrendous balance and am in awe of people who do biking as a hobby.

Your spouse / partner should be your biggest cheerleader. Regardless of your skill level.

he sounds like a total douche

He's being a total plum, and has small bicycle pump syndrome 😀

AND yes he’s a dick.

Strictly curtail praising him, giving any encouragement and completely withdraw reassurance. He will show his true colours when you remove all the positive well being work you give him for nothing.

Anyway def LTB

Pump on a what?

He's belittling you then making out you're in the wrong for taking it the wrong way. Massive red flags, for me (narcissistic traits).
How is the rest of your relationship?

Insecure manbaby can't handle your success. A secure partner would be happy and proud over your achievments.

I'd wrap the bike around his neck and pack his bags. Then stand back and ask him why he isn't laughing at something so fucking hilarious. Sounds like you're married to an egocentric, misogynistic prick OP.

He sounds like my ex husband.

He's jealous of your achievements.

You say he works away 3 weeks at a time - being honest is it better for your relationship when he's home or away?

Either very very stupid or a mean, jealous, spiteful dickhead

Only you know which it is.

Shouldn’t matter if he loves biking that much. He sounds like a negging unpleasant jealous and insecure prick.

This is shitty behaviour. Well done from me on your amazing achievements.
Like others have said, is this a trend? He sounds like an arse.
Also, my grandma used to say, "it's only a joke if everyone's laughing". You weren't laughing.

Seriously why would you be with someone who is this much of a mean minded asshole.

Did he say that in front of your DC?

Absolute prick.

The longhand version: Yes he is a dick, a mean thoughtless dick. He has no respect for you. He doesn't like you having a good time. He doesn't like you being happy. He doesn't like you having achievements. How dare you enjoy yourself.

The shorthand version: This man will not tolerate you being happy.

He sounds like every cyclist I've encountered tbh.

That’s a joke with a jag, OP.

In other words, he’s decided you need taking down a peg or three. He sounds like an insecure manchild.

His nose is out of joint because you've gone off and done something that's given you a buzz without him being at the centre of it. He thinks the more enthusiasm you give to this the less attention you'll give to him and he's being a petulant baby.

He’s not funny. He’s a dick.

Also, a lot of posters are suggesting treating him the same, next time he achieves something. NO WAY. Don't sink to that level! Better off alone than becoming anything like such a bitter fun-spoiling toddler man. Uggghhh. Show normality to your daughter, respect, love, please don't copy his crapness. Use the resentment to better your situation, by cutting t out of your life. It doesn't serve you well, neither does he.

I left my husband because of this exact thing (amongst others). I did something which was a genuinely HUGE achievement for me, and it benefited my kids massively too, and he was absolutely sour and rude and dismissive about it. Often using humour as well to pretend he wasn't just straight up being a dick 🙄

He also extended this to not listening to the kids or asking them about it. I'm disabled so it was an extra difficult thing to do as well, which made it even more hurtful than he couldn't stop his jealousy and actually be happy.

Getting rid of him was the best decision. I'm not some insecure young girl any more. I know my worth. I know I want my kids to see me feeling strong, for doing something challenging. Not expecting to be done down by his comments, he who should have been our cheerleader!

I forgot to say congratulations!! I'm in awe of people who can do stuff like this. And I'm glad you've found something you love that inspires you to push yourself.

Sounds like he's one of those types who enjoys making other people feel like crap. I had an ex like that. He would get in these moods where he'd just decide he wanted to make me cry... I guess he was in a grump and it made him feel better to punish me for a while. He didn't like me being happy or excited about anything other than him. Maybe he felt threatened, I don't know.

Anyway... he's my ex for a reason!

Ach, OP, I'm sorry your DH brought you down with a bump. What a nob. Congratulations on your impressive biking achievements. Sounds absolutely fantastic! I'm another stranger on the internet feeling proud of you for your tenacity in entering these events and showing a great example to your DD.

Have you ever asked him flatout: "Why do you belittle my achievements?"